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A while back I wrote a post about how I wanted to propose to my fiance so we would both officially have rings. She proposed to me last spring. Our anniversary is coming up. So after discussing rings with my her, (which I thought was only fair bc I had a choice in mine) she expressed how she finds rings super uncomfortable in general but would wear it to symbolize our love, etc. She just wants to get used to one.

She knows she will wear a wedding band eventually and thought something super light and comfort fit for an engagement ring would get her used to it. She won't wear diamonds or anything blingy (to my dismay bc I love bling and would love to get her some to match mine). Anyway, I got a titianium band as an engagement ring for her that just came. Her wedding band will be platinum but same style. The band is 5mm. That is my hand modeling it above.

I am trying to decide how to propose. She is not a girly girl and wouldn't get all gushy over a big deal proposal like I did. So I have to suit her style. For me, she  proposed at home, but was a big surprise. She was creative and wrote a scavenger hunt with clues around the house leading me to the ring.

Sooo . . .she has a ferret who she loves more than life, well, second only to me (I hope, lol). Although I am not a pet person and don't really share the same feelings, my acceptance of him is a big deal to her. I have a hard time with the smell of him, etc. But I know how dear pets are to people and so I thought . . Maybe I would tie a ribbon around him with the ring on it and set him out to scurry around the living room and that would surprise her. Curious what the bees think, and I love hearing your proposal stories. I know we are already engaged, I think this would be a nice touch on our one year anniversary :)

Sorry so long!!

That's perfect! I think it's even sweeter because even though the ferret isn't your thing, you're including him because she loves him!

Aww thanks bees! I am glad to hear people think using the ferret is a good idea. It's the thing that my gut says, but I still want it creative, since hers was so creative for me and took a lot of time to write the clues, etc.

I think it is adorable. Just be careful to tie the string where the ferret can't bite it - they'll eat anything! Or just send him out really quickly after tying it on, lol. Good luck!

@dcdt212:  Haha omg so true. For halloween we made him a spider costume out of felt and pipe cleaners, and we put it on, and he went crazy trying to get it off. It was over the top! But this is simpler and I will be very careful and have to be super quick. May be a challenge! lol

best of luck! i like the ferret idea, im with you im personally not a huge fan of them, but if she likes the ferret then i think she will adore your idea :)

That's such a cute idea! Good luck getting a ribbon to stay on a ferret though ;)

I got an idea on how to keep it safely on. The ferret has a sweater which he wears without trouble, and stays on securely and doesn't bother him. I will safety pin a ribbon with the ring onto the sweater and can maybe pin a note to it also. He won't notice then.

I don't have any advice, but I just wanted to say that I love the ring you chose.  I can't wait to see it on her hand!

@Cupcake2012:  Great idea about the sweater! The he on't even realize that there's a new "toy" on him haha. 

@LittleRiver:  Thanks!! Me too! She may wear it on her tight hand until the wedding and then the band on her left, since it looks like more of a wedding band than an engagement ring. 

cute idea, but I also wonder if he's wriggle out of it? (and I'm with you on ferrets- they stink and are so rodent-like. that must be hard for you!)

are you waiting for Feb 29, leap year? do you know about that old custom? doesn't totally apply for two women, but since she's the butchier one, it's kind of like it. 

@mtnhoney:  No, what is the tradition? I was going to do it Feb 11, our anniversary, but am curious on what the leap year thing is!

@Cupcake2012:  Do you have an update for us?!  Hint, hint.

I have been meaning to give an update . . . Everything went fine as far as me giving her the ring :) But, unfortunately the ring is too thick for her finger and uncomfortable. She has tried getting used to it but we decided we will probably go today to a local jeweler and try on different widths . So I don't want to post any pics until we have the right ring, which is hopefully soon! :)

Hehe, I think we have the same fiancee! (JK.) I also got my FI a tungsten or titanium (don't even remember which) band in comfort fit, 5 mm wide as her engagement ring. But she felt like it was too bulky between her fingers, so we ended up switching it out for a white gold "light" half-round band instead. Ironically comfort-fit ended up not being comfortable at all, go figure. She is very happy with the one she has now. 

@moonadea:  Ha, glad Im not the only one with this issue! I was pretty dissapointed and still am a little, but it's nothing that can't be solved. At least she loved how I gave it to her :) 

@Cupcake2012:  Aww, I'm sorry you're disappointed.  I also have a bling-free FI and she chose a 3 mm, low dome band for her wedding ring.  I love the look of 5 mm, but it is a lot of metal between the fingers, especially in a higher profile ring.  Once you get the ring sorted out, I would love to hear how you proposed, if you feel up to sharing!

@LittleRiver:  Yeah, we will definitely need a thinner, more low profile band. I thought I could order it online without her trying stuff on, since the ring I ordered was similar to my stand in ring and she seemed to like the stand in a lot, but she never really wore it for a period of time longer than a few seconds. However she really needs to try some on in person and test out a bunch, especially since she isn't used to rings at all. 

As far as giving her the ring, I did it just as planned. I pinned the ring to the ferret sweater and put it on him in the other room and let him skitter into her office where she was playing video games. She was very surprised :) He cooperated pretty well!  I didn't actually say "will you marry me?" though, haha. It felt weird to since her proposal was so elaborate and creative, and we have been engaged almost a year now.  However it felt as if it was my own way of sealing the deal with her, and she loved that I involved the ferret! Right before I sent him in, I gave her a little keychain with a groom on it, which is the matching one to a bride keychain she got me once (there is a little story behind them that makes the keychains special.) 

I will update once we find the right ring for her. We were supposed to go this past weekend but couldn't, so hopefully this upcoming one. Thanks again for all your support bees!!! :) 

Yesterday, we went to a local jeweler, and FI tried on several bands. The jeweler is going to call me back with price quotes on two of the bands she liked to be made palladium. Her favorite was a 3 mm hammered finish one. I am excited to get the process going to have that one made for her :) I am glad she chose something with a little detail instead of a fully plain band.  It is similar to this

Whoa, dont know why the pic is cut off and sorry so huge! Let's try this again.

Whoa, dont know why the pic is cut off and sorry so huge! Let's try this again.

@Cupcake2012:  Thanks for updating this thread, I was wondering what happened!  I love the hammered finish, and 3 mm is such a great width.  (My FI chose 3 mm, too.) And I'm glad your proposal went well :)