Post # 1
Here’s my original post: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/is-it-ok-to-go-somewhat-bridezilla
I just wanted to give an update. 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man found the dress she wants and my Maid/Matron of Honor is willing to try the one on and hope that it works because she doesn’t like the others and hates the material. However, the other Bridesmaid or Best Man still hasn’t gotten back to me. I only have 3 BM’s so I wanted them all to have different dresses, and 2 of the dresses I gave them to choose from (for the most part) have been picked. There’s only 2 dresses left and I don’t feel the one will look too figure flattering (she’s a larger woman – there’s nothing wrong with this, as I have plenty of cushion too)… but I don’t know how to nicely explain to her that there’s only one dress left to pick from. I mean, I originally wanted short dresses and she refused to wear a short dress because she’s “so fat” that they will not look good-her words not mine! so we changed to long dresses just for her, she blatently asked me to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man – not the other way around, and she hasn’t responded to any of my texts or FM messages about the wedding – she’s long distance so I can’t just go over her house. I’ve known her since birth so I don’t have a problem with her being a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I just wish she would respond to ANYTHING that deals with the wedding. So, how can I nicely word that this is the dress she will be wearing?
We’re 4 months out with prom season coming up, I can’t keep freaking out about Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses… I have plenty of other things to freak out about LOL
Post # 3
Oh, and these are the 2 dresses left:
This is the one that I do not think will look good on her (heck, I don’t think it would look good on me and I’m a little bit smaller than her): http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Chiffon-Dress-with-Floral-Detail-and-One-Shoulder-F14010_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-Long-Bridesmaid-Dresses
This is the one I want her to wear: http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Spaghetti-Strap-Chiffon-Dress-with-Beaded-Waist-F12495
I know I originally gave them pretty much free reign, but no one can decide on anything so I had to take charge in some way.
Post # 4
Bueller… Bueller… ?? Anyone?
Post # 5
I don’t think either of those are bad options, but I especially love the floral detail shoulder option one. I don’t know what shape your girls are, but the spaghetti strap one on me would not look good large top, large hips. Either option at this point is lovely.
At least with prom comming up dresses will get cheaper afterwards, (not that you want to wait until after may to find dresses, but it is always an option)
Post # 6
My response would be to leave a message that says if she doesn’t contact you by a certain date (very soon) then she’s out. I have heard of BMs not showing up to weddings without saying anything. IMO,if she doesn’t seem interested now then what’s to say she’ll be there for you?
Post # 7
I don’t know how big she is, but we wore a dress like the first one in a wedding, but it was tea length. It was flattering on all of us, including a girl who, I believe, ordered it in a size 20. It was a Bari jay dress tho, so the quality may be different.
Post # 8
I would tell her that those two are her options, so she still feels she has a choice, and assume she will pick the one that looks best on her body.
Post # 9
I actually think that the 1st dress would be easier to wear than the 2nd one (spaghetti straps can be tough to pull off!) — but that’s not the point of your question, I know. 🙂 If you really want your Bridesmaid or Best Man to wear the 2nd dress, then I’d just send her an email with a link to the dress saying that that’s the last dress remaining and you think it’d look great on her. I think BMs do expect to be told what to wear, so she shouldn’t mind too much.
Post # 10
If she won’t respond to your efforts to contact her, I really don’t see that she has grounds to complain.
I actually prefer the second dress. I think an empire waist is always more flattering for bigger girls. She can always bear a bolero after the ceremony if she doesn’t like the spaghetti straps.
I would phone her and document the phone call in an email if you have to leave a message. Just give her a deadline date to order the dress if she still wants to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. You don’t really have to say ” or else…”
Post # 11
just to let you know my niece picked diff styles for the moh but she ended up picking the second choice for the rest of the bridesmaids, they all hate the dress and they look horrible on, no shape whatsoever….so if you have to choose pick the one shoulder dress that looks much more flattering.
Post # 12
@julies1949: I was debating on giving them pashminas or some sort of wrap, so I’m glad you mentioned that.
@globalmargaret: I like the floral one sleve too, but I’m afraid how the detailing will accentuate her stomach instead of hiding it. I’d love to get the dresses cheaper for them, I’m just really afraid of getting them in time.
@Luayne: See, that would terrifty me! Our parents have known each other since before we were born, so I would hope that her whole family should show up. They are practically family. That’s why it’s upsetting that she won’t get back to me.
I’ll message her on facebook about it tonight and also call her about it in the morning. I hope she finally talks to me about this.
Post # 13
Give her a specific date to choose a dress, and stick to it. If she can’t get it together in that time, tell her she will not be able to be in the wedding. If she doesn’t like the 2 options, maybe she can wear the same one as the other BM??
Post # 14
@DulceR: Well I originally gave them a lot of freedom, I just told them a color and a length – that’s it. They didn’t have to pick the same dress, could have been all different dresses for all I cared. I didn’t want to pick a dress for them that wouldn’t look good on all of them, seeing as they all have very different body types. Except for this last Bridesmaid or Best Man, we’ve gone several times trying dresses on, and they couldn’t find one that they liked on their bodies. Now, we’re 4 1/2 months away and none of the BMs have a dress. I don’t want them to hate the dresses I pick, but if they can’t make the decision, I have to. I don’t want to be a bridezilla, but come on… we’ve been looking at dresses for a year now and it’s down to the wire now.