(Closed) UPDATE (need a little more help): Is it ok to go somewhat Bridezilla?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 5
1833 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t think either of those are bad options, but I especially love the floral detail shoulder option one. I don’t know what shape your girls are, but the spaghetti strap one on me would not look good large top, large hips. Either option at this point is lovely.

At least with prom comming up dresses will get cheaper afterwards, (not that you want to wait until after may to find dresses, but it is always an option)

Post # 6
1828 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

My response would be to leave a message that says if she doesn’t contact you by a certain date (very soon) then she’s out. I have heard of BMs not showing up to weddings without saying anything. IMO,if she doesn’t seem interested now then what’s to say she’ll be there for you?

Post # 7
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t know how big she is, but we wore a dress like the first one in a wedding, but it was tea length. It was flattering on all of us, including a girl who, I believe, ordered it in a size 20. It was a Bari jay dress tho, so the quality may be different.

Post # 8
1999 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would tell her that those two are her options, so she still feels she has a choice, and assume she will pick the one that looks best on her body.

Post # 9
4512 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I actually think that the 1st dress would be easier to wear than the 2nd one (spaghetti straps can be tough to pull off!) — but that’s not the point of your question, I know. 🙂 If you really want your Bridesmaid or Best Man to wear the 2nd dress, then I’d just send her an email with a link to the dress saying that that’s the last dress remaining and you think it’d look great on her. I think BMs do expect to be told what to wear, so she shouldn’t mind too much. 

Post # 10
46255 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If she won’t respond to your efforts to contact her, I really don’t see that she has grounds to complain.

I actually prefer the second dress. I think an empire waist is always more flattering for bigger girls. She can always bear a bolero after the ceremony if she doesn’t like the spaghetti straps.

I would phone her and document the phone call in an email if you have to leave a message. Just give her a deadline date to order the dress if she still wants to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. You don’t really have to say ” or else…”


Post # 11
7 posts

just to let you know my niece picked diff styles for the moh but she ended up picking the second choice for the rest of the bridesmaids, they all hate the dress and they look horrible on, no shape whatsoever….so if you have to choose pick the one shoulder dress that looks much more flattering.

Post # 13
1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Give her a specific date to choose a dress, and stick to it. If she can’t get it together in that time, tell her she will not be able to be in the wedding. If she doesn’t like the 2 options, maybe she can wear the same one as the other BM??

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