- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Some of you may have read my post yesterday about the bridesmaid who kept choosing dresses that weren’t purple, had distracting patterns, etc. Here’s the post if you’re interested:
So I spent all day at work being stressed about this bridesmaid and how I was going to get her to buy an appropriate dress and not give in to her. I got home, and FI tells me that our friend, K, who was supposed to officiate our wedding can’t even come to the wedding anymore. His parents live in India and are coming for a visit and because of visa issues and K’s own wedding this fall, the only good time for the parents to come is the week of our wedding. So then I jokingly suggested we get the difficult bridesmaid to officiate because then she doesn’t need to even wear a purple dress. We talked about it a LOT and then realized that actually, she’s the perfect choice to officiate because of the entire wedding party, she’s the only one who knows us both REALLY (and equally well). She’s known FI for 7 years and me for almost 5. She knew us each individually and has been around for our entire relationship. She even takes partial credit for us getting together.
I called her up and asked her if we could promote her to officiant and she was THRILLED. SO HONORED and EXCITED to do it. Then we chatted a bit and I told her she doesn’t need to wear a purple dress anymore and she was even more thrilled. I gave her guidelines though (no sequins, nothing that will clash horribly with the bridesmaids dresses, and nothing even closely resembling white even in a pattern). She already sent me some links last night to some dresses she’s liking for her new role and they were totally appropriate and perfect. So yay!
(Meanwhile, we’ve kind of been getting the impression that one of the groomsmen was thinking about dropping out because he just moved to Japan with his fiancee. FI talked to him last night after we shifted the bridesmaid to officiant and he said he’s not comfortable committing to being a groomsman anymore, although he says they’ll still come to the wedding. In a way, it’s okay since now we have a slightly smaller bridal party which was probably too big anyway, and I don’t need to choose another friend to be a bridesmaid).
Anyway, just wanted to update you all! Sorry this is so long! Thank you all SO MUCH for your suggestions, opinions, and support yesterday!