- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
After being a bit angry, I made it home. MIL really helped me out. DH and I had a discussion before we spoke to DD about the problems she is having. While DH and I were having these discussion she kept trying to come to our room and interrupt. She had a drawing for us both, then she had to give us hugs. I think for the first time, she realizes her dad is really really angry with her. Usually he is calm about it, but he was very upset.
DH doesnt think letting her visit a detention center would help her and I almost agree because she doesnt think telling a lie will get her sent there.
DH and I did agree that we are going to start making her write down all of her lies and give an explaination and then write what the consequence was. DH and I also agreed that when she tells us things we are going to ask her if she is being truthful, only if she is being truthful will we listen to her. DH and I agreed that she is getting a new therapist. I made appointments with a behavioral psychologist as well as a psychiatrist to meet with her. The appointment is on 23rd.
Last night DH and I sat her down and explained that she would be going to the appointments and we told her the things we had agreed too. We also agreed that we will reward her siblings each and every time she tells a lie. She didnt like that one.
She asked when she would get her things back, and DH told her when she understands that her lies hurt other people and that there are consequences, she looked at DH, and said
“I know the sub could have gone to jail, mom already told me, I have been feeling sorry for myself for 3 days now, isnt that enough?”
I was truly shocked that she said this. I very calmly replied that she needed to feel sorry for the substitute who is on leave until the investigation is complete, and not for herself. She didnt like that. She didnt say much, except the rest of the night she spent trying to suck up to us. I mean literally sucking up.
Oh mom your so pretty and smart, and Dad Im glad your home, and I made you a picture of our family and look you and I are dogs and mom and brother and sisters are bunnies.
We did the nightly tuck in and explained that though we were disappointed in her that we still loved her.
My son isnt speaking to her yet. She is trying really hard to make him communicate with her, but he has stayed in his room with the door shut and refuses to answer her knocks and when he comes out, he refuses to acknowledge her when she speaks to him.
He really is angry. She isnt phased by it, she told im eventually he would have to talk to her and then went to pick at her sister.
So thats where we are today.