Post # 1
Well ladies, it has been a year since I wrote this post:
I had written it about considering holding my daughter back in school to repeat 3rd grade. After I wrote that post we had had my daughter privately tested and found out that she has a memory problem that required extra repetition for her to learn a subject. So everyone involved- her parents and family, her private tutor, our family therapist- knew that holding her back would be the right decision. The school, while initially hesitant, was very supportive once we had made the decision.
And Bees- my daughter has blossomed! She has done so much better academically (went from D’s to A’s & B’s). She now can multiply and divide and do fractions- basic skills that the rest of math is built upon. How was she going to go on to 4th grade not knowing that? But also, almost as important- she is clearly now in the right peer group and fits in so much better with the children socially- now that she is with students her age and size. She has gained confidence and has been open to trying new things that she never wanted to do before- such as going out for soccer this year. We had no instances of bullying or teasing her for being held back- the school and teachers and even all the other students were awesome.
Everyone who is close with her agrees this was the best decision that we have ever made. And even the teachers who knew about the situation have stopped me in the halls of the school and told me that it was a smart move. I certainly don’t think that her struggles on her educational journey are necessarily over, but at this particular time it was the right thing to do. Also, By no means do I want to insinuate that this is the right move for every child who struggles in school- I just wanted to give all the supportive Bees an update.
Post # 3
so glad it worked out for her and she is doing well! My mom was held back in 1st grade due to missing so much school for being ill and it didn’t have a positive effect, unfortunately. It’s amazing what a difference a year can make for a child though! So glad she has come into her own and gained some self confidence! 🙂
Post # 4
@eeniebeans: So glad the decision worked out for you! That is so awesome:)
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Fantastic! Sometimes schools and parents are in such a hurry to pass kids on even when they’re not ready that we forget these are real children with strengths and weaknesses just like adults.
Post # 6
That’s so good to hear!! I’m glad your daughter benefitted from that. Well done!
Post # 7
Thats amazing! What a great support system.
Post # 8
Glad to hear this all worked out for her. She has wonderful parents and support system 🙂
Post # 9
That is so wonderful. Sometimes holding kids back a grade is just the absolute right decision, and this seems to be the case now. I’m glad she is doing better academically and socially!
Post # 10
My parents held me back and had me repeat 2nd grade. It was the best thing they could have done for me, because my results were the same as your daughter’s. Sometimes it just isn’t the best thing for the child to let them keep going forward when they are struggling too much. Congratulations on doing what was best for your daughter!!