Post # 1
So I wrote a post a couple of days ago that my FI didn’t want me to share our engagement on Facebook or tell anyone. Well following on from some messages on here that he might be seeing someone else I found some dodgy messages on his Facebook messages. He was talking to a young female and answering his messages with kissing. I confronted him about it.
He exploded at me at first, swearing at me for snooping and prying, saying the messages meant nothing. Then after hours of me crying and begging for the truth he caved in and admitted he had met up with her twice for drinks but that they hadn’t done anything but that he wanted to. He said after nine years with me he was enjoying the attention of someone else and that even though he knew it was wrong he couldn’t stop.
Then he said he proposed feeling guilty about it, but when I acted strangely afterwards it pushed him back towards her.
I gave him the ring back told him I couldn’t marry a liar and went to stay at my mother’s house. I changed my Facenook page to single. He’s been calling me ever since I left and texting me but I haven’t replied.
How do I move on for this hurt and betrayl? Was it my fault for wanting too much from him?? I feel numb.
Post # 2
He even admitted he didn’t want the engagement on facebook because he was hoping to tell her in person it was off before she found out he proposed
Post # 3
Ultimately, it’s not your fault because you “wanted too much”. It’s his fault because he is an emotional cheater. This relationship never sounded healthy.
Post # 4
Wow sounds like a nice guy…..
Post # 5
Wow. I’m so sorry that you are going through this *hugs*. However it sounds to me like you did the right thing and you dodged a major bullet. After only 9 years he was getting bored?? He is not marriage material.
Post # 6
I’m happy for you that you are not giving in to him. DO NOT GO BACK! you did nothing wrong! stand your ground. *hugs*
Post # 7
I’m short… Fuck that guy and good for you for being brave enough to demand and then face the truth and get the hell out of there. There’s a man with better character out there for you.
Post # 8
please dont blame yourself. Imagine your friend told this all to you in confidence, In what universe would you tell her its her fault? None.
I am VERY proud that you up and left when you did. It is hard to try and figure things out when they are in your face saying the sweetest things on earth and begging for your forgiveness. This just sounds all too familar for me (not the proposal) but when i found out my ex was cheating.
I knew he would suck me back in as he was very good at that. So i told people what he did to me. I knew i would be too embarrassed to go back to someone everyone knew cheated on me. It was the only way, otherwise i would have stayed in that disgusting cycle.
It hurt. It hurt alot. I cried. all. the. time. I would wait for my 15 min break at work so i could cry. I went from moments of hating him to missing him. There is no easy fix – it will take time. it will take good friends and it will take positive thoughts.
You deserve someone who would never put you through this and hurt you so badly. You deserve happiness, love and trust. YOU DESERVE your prince charming.
Post # 9
FutureAK: Just know that it has everything to do with him and nothing with you. His actions are a result of who he is, and clearly he isn’t ready.
Give yourself time to go through the emotions of anger, hurt, sadness. You did spend a lot of time on this relationship, so try not to force yourself to think of him. You’ll think of it a bit less as each day goes by.. It’ll get easier down the road. Way to go for taking the first step and cutting off communication/social media!
Hang in there! You deserve better.
Post # 10
Tell the OTHER woman IN PERSON he is engaged now? How sweet!!! NOT.
Move on from this cheater and dont look back
Post # 11
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It isn’t YOUR fault at all. He is an adult and makes his own decisions. I’m so sorry that this happened to you. But you 100% did the right thing. He is an idiot to do that to a woman who has shown him love and loyalty for almost a decade. I know it’s hard now but this is one of those things that you will grow to see as one of your greatest lessons from life. You will know what to look for when you’re ready to move on. And you will look back one day when you meet the man of your dreams who treats you like a princess and be grateful that life forced you to dodge this bullet. Be strong <3
Post # 12
You can do better, it’s as simple as that.
Post # 13
Yikes, so sorry to hear. You deserve so much more than this and a wonderful guy that would never treat you this way is out there for you. Kudos to you to calling off the engagement and demanding the truth from him.
It’s going to be tough for a while, but it will get better. Hang in there.
Post # 14
I am so sorry that you’re dealing with this. He is not the man for you, and it may not feel like it now but you have absolutely done the right thing. You are strong, and that will carry you through to the other side of this. Sending you virtual hugs…take care of yourself right now.
Post # 15
Looks like you dodged a bullet there. Any time you think about him or think you want him back, just remember that he proposed to you out of guilt and not out of genuine love.