- Jadore Glamour
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Hi, Bees –
On Thursday, I made a (completely hysterical) post about how I’d been receiving a few nasty emails, followed by a letter that threatened to stab my kitten with a butcher knife. I was terrified, and I was confused, because the IP address of the person harassing me was in Colorado, and I didn’t know anyone there. Ultimately, I deleted my post at the suggestion of another Bee (I believe it was HannahT?) who urged me to be careful of what I say online.
So many of you kept saying ‘Call the cops and let us know what happens, please!’ so I decided to give a little update, so those who had been worried could see what was being done to resolve the problem.
My FI came over right after I deleted, and we called the police station together. It’s a very long story, but we figured out that the person sending me threats WAS his ex girlfriend, who is in fact in Colorado for rehab. We’re not sure if she’s there for drugs or alcohol or some combination thereof; we’re also not sure if she’s actually IN the rehab center now, or if she’s been released. All we know is that she still has a residence in my state, about an hour and a half away from me, so we are taking legal action against her.
FI is horrified, and angry, at both this girl and himself. When they were together, she never had any sort of a substance abuse problem, but at the end of their relationship, she was becoming reckless and outrageous in her actions, which was one of the main reasons why he dumped her. He keeps blaming himself for ever dating her, which is so ridiculous; how could he have known that she would go off the deep end like this? Ugh, I hate seeing him feel so bad.
As many of you wise Bees suggested the other day, my privacy settings on Facebook were NOT all locked up! My wall comments are for friends only, but the ex girlfriend could see all of my photos. She found out where we were registered when I made an album that said alluded to as much, and showed pictures of FI and me goofing around the afternoon we went to Bloomys. And she got all of the photos of my kitten from another album as well. Facebook has changed their privacy settings SO MANY TIMES these past few months that at some point or another, I guess I slipped up and forgot to lock everything up again.
It seems clear that any info she was getting was directly from my Facebook, so I feel okay in posting this here, at least for the time being. There are many, many more details, but I just wanted to let all of you concerned that my FI, kitten, and I are all okay, and our families are involved now. We’re doing everything we can to keep this person far, far away, and even though I’m still shaken up, I feel better tonight than I did the last two evenings.
Anyway, thank you to everyone who expressed concern and tried to help me. I apologize for making a post and then deleting; I really was losing it, and I felt like I couldn’t turn to anyone else until my FI came home from work. I appreciate you all so very much, and once again, I thank you for your time and help!
Have a good night, Bees, and God bless. <3