- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Uhk…more drama tonight
Backstory: My father is putting in $10k for our wedding, he told me this when we first got engaged in May that he can’t wait to help with our special day and it means a lot to him to give us the gift..(in installments) this is going towards reception costs..(my mom is helping with misc things like lighting, invites, my dress) my dad obviously was unknowingly layed off in December but started a new job in January (with a pay cut) until he found his permanent job last month which he LOVES and has a pay raise. He had been promising to start giving me a few $$ but has been finalizing a divorce with my mom, such as retirement benefits and stuff from his December job.
Anyway, he plans on paying as soon as the first paychecks plan to come in, which should be any day now
So after dinner at the fiance’s…Future Mother-In-Law (who knows about the situation) asks me/us INFRONT OF Future Sister-In-Law (she was doing dishes) how much we have paid so far on our reception hall, and how much we have left.
I kindly said Oh I put down $1,000 in November (we booked our place back in August, AND have a long engagement FOR THE PURPOSE OF SAVING. we’re trying to save for both wedding and house)
She said “that’s it?” so the deposit and the November payment? I said um yeah I mean we have 13 months to pay little by little I told you right now we’re focused on getting x amount of dollars for our house, we have time…isn’t that what long engagements are for? I said all of that…and she said yeah thats true but you should put something!
She said even if your dad can’t pay right now, just take money from your house savings and pay it…I’m like yeah I could but I don’t want to touch that money at all, once we get to x dollars, which should be soon..we can start full force with wedding things. It’s not like we don’t have a sep savings account for wedding stuff, we do…and that is building, mainly for other vendors.
I just had to rant…I was so upset that she would bring that up infront of my Future Sister-In-Law who is doing well iwth her planning because both sides are good with money (although they plan to rent and aren’t saving for a house like we are)
It’s like a jab! To me it was, and then after we finished the convo and I start talking to my fiance about something else, Future Sister-In-Law starts taking to my Mother-In-Law at the table saying “oh guess what, we only have this much to pay left on this vendor, I have to make an appt to give $2k with this vendor” like right infront of us, but I pretended like I wasn’t listening and was still talking to my Fiance.
Am I over thinking? I took the fiance downstairs and told him how I felt, he said yes I know I know but they’re just trying to help they care about you (my mother and I are NOT close so he feels Mother-In-Law is making up for it by being motherly)