Post # 1
So, I’m completely fine living next to my ex. He’s dating my next door neighbor. We’ve been friends since we broke up a year ago (mostly because he wasn’t ready for marriage and we were at different places in our lives and he cheated on me to try to get me to break up with him). We can say hi, but don’t really talk to each other and life goes on. I’m so blissfully happy with my new family and I wish him all the happiness in the world. They’ve been together about 2 months and have lived together officially a month.
So today I found out via facebook that they got married. He gave me sooo much shit for getting married after 6 months, marrying someone older than me, and for being a stepmom. Now he’s married someone after less than two months with the same age difference as me and my husband and is a stepdad to two boys. I’m pretty sure he’s lost his damn mind, but if they’re happy than I’m happy for them. For someone who was so commitment phobic and refused to get married for another 3-5 years when we were together, he sure changed his mind about marriage! hahaha.
It’s kind of freaking a lot of my friends out though because it seems really rushed and is 2 and a half weeks after our wedding…after he moved in next door to me….I’m not sure is he’s still not over me and is trying to fill voids in his life, but that’s one theory people have come up with. Maybe he’s just found the one. Maybe they just have really good chemistry and it will fade. I don’t know, and I don’t really care. I hope they don’t get divorced and are really happy.
I just find it really weird haha. They also got married on his mom’s birthday, which I found odd as she wasn’t even invited. They both seemed like little kids caught with their hand in the cookie jar when I found out…neither of them congratulated me on my wedding. I went over and gave them both hugs and have told them how happy I am for them.
Oh life. Haha.
Post # 3
Good for them. Now everyone can move on with their lives. Congrats to all of you.
Post # 4
Don’t listen to your friends, they’re just being drama llamas. It seems like you have a good perspective on this though. Be happy for them and stay out of it. You’re happy with your new family and if your ex is making a mistake that’s his problem 🙂
Post # 6
@glittermoon: wow. That’s crazy. Explain that one
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
That is really weird. It’s great that you’re okay with it though, and hopefully all of their intentions are sound!
Post # 8
lol at least you can laugh at it. I would feel weird being so close to him, but at least he found someone. and who knows maybe he just knew she was the one. My mom always said, when you know, you know.
And maybe he isnt as warm to you because some people are just more uncomfortable being around their ex.
Post # 9
Yea I’m just not getting involved. I gave my congratulations and then left it be. Thankfully they left and are probably at a bar. I had my ranting about it to express my emotions to my mom and friends but now that the intial shock has worn off I feel fine. It’s weird and random, but hopefully he’ll be happy and can make a marriage work.
Post # 10
well, i’m glad you have a good attitude with all of this. there really is no reason to feel anything but happiness.
Post # 11
@MissFireFlower: I would if I could lol.
@Lalk2bee: He used to be a good friend until he started dating her officially, and now he’s super awkward around me, even though she and I are friends and have been before they started dating and it isn’t awkward to be around her. Regardless, being friends with my ex isn’t important to me so I’ve let the friendship more or less die.
Post # 12
My husband and I moved really fast because we both knew, so I know that’s a definite possibility. Even then, we waited until 6 months to get married and thought that we were moving fast. I don’t know if they have a reason to get married quickly, I know she’s not pregnant, or if they just felt like it. He’s not usually an impulsive person and it’s outside his personality, so I think that’s the part that’s weirdest for everyone. He might be trying to upstage me (which would explain why it’s so soon after my wedding) but maybe he just felt like it. Either way, I don’t care. I had my wedding and now I have my marriage and that’s all that matters to me. I genuinely hope he’s happy, because I have no reason to want anyone to be miserable.