- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
To refresh your memory, here is my old post: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/pregnant-emotional-need-advice-and-kind-words
To sum it all up, we took in my 2 year old niece. Other family members have her brother.
The update isn’t so good. Legally we are within weeks of them becoming legal citizens of the state. After that, we could go to court. Their father was recently diagnosed with PTSD. He called me one day upset because he could not give us money for the children and mentioned that during tax time we could claim them (since we’ve had them almost 6 months that is approved by the IRS). I told him I appreciated it and wanted it in writing as the IRS does have a form about that. I admit my husband and I have spent a lot of money on our niece ($2400 to move to a 2 bedroom apartment, our rent went up $200 a month, food went up, we had to buy her clothing because as you read in the last post she came to us with NOTHING) but we are more concerned with her having a good life. She is so smart and a fireball LOL.
Well I sent off the form to him along with an update Power of Attoerny, and now he decides that he wants the children back. He claims he is coming to get them in 2 weeks. He will not send us a new POA form to take the kids to the doctor even though I told him both kids were exposed to pnumonia at their daycare but he says since he is coming in 2 weeks we do not need the form.
I’m seething. It all has come down to money. Because he works a low-end job, he can get up to $6K from the government during tax time. He says he will “give us half”. I told him I don’t trust him to do that whatsoever. He claims he wants whats best for the children, but I asked him how would he be good father when he has been diagnosed with PTSD. He told me he was not ready for questioning and hung the phone up.
We are stuck in a legal quagmire. If he comes back before a court can make a decision, and that could take months, we would have the give the children back, knowing he is not mentally well right now.
I’m just so angry and frustrated. Part of me is like “take them” and let HIM deal with temper tantrums, potty accidents, robbing Peter to pay Paul to make ends meet. The other part is at a lost because legally there is nothing we can do. I’ve call the court and they have told me that as much.
I feel terrible for my attitude sometimes. I’m now 6 months preggo with our son so my emotions get the best of me. I love our niece dearly but it is still not easy dealing with a stubborn 2 year old at times. Financially we are still hurting but we are making it.
I just hate state law right now.