- 3 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
So I sent FI’s stepmom an email (as we were discussing other things like the rehearsal dinner and bridal shower, both of which she’s taking care of) with this:
“As far as inviting your sisters, unfortunately, we can’t. We wouldn’t be able to just invite the two of them, we would have to also invite their spouses and more children (etiquette reasons–it’s rude to separate couples), so that’s several more people that we hadn’t accounted for. We already had to cut several very close friends that Josh really wanted there to accommodate all of the [FI’s family] and just wanted to keep it to close friends and family.”
She replied back last night, with a huge guilt trip about how much her sisters love FI and how excited they are for the wedding and how she told them that they might not get invited, etc. Whatever. I remembered the other day that when FI and I were making the guest list, I specifically asked him about this and asked him to talk to his dad/SM. He told me that they both said that they understood and that was cool, etc. Obviously she’s forgotten about that.
I had said “close friends and family,” to which she responded that they are family. I guess I should have said “close friends and close to us family” instead. We didn’t freaking invite FFIL’s cousin we see once a year at Christmas, did we? No. Why would we, then, invite your sisters, whom we see about once a year and haven’t known FI nearly as long as cousin has?
She ended her email with, “no drama, this day is about you two, and I’m so excited!” Sigh.
Anyway. She had responded to two other emails that I’d sent her (I’d shared two Google Docs with her, so she’d responded to those emails, too), so I just responded to one of those to answer a question that she had about the rehearsal dinner and did not respond (and will not be responding) to the sisters things. FI said that he would take care of it after this, so hopefully it doesn’t get brought up again.
I’m sure she isn’t doing this on purpose, as she’s a little scatterbrained, but it’s still exasperating. I should not be dealing with this six weeks to the wedding.