Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
For those who missed it, here’s my original thread to catch up on-
Long story short- there was a ice storm, I made the logical decision to not come in to work where all the other employees in my group took the risk. Although our boss also did not come in, she sent an email to our whole group (me included) thanking those who came in despite the iced over roads, and invited all to go to lunch. I called to clarify, since i didnt come in, and she said that I was not invited & they’ll make sure to go when I can stay behind to watch the phones.
SO I spoke with my union rep today, who spoke with the union steward in my department, and they went to talk with my boss. They came to the conclusion that there would be a better way to reward those for coming without excluding me, and basically punishing me for choosing my personal safety over coming in to work.
Then i sat down with the 2 union guys, who told me i did the exact right thing by bringing it to their attention. They said they dont think she had the intentions of being vindictive or rubbing it in my face, but she NEVER takes anyone out to lunch and shes known for targeting her empolyees if shes not happy with them, so i feel pretty confident she had ulterior motives. They told me, that yes, morally what she did was wrong, but shes within her rights to take people to lunch, but I should not be punished for my decision to be safe.
Hopefully she thinks twice before doing something like this again. I doubt she’ll change, but I guess we’ll see. She fussed at another coworker for sitting in her chair 1 minute late this morning, where she was in the door on time. Just petty. Fingers crossed she makes her way out of here soon!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
bump in case anyone who cares missed it lol
Post # 4
I don’t really see what she did wrong (that warranted you going to the union rep), besides accidentally including you in the group email. And even then, It could be just so you know where everyone is one day when you are the only one watching the phones.
It didn’t send to me like she was singling you out, just that she was thanking everyone eSle, which is fine.. IMO?
Post # 5
I get why you would be upset, considering how she handled the situation and her overall attitude. But it was fair for the people that came in to be rewarded and for you not to be rewarded. Do we go to union reps now every time our feelings are hurt? It just seems like an overreaction. I’m also not sure how this will help your working relationship with her moving forward, but I guess it’s good that you got some kind of resolution.
Post # 6
@theEguarantee: She sounds really unprofessional. Yes, what she did isn’t against the rules, but it’s definitely cruel and petty. Especially since you work in a small team, AND she didn’t even come in herself.
Are the union reps going to speak to her?
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
@theEguarantee: Seems like she will be extra bitchy to you now.
Post # 8
@spezia: I agree that it probably won’t help their relationship going forward, but if the boss wanted to reward people, she should’ve brought in cupcakes or something. Rewarding some shouldn’t come at the cost of punishing others, especially when the ‘other’ didn’t do anything wrong.
Post # 9
@FortiesFlare: @spezia: +1
I don’t see what the boss did wrong either…
Post # 10
Believe me, I know what it’s like to work for someone who is totally irrational, cruel, and plays favorites. I just don’t think this situation is the hill that I would want to die on, so to speak. It sucks what she did, but I’m not sure that involving your union reps was the best way to play this one.
Post # 11
@theEguarantee: If i fought the icey roads to get to work, I would appreciate the gesture of a free lunch. I’d be nice to show that my efforts and dedication were appreciated. I would feel less appreciated if the lunch was extended out to everyone, even if they weren’t there.
I agree with your staying home – I would not have gone into work either.
However, in life, not everyone is a winner. Sometimes some people get rewarded while others don’t. Is this situation fair? Yes – those who came in get lunch, those who didnt, don’t.
I do not think it is a personal attack on you at all – I don’t really see why you are upset. You are not being “punished” at all. You are simply not getting rewarded for all of the effort that everyone else put in…because, you didn’t do what they did.
It seems petty to me that you brought in union guys.
Let the people get rewarded without being immature about it.
Post # 12
@theEguarantee: I think this was an overreaction on your part. Yes, you had every right to stay home but your boss had every right to reward those that made the effort to come in. And I really think it was an oversight, her including you in the email. Either way, there were better ways for you to address this without going to the union reps.
Post # 13
@MsGolightly: Ok, so why not go to HR? I’m pretty sure union representation doesn’t exist to sort out if rewards should be in lunch or cupcake form. Involving the union in situations like this only adds additional stress to the union/company relationship and isn’t doing anything to help the OPs relationship with her boss.
Post # 14
I also don’t see how getting union reps was necessary. If I had come into work that day, gotten an email saying I’d be taken to lunch as a reward, and then found out union reps took that away? I’d be pretty upset.
I agree with @cmbr: . While what your boss did was a bit unprofessional, I would not want to make that big of a deal out of this.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
Everyone who said her boss accidentally included her in the email didn’t read her original thread. Her boss purposely included her in the email and told her she purposely wanted her to know she was taking everyone else out. Her boss is a vindictive biatch.
Post # 16
I agree that your boss’s behaviour was out of line, but at the same time… would it really have hurt you to, you know, not go to lunch with everybody? I mean if she had tried to get you in trouble for not coming into work that would have been one thing, but… yeah.