[UPDATE]how would you take this email from your boss?

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 4
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1690 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t really see what she did wrong (that warranted you going to the union rep), besides accidentally including you in the group email. And even then, It could be just so you know where everyone is one day when you are the only one watching the phones. 

It didn’t send to me like she was singling you out, just that she was thanking everyone eSle, which is fine.. IMO? 

 

Post # 5
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536 posts
Busy bee

I get why you would be upset, considering how she handled the situation and her overall attitude. But it was fair for the people that came in to be rewarded and for you not to be rewarded. Do we go to union reps now every time our feelings are hurt? It just seems like an overreaction. I’m also not sure how this will help your working relationship with her moving forward, but I guess it’s good that you got some kind of resolution.

Post # 6
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1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@theEguarantee:  She sounds really unprofessional.  Yes, what she did isn’t against the rules, but it’s definitely cruel and petty.  Especially since you work in a small team, AND she didn’t even come in herself.

Are the union reps going to speak to her?

Post # 7
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2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

@theEguarantee:  Seems like she will be extra bitchy to you now.

Post # 8
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1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@spezia:  I agree that it probably won’t help their relationship going forward, but if the boss wanted to reward people, she should’ve brought in cupcakes or something.  Rewarding some shouldn’t come at the cost of punishing others, especially when the ‘other’ didn’t do anything wrong.

Post # 10
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3693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Believe me, I know what it’s like to work for someone who is totally irrational, cruel, and plays favorites. I just don’t think this situation is the hill that I would want to die on, so to speak. It sucks what she did, but I’m not sure that involving your union reps was the best way to play this one.

Post # 11
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291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@theEguarantee:  If i fought the icey roads to get to work, I would appreciate the gesture of a free lunch. I’d be nice to show that my efforts and dedication were appreciated. I would feel less appreciated if the lunch was extended out to everyone, even if they weren’t there.

I agree with your staying home – I would not have gone into work either.

However, in life, not everyone is a winner. Sometimes some people get rewarded while others don’t. Is this situation fair? Yes – those who came in get lunch, those who didnt, don’t.

I do not think it is a personal attack on you at all – I don’t really see why you are upset. You are not being “punished” at all. You are simply not getting rewarded for all of the effort that everyone else put in…because, you didn’t do what they did.

It seems petty to me that you brought in union guys. 

Let the people get rewarded without being immature about it.

Post # 12
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184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@theEguarantee:  I think this was an overreaction on your part. Yes, you had every right to stay home but your boss had every right to reward those that made the effort to come in. And I really think it was an oversight, her including you in the email. Either way, there were better ways for you to address this without going to the union reps. 

Post # 13
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536 posts
Busy bee

@MsGolightly:  Ok, so why not go to HR? I’m pretty sure union representation doesn’t exist to sort out if rewards should be in lunch or cupcake form. Involving the union in situations like this only adds additional stress to the union/company relationship and isn’t doing anything to help the OPs relationship with her boss.

Post # 14
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3777 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I also don’t see how getting union reps was necessary. If I had come into work that day, gotten an email saying I’d be taken to lunch as a reward, and then found out union reps took that away? I’d be pretty upset.

I agree with @cmbr: . While what your boss did was a bit unprofessional, I would not want to make that big of a deal out of this.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

@FortiesFlare:  

@Newly_MrsA:  

@Sea_Ashley:  

Everyone who said her boss accidentally included her in the email didn’t read her original thread. Her boss purposely included her in the email and told her she purposely wanted her to know she was taking everyone else out. Her boss is a vindictive biatch.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I agree that your boss’s behaviour was out of line, but at the same time… would it really have hurt you to, you know, not go to lunch with everybody? I mean if she had tried to get you in trouble for not coming into work that would have been one thing, but… yeah.

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