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    cam18    September 18, 2011   Athens, GA

    Hey bees!

    Some of you may remember my previous post from a couple months ago about my BF and I's discussions about why I need a ring. I was having trouble explaining to him the exact reason, and y'all gave me some very good suggestions and advice.

    I explained to him that any thoughtful ring would be fine and I would wear it happily for the rest of my life--he had been thinking previously that I needed something that cost X amount of money, and that it was the ring's cost that was important (which is why I think he kept buying me various other gifts for the same price of the ring we've picked out).

    Then I asked him the other night (two months after our above discussion) if he'd given any thought to when he would propose (or could just give me some sort of time frame so I didn't go crazy), and he said, "When you talk about it all the time, it makes me not want to propose at all. You have to stop talking about it. Please just hold off asking again until at least New Years." And so I promised that I would (and it's been HARD!! Let me tell ya...) I've been doing pretty good about it though. I don't ask point blank anymore, and I try not to bring up any wedding topics to make it seam like I want to talk about it so that he doesn't get annoyed.

    My birthday is coming up in approximately 4 weeks (I'm counting down mainly because it's one of my "mini deadlines" for not talking about it within his New Years deadline. I thought that would be an easier plan to stick to, lol! ;). Anyway, I sent him a couple links to some things the other day for birthday present ideas, and he kept getting really annoyed... I'm a HUGE Beatles fan, for example, and Rain, the really awesome Beatles cover band is coming into town right around my birthday and I REALLY wanted to go, so I brought it up maybe twice, but he got all huffy and didn't want to talk about it whenever I brought it up. Then a couple days later (after he'd had a couple of drinks one night ;), he said, "I would really like to take you to that concert, but I've already gotten your birthday present, so that money has already gone to something else and I can't afford to get you both."

    I immediately flipped a sh**!...(quietly to myself ;), because I know you are all thinking what I'm thinking!! I actually kept trying to think of places he would have hidden it, and then convinced myself not to look. lol! I really don't want to get too excited just in case it's not the ring, but I just can't help it--I'M REALLY EXITED!!! ...and going a bit CRAZY!!! lol! Help me not go crazy bees! :D

     
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    PinkBubbleGum    September 2011  

    Just try to stay calm ;) ...easier said than done...

    If I were you I'd try to convince myself that it's not a ring, but a different thoughtful present. If you build it up too much there might be a big let-down, and technically he could take till the end of the year! But that's what I would do, just so I don't get too upset.

    Just be a sweet girlfriend and I guess you'll have have to wait and see. I hope it's an engagement ring, so keep us posted!

     
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    MissBoston    June 2011  

    If he said specifically "New Year's" - convince yourself he'll propose on Christmas! I agree, try not to get your hopes up or you'll be disappointed if it doesn't happen.. just wait and see. :) Good luck!

     
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    Taylor4    September 15, 2012  

    Yes--I would also be trying to convince myself it wasn't a ring. Imagine it's a gorgeous pair of earrings. That way you can be happy if you get something else nice and you won't be upset if it's not the ring. 

     
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    LetsGoPens    October 13, 2012   Pittsburgh

    I agree with Previous Posters, try to convince yourself that it is something else. Last May I thought he was going to pop the question and he didn't, it broke my heart and I really don't want anyone to have to go through what I went through. Either way I hope you have a great Birthday!!

    Also I am a huge Beatles fan too!!! When they were named the #1 artist of all time on VH1 I freaked out, jumping up and down screaming hahaha! I haven't seen Rain before, but I have seen 1964 and that was amazing!!!

     

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