- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Apologies . . .
I’ll start with the apologies to get the boring stuff out of the way–though I labeled this blog nicely so you can skip ahead 😉 :
As I mentioned before I’m a full time student and work to–for the most part–put myself through school. So, my apologies to you and to myself for not writing. (Writing about the wedding helps me stay calm and share my excitement with people who actually are at least interested in wedding details). Anyway, my excuse is I’ve been busy. There I said it . . .
The complaining . . .
ALSO! With the wedding being generally so far away it is hard to not just look at the pictures, blogs, and stores to get great ideas, but actually make progress . . . My family and friends just keep telling me you have plenty of time. The way I feel is that the time line will catch up to us before we know it!
Has anyone else had this problem?
Progress . . .
Well with all that aside, I haven’t made much progress since my last post. HOWEVER! We have had pictures made. My fiance’s cousin used us as a promotional shoot. (Score) They’re absolutely stunning. Check them out here:Styled promotional shoot of fiance & me. They were done by Jennifer Woodbery at jwoodbery.com –The photo shoot was styled and coached by Ellen Blackburn (a local stylist). She recently started a blog. It is pretty awesome. In the future I’ll post the link to her blog! (Check the comments)
SO—What do you guys think? Which are your favorites?
We need to pick one to two for our save the dates. I’d love for you to leave a comment telling us which ones you’re drawn to!
Other than pictures we haven’t made any progress. It is the season of weddings though. I hear and see about local ones all the time. I have at least done my part by paying attention to the real details. By this I mean what vendors they used, prices, the personal touches and such.
I guess the next step is to decide on a DJ, get serious about picking a hair stylist, and get the fiance interested in picking vows (THIS IS DIFFICULT) that are just a tad bit more personal than the traditional ones. After all our wedding planning so far has proved to be traditional with some pretty tight twists. 🙂
Is there anything else I should be focusing on at this point? A few reminders: We’re getting married Sept. 8, 2012 & we have a lot of the big stuff pinned down already. (See 1st and only other blog post for details. It is long but has a lot of pictures!)
The Dilemma . . .
OH and my biggest dilemma at this point is WHO is going to walk me down the aisle. To avoid too much personal information here is the summary:
My parents divorced when I was 3 (If I remember correctly. If not 3 then 5) My father is my father. He is in my life, However he emotionally supports me. That is about it. It has been this way since I can remember. Always making promises that were never kept. My mom, on the other hand, is my rock. She raised me as a single mom. She has been the best. Always supported me morally, financially, and taught me to be the incredible, determined, independent, strong woman I see myself as today. My family realizes the position I am in so I’ve gotten mixed reviews and opinions about who should walk me down the aisle.
The poll . . .
The ultimate vote is My dad, My mom, or by myself. Make sure to respond to the poll!
Reasoning it out . . .
They say if I don’t pick my father I’ll regret it. However I feel like I would enjoy having my mom there beside me ALL day, and especially give me away. What position is my father in to give me away when he hasn’t had any real affiliation with me or my fiance. Don’t I owe it to my mom? And finally, the easy way out seems to walk by myself. I’m independent. Why not??
okay more like pouring my emotions out . . .
Bottom line is I lean toward my mom. It isn’t tradition. Gee I know that. But it my day, the most emotional day I’ll probably experience for a long time. My mom is my world! BUT, I’m afraid of regrets. My grandmother regrets not letting her drunk of a dad walk her down the aisle. She chose another family member out of fear he wouldn’t show up. Then he was there, on her big day, all dressed up and ready to give his little girl away. This isn’t your family story, but you can’t tell me you don’t feel the tiniest bit of pain reading that… I’m also afraid I’ll miss out on the take of that tradition and family moment if I chose to walk myself down the aisle.
Has anyone else dealt with a similar decision, know someone who has, know a story to make me feel better? Please share. It would really make my day and opinions (good, bad, or harsh–like a lot of the wedding bee brides are) are actually helpful.
Take the poll
We’ll catch up the next break I get from school, or late night I decide to write.
By the way I made it to 21 this month! Add that to my list of excuses. Ha ha.