Post # 1
I’m just curious, what is the norm. We got engaged yesterday and I definitely don’t want to update it to that until we’ve both had a chance to tell everyone who we want to tell in person or over the phone. But today my …fiance’s (still feels strange to say that!) mom was like ‘you didn’t update your facebook to be ‘engaged”, all accusing-like (jokingly.. I think?). Would it be weird not to update it for a few days? I just feel like kind of a slave to it, arg! I want to just enjoy our engagement somewhat privately for a while.
Post # 3
I updated it within the week. I had to make sure to call all the important people so no one important would be surprised on facebook!
Post # 4
For me it was about 4-5 days later. After we had told our parents, siblings, grandparents and close friends in person or by phone.
Post # 5
Definitely have to tell all important people first!
Post # 6
I think it depends on how much you use facebook. I hardly ever use it and I still updated mine within …. I think it was less than 2 weeks.
But if you’re one of those people who is constantly updating…like everyday updates about your life. I would think it was a bit strange if it took you more than a couple days.
Post # 7
It took me 4 days to call all of my aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins ect. (I was travelling cross country so I made my calls on meal breaks and most ended up being pretty long.) Fiance called his mom and let her tell everyone, and it took some convincing to make him do that because he told her he had the ring the day before and thought that was sufficient lol. We updated it after I finished calling people. The tough thing was waiting to call other people after was unable to reach my parents right away (they were at work).
Post # 8
The day we got engaged was during the early evening before the sun went down and got to soak up the moment for a while (it was mine and my grandma’s birthday…born on the same day!) and we had a “birthday” dinner right after where my Fiance sweetly got up (he loves to make speeches and he’s so darn good at it) and announced that he asked me to marry him and that I said yes! So the closest people to us knew before everyone. When I got home I decided to just post it cause’ I wanted the whole world to know how excited we were and we got so much positive responses and people wishing us well–so there was no harm in doing so! 🙂 It’s really a personal thing.
Post # 9
I called all the important people first and ensured that I reached them before changing my status.
Mom and brother.
Post # 10
I updated about a month after because I was waiting to tell my grandma.
Post # 11
I updated mine a few days after. I used Facebook a little more at that point and most everyone already knew by the time I changed my status.
Post # 12
I never did and never plan to. We do not have our relationship status posted on facebook. Those who know us already know! I did post a few pics of the ring and a status update to say that we were engaged and once we’re married I’ll be changing my name (and probably posting a wedding photo or two).
Post # 13
we enjoyed being engaged that night (though called our parents right afterward because I had to tell someone!) and the next morning we called the rest of the families and all of the friends. later that night we put it on facebook!
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
We wanted to wait a week or so – it was important for us to tell our close friends and family over the phone/in person, and we were getting ready to see everyone over the holidays. But then some of my siblings leaked the news on Facebook, so we rushed to call everyone and changed our statuses the next day.
Post # 15
We got engaged in the afternoon and I immediately called all the people that matter (on speaker of course) so I told my parents, my siblings, my best friends, as did he. So then late that night after we had gone out to a nice dinner and all that, we went ahead and did it. We wanted to do it at the same time so we were on the same page for it.
Post # 16
We got engaged on Feb 29th and we still have not updated it yet. I was only asked once and no one else seems to mind. Just do what works for you. make sure you can contact everyone and then update. We are waiting to contact one more person, and then we will switch it this week.