Post # 1
Hi bees! Desperately need some advice. My FI worked super hard to buy me a 1.5 carat solitaire on a pave band and it is beautiful… but… I’ve always wanted something a little more flashy, at least 2 or 2.5 carats. I feel terrible admitting this, but I was slightly disappointed with the ring, especially since girls around me seem to have such enormous rings! We’re young and financing most of our wedding ourselves so I understand that we’ll have to wait some time to upgrade to a bigger rock. Recently, Ive heard about diamond-like stones like moissy, which seem to be beautiful and I am not sure that people can even tell the difference. I am considering trading in my e-ring for a 2.5 carat moissy. Any thoughts/advice? Thank you in advance!
Post # 3
1.5 is already very big IMO! It is up to you, however. I would also be careful not to hurt your SO’s feelings, especially since you did say he worked hard to save up for it.
Post # 4
I would imagine the work he put into it was worth any size of stone, especially when it comes to real diamonds. I would feel like a selfish, greedy cow if I felt disappointed in something my SO worked so hard for to make me happy, and show me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, especially if it were already what many would consider “flashy” (1 carat +). Why not get a different, flashy, if fake, ring, instead of trying to change your engagement ring?
Post # 5
Oh my…I am scared to see where this thread may go.
I think 1.5 is a pretty big rock!
Have you talked to him about it? From what I have heard/seen from other bees with similar posts, this conversation usually doesn’t go over too well with their fiances. Yours could be different of course. If you really insist on a larger stone, I would tread carefully, especially since he worked so hard to get you a nice size real diamond.
Maybe one way to approach it would be to say you could use the money you would save getting a moissy could go toward your wedding, house, or something regarding your future together.
Post # 6
I say keep it, and treasure it. That is a pretty big rock. Mine isnt even a half. Then again, we dont know your ring size. maybe suggest for your first anniversary, or maybe 5th, or so on, that youd like to upgrade.
Post # 7
I think you should keep it. He worked very hard to get you that stone. And eventho it may be considered small in your circle, it was the best he could do. Maybe he could have gotten a 2ct stone with extremely poor quality but chose to get you something with more fire than size.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a moissy, a lot of bees have them. But don’t try to pass it off as a diamond. Embrace it for what it is, a separate stone entirely, not a diamond subsitute.
Perhaps, down the line you can get a larger stone for an anniversary or something.
Post # 8
I suppose that would be pretty big, my diamond is so tiny but i love my ring cause i know it was given with love. As girls suggested think about upgrading it later but don’t do it now, you’ll brake his heart. i’m not a flashy type girl so to me it realy doesn’t mater how big it is. I indeed told my husband that we could do it a bit bigger later when we’ll have enough money. I got instead a saphire ring as a present for my birthday and i really love it. Instead of diamonds around, has CZ stones and they’re quite flashy. i think you should keep your ring as it is.
Post # 9
Thank you for your thoughtful and kind replies, ladies! It’s so easy to get caught up in all the comparison and glamour of planning a wedding, but it’s good to remember the real reason behind it all!
Post # 10
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1.5 is a pretty big stone and wanting to trade it in so soon may really hurt his feelings. I think you should wait and upgrade on an aniversary.
Post # 11
I was slightly disappointed with the ring, especially since girls around me seem to have such enormous rings!
@msmeerkat: I’ve said this before and it seems applicable here: Comparison is the thief of joy.
Post # 12
@msmeerkat: I get the desire for a large rock and I don’t think it’s heartless or anything (until you actually say something and then yeah it would probably hurt his feelings). That said, this might help curve the desire for a 2 carat stone: http://www.thediamondbuyingguide.com/diamondpriceguide.html . Read the part where they say 10,000-15,000 is the lowest price range where you can reasonably expect to find some nice quality 2-carat stones. Even that sounds a little low to me for a good quality 2 carat, I was expecting it to be 15-20k if you want a really nice one. Diamond costs go up astronomically the bigger you get. There might only be a 1500 dollar difference between a .5 and a 1 carat, but there’s a 5000 difference between a 1.5 and a 2 carat and an even BIGGER difference if you want to get the same kind of quality. Think of all that money you could put towards the wedding you’re financing yourself. There will always be time for an upgrade later, when you can afford it and if your hubby agrees 🙂
Edited to add unless the girls in your circle are wealthy, if they’re sporting 2.5 or larger carat rocks, there’s a good chance they’re moissanite. And there’s nothing wrong with that. All I’m saying is you shouldn’t compare their huge rings to yours because you might not know the whole story.
Post # 13
Moissy vs diamond isnt’ the issue for me… you’ll never be able to sell the diamond he bought for even half or what he paid for it, so if you try to sell it now, it’s like flushing money down the toilet.
If you want to boost the size up a little, have it re-mounted in something like the Tacori Bloom halo. It gives a nice subtle boost in finger coverage.
Google “tacori bloom” to see more images. You can also find several versions of this ring made by other manufacturers.
Post # 14
I don’t think it’s a good idea. That’s a great and plenty big size. Get some sparkly bands to go with it. Just upgrade in a year or so…you don’t want to start things out with his feelings being hurt or him thinking you are ungrateful.
Post # 16
Though I think 1.5 is really big I know this changes from one person to the next so I say do what makes you happy.
I thought about going a cheaper route and getting a white sapphire instead of a diamond but when it came down to it we both wanted my ering to be a diamond. White sapphires are so beautiful though… just throwing that out there as an option if you decide to start looking for an alternative stone.