Upgrade my engagement ring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you ever want to upgrade your engagement ring?
    No, I am way too sentimental! : (39 votes)
    35 %
    Yes, it's just upgrading the ring, not the hubby! : (74 votes)
    65 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Lrroma181986:  I see the upgrade as just the stone, not the sentiment behind it. I don’t really ever seeing myself want to upgrade my ring because I really, truly, can’t imagine anything better. However, if I did want an upgrade, I hope I would.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    I would be torn! I am so sentimental it would be difficult for me to part with what FI proposed to me with but at the same time upgrading just a little someday might be nice. I certainly don’t think I would think about it anytime in the near future though…

    Post # 5
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    489 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I’m in the process of upgrading and I have no regrets at all!  You aren’t upgrading the man, just the ring :-)! It’s no different than moving or buying a new car (“but it was our first house together!”) <- same thing.  New ring, same marriage! 

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    We did the Zales thing for my first ring too. We upgraded to the celebration diamond. I have no regrets because he picked out my stone. I had no idea that he liked princess cuts better! We later ended up putting it in a simular style as my first ring but my new one is alot better quality!  No regrets!

    first ring (top) new ring (bottom)

     

    Post # 7
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I wouldn’t mind upgrading my center stone to a G color to match the rest of the stones…and while I’m at it, perhaps going up a bit in the carat department Wink

     

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @Lrroma181986:  so I just went through exactly what you’re going through. My ring was from Kay’s and my fiancé and I picked it out . It was the only one we saw and tried on, I loved it so he proposed with it a month later . WELL, months after that, I couldn’t stand how terrible the quality of the diamond was! And the ring itself. It was actually Making me sad because my diamond had so many inclusions in it I knew people would notice (Just FYI I NEVER saw these in the store When we picked it out!!)

     

     

     

    Anyway, we went to Kay’s to do the whole trade and I hated just “picking” a new ring. Not to mention, the quality of the diamonds weren’t any better. 

     

    We ended up going to a local jeweler who bought my ring for (almost) half of what we paid for it. Not great but my fiancé and I designed my NEW ring together and it was really awesome. I feel more of a “connection”(lol) to this ring!  Yes it cost more money than the trade would have , but I am much happier with my new ring! :))

     

    I say do your upgrade!! You should be happy with your ring! Trust me, an upgrade doesn’t mean you will lose any sentiment. 🙂

     

     

     

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Lrroma181986:  Is there anyway you could go custom in the future, and incorporate your original stones in the new ring but upgrade the center diamond?  If that’s too difficult, you could still do custom, but melt down the original gold in your ring and use it for your new ring– that’s what one of our jewelers recommended if I ever wanted to reset my ring.  That way you have part of your old ring incorporated with the new!

    Post # 10
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’d actually just keep the original e-ring and consider buying an upgrade elsewhere, like an online retailer.  Zales, and other brick and mortar are typically not the best bang for your buck.  What you pay for is the ability to see and hold the ring right then and there.  Even if you traded your ring for something twice the value there, I think you could spend much less elsewhere for that same thing and get to keep your original ring.

    Post # 11
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    252 posts
    Helper bee

    @Lrroma181986:  Is there any way you can keep the setting and just upgrade the stone? You could let him pick out the new stone, so you’re kind of getting the best of both, and recovering some of the things you felt you lost. To me though, the setting is what is sentimental to me. I’m all to aware that my prongs can come loose and I could lose my diamond, and while that would be horrible, I would be more devistated if I were to lose my actual ring.

    If you can go the “upgraded stone” route, try buying the stone outright (as the current stone will have little to no trade in value) and making your original stone in to the RHR or necklace. Perhaps even part of an heirloom set to pass on to future children.

    Personally I could never part with my original setting (and I plan on keeping it forever) due to sentimental reasons, but that’s just me.

    Post # 12
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    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I had my ring restyled into a three stone ring using my original solitaire as the center stone, diamond stud earrings as the side stones, and diamonds and rubies from an anniversary ring as the shoulder stones. Not an upgrade really, but a brand new ring incorporating the stones my husband has given me over the past 30 years. I love it for that reason alone!

    Post # 13
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    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @JessMorgan777:  i love your original ring. So classically pretty!

    Post # 14
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    Although I am still a waiting bee, I dont think that I could upgrade the setting of my ring, but I wouldn’t have an issue upgrading the diamond if I wanted something different! 

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I would NEVER upgrade my ring, not only is it my dream ring (I picked it myself) but it was the ring FI proposed with. It is not just another piece of jewellery to me, it means a hell of a lot more than that, and I would never change it.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    I am in the process of upgrading too, and I am emotionally attached to my original. So I will keep it.  I think I will take it apart and make earrings in the future.  But the thought of selling or getting rid of the actual stones is too sad for me.

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