Post # 1
When we got engaged, we knew we wanted to be cost conscious. I pretty much picked out my own ring; I think I was more worried about the cost than he was. I didn’t want him to spend a fortune on me. But I have a few regrets. I regret not letting him pick my ring, because I think I would have loved it no matter what since he got it for me. Once, when we went looking, he pointed out a platinum solitaire with baguette side diamonds. It was quite a bit more expensive than what we ended up getting, but the cost didn’t matter much to him; he just wanted me to have something beautiful. And although it wasn’t my style, the more I think about it the more I think I would have loved it because it came from him. I also regret the size and quality of my current diamond. My center is 1/3 carat and has some inclusions that bug the heck out of me.
My fiance wants to upgrade my ring in the future, as Zales will credit the original purchase price towards a future trade as long as the upgrade is twice the value of the original. This would be great for the regrets I am having, but then at the same time I feel some sentimental value for the ring he proposed to me with, despite the fact that it irks me at the same time. What if I let him pick my upgrade though? Would that make it more sentimental? Have any of you bees upgraded your ring and diamond (and didn’t keep the original stone or setting)? Do you have regrets?
Post # 3
@Lrroma181986: I see the upgrade as just the stone, not the sentiment behind it. I don’t really ever seeing myself want to upgrade my ring because I really, truly, can’t imagine anything better. However, if I did want an upgrade, I hope I would.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I would be torn! I am so sentimental it would be difficult for me to part with what FI proposed to me with but at the same time upgrading just a little someday might be nice. I certainly don’t think I would think about it anytime in the near future though…
Post # 5
I’m in the process of upgrading and I have no regrets at all! You aren’t upgrading the man, just the ring :-)! It’s no different than moving or buying a new car (“but it was our first house together!”) <- same thing. New ring, same marriage!
Post # 6
We did the Zales thing for my first ring too. We upgraded to the celebration diamond. I have no regrets because he picked out my stone. I had no idea that he liked princess cuts better! We later ended up putting it in a simular style as my first ring but my new one is alot better quality! No regrets!
first ring (top) new ring (bottom)
Post # 7
I wouldn’t mind upgrading my center stone to a G color to match the rest of the stones…and while I’m at it, perhaps going up a bit in the carat department
Post # 8
@Lrroma181986: so I just went through exactly what you’re going through. My ring was from Kay’s and my fiancé and I picked it out . It was the only one we saw and tried on, I loved it so he proposed with it a month later . WELL, months after that, I couldn’t stand how terrible the quality of the diamond was! And the ring itself. It was actually Making me sad because my diamond had so many inclusions in it I knew people would notice (Just FYI I NEVER saw these in the store When we picked it out!!)
Anyway, we went to Kay’s to do the whole trade and I hated just “picking” a new ring. Not to mention, the quality of the diamonds weren’t any better.
We ended up going to a local jeweler who bought my ring for (almost) half of what we paid for it. Not great but my fiancé and I designed my NEW ring together and it was really awesome. I feel more of a “connection”(lol) to this ring! Yes it cost more money than the trade would have , but I am much happier with my new ring! :))
I say do your upgrade!! You should be happy with your ring! Trust me, an upgrade doesn’t mean you will lose any sentiment. 🙂
Post # 9
@Lrroma181986: Is there anyway you could go custom in the future, and incorporate your original stones in the new ring but upgrade the center diamond? If that’s too difficult, you could still do custom, but melt down the original gold in your ring and use it for your new ring– that’s what one of our jewelers recommended if I ever wanted to reset my ring. That way you have part of your old ring incorporated with the new!
Post # 10
I’d actually just keep the original e-ring and consider buying an upgrade elsewhere, like an online retailer. Zales, and other brick and mortar are typically not the best bang for your buck. What you pay for is the ability to see and hold the ring right then and there. Even if you traded your ring for something twice the value there, I think you could spend much less elsewhere for that same thing and get to keep your original ring.
Post # 11
@Lrroma181986: Is there any way you can keep the setting and just upgrade the stone? You could let him pick out the new stone, so you’re kind of getting the best of both, and recovering some of the things you felt you lost. To me though, the setting is what is sentimental to me. I’m all to aware that my prongs can come loose and I could lose my diamond, and while that would be horrible, I would be more devistated if I were to lose my actual ring.
If you can go the “upgraded stone” route, try buying the stone outright (as the current stone will have little to no trade in value) and making your original stone in to the RHR or necklace. Perhaps even part of an heirloom set to pass on to future children.
Personally I could never part with my original setting (and I plan on keeping it forever) due to sentimental reasons, but that’s just me.
Post # 12
I had my ring restyled into a three stone ring using my original solitaire as the center stone, diamond stud earrings as the side stones, and diamonds and rubies from an anniversary ring as the shoulder stones. Not an upgrade really, but a brand new ring incorporating the stones my husband has given me over the past 30 years. I love it for that reason alone!
Post # 13
@JessMorgan777: i love your original ring. So classically pretty!
Post # 14
Although I am still a waiting bee, I dont think that I could upgrade the setting of my ring, but I wouldn’t have an issue upgrading the diamond if I wanted something different!
Post # 15
I would NEVER upgrade my ring, not only is it my dream ring (I picked it myself) but it was the ring FI proposed with. It is not just another piece of jewellery to me, it means a hell of a lot more than that, and I would never change it.
Post # 16
I am in the process of upgrading too, and I am emotionally attached to my original. So I will keep it. I think I will take it apart and make earrings in the future. But the thought of selling or getting rid of the actual stones is too sad for me.