Upgrading – Do you keep your original ring or did you sell it/ trade in?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

A jeweler or consignment store will never give you what Blue Nile is selling it for retail, b/c they have to mark it up to make a profit. Shopkeepers and small businesse can’t afford to pay you the retail asking price for an item, b/c they’d never be able to mark it up as high as they need to, and get a buyer for it. It’s not that they are trying to be stingy or cheap. You have to remember that they can buy at wholesale prices and there is no advantage to buying your stone for them. To get the most money for it, I would have it appraised and sell it privately through Ebay or Etsy. Take into consideration the fees for selling online and build it into your asking price. 

The alternative is to sell it to a jeweler that you plan to purchase from, chances are they will give more for it if you plan to go ahead and buy from them at the same time. I always get more when I trade in gold at my local jeweler if I am trading it in while making a purchase (using the trade in to pay towards a new item). Hope that makes sense and good luck if you choose to sell your stone! 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1987

Why do you want to upgrade again?  If you aren’t emotionally attached to the 0.9 carat diamond what makes you think that you will become emotionally attached to a 1.3 carat diamond?  Won’t you then want a 1.7 carat diamond, and so on?  

Why do you want a bigger diamond?  You have to ask yourself this question.  

The truth is that bigger doesn’t necessarily mean better. The perfect diamond ring doesn’t have the biggest diamond imaginable.  It simply looks beautiful and enhances the attractiveness of the wearer’s hand.  That second part is really important.  If you get this right then you’ve got it made.  People won’t necessarily comment on the diamond but they will wish that they had your pretty hands.  (They will then compensate by buying themselves a larger diamond.)

There are lovely rings of all shapes and sizes but don’t be seduced by Weddingbee.  The site encourages people to be envious.  Also photographs don’t show reality. No one spends all their time observing their ring in close up and from the front.  Equally big stones have their issues.  It’s no use having a ring that looks pretty from the front but bulky from the side.

Stick to your 0.9 carat diamond.  If you must change something change the setting. Don’t go for maximum bling. Triple halo look a bit strange.  Choose something unique to you.  Choose something that feels nice when you close you eyes and touch it.  Ask your husband to put a loving inscription inside.

Spend the money you would have spent on a new diamond on travel and adventure and romance instead.  These things are intangible and impermanent yet vital.

And stop looking at Weddingbee for a while, and possibly forever.

If all this doesn’t work then sell the 0.9 carat diamond, chalk up the loss of money to experience, and stick to the 0.4 carat diamond that you love.  

 

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Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Diamonds are the biggest racket in the jewelery industry. They devalue faster than a car will, and you will NEVER get even close to what you paid for it if you try and sell it to a jeweler. 

I agree with a previous poster, why do you think you will suddenly fall in love with a bigger stone if you didnt already? You’ll just keep throwing money away in search of perfection, when apparently you love your original stone enough to keep wearing it after you “upgraded”

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

NanaChan:  If you love your original ring, why change it in the first place? You’ve upgraded already and you’re not happy. Maybe just hope off WB and get some perspective back. You’re marrying the man of your dreams and that’s all that matters. 

There will always be someone out there with a bigger and better ring. I absolutely love my ring! TO BITS! And I can’t think of anything more perfect. Yet, I come on here and see the ladies posting theirs and starting wondering if we should have just saved a little longer. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

NanaChan: You are welcome. Those are my practical tips for selling, I own a retail store so thought I would share the “inside scoop”. That being said, bigger isn’t always better like PP mentioned. Maybe take some time to appreciate the diamonds for what they are, gifts from the earth. Diamonds grow 100 miles under ground and form over billions of years! Sometimes knowing this awesome bit of information will make the smallest stone seem precious in your eyes again.  They are amazing things, mined from the earth and then put into the hands of stone cutters…artists, really. Don’t waste time on envy when you could be feeling gratitude + awe for nature’s treasures. 🙂 Enjoy the good stuff!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1987

I’ve just looked at your previous thread where you show your diamond in a pave setting.  The ring looks wonderful and your hands look pretty.  A bigger stone will look clumsy and ugly and a halo (at best) will just detract from the beauty of your main stone.  

Just stick to chic rather than trying to outbling yourself.  

Give up Weddingbee and any other diamond sites permanently.  They are not good for you.  They stop you appreciating your husband’s gifts.   

Then clean your 0.4 and 0.9 diamond rings and put them away in a safe.  Wear only your wedding ring for a month.  That means 30 days with no peaking at them or trying them on.  Enjoy the diamond-free freedom.

When you wear the diamond rings again you will see them in a new light.  

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I say if you want to upgrade then upgrade. I had the chance to do it last fall and I was happy for awhile that I did but now I want to do it again (although I actually kinda want to downgrade from a diamond to a topaz). If it will make you happy do it. 

although my plan with any upgrades I want to keep each ring. For the simple reason that I can past things on down to any kids I have ( if don’t then to potential nieces and nephews). but for me right now each ring I have owned and the one I thinking about upgrading to will still have a total cost under a $1000.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1987

Yes, this is your choice.  Keep upgrading and feel envious, or give up Weddingbee and enjoy your diamonds.

 

(PS  There is no guarantee that nieces, nephews and kids will have the same taste in jewellery.  If you don’t enjoy the rings and they don’t enjoy the rings what’s the point?  And you don’t want some distant grandchild giving his fiance your ring when what she really would have liked was something entirely different.)

Good luck.

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