- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
So last year, my FH and I went to our local jewellers and found a ring design that we liked (marquise cut with shoulder stones) and customised it to the way we wanted it (sapphire centre stone set in white gold). FH picked up the ring in December and then proposed to me with it in June.
We both love the ring design, however, it didn’t quite live up to either of our expectations when we designed the ring (sapphire is quite dark and murky, and the shoulder diamonds are minute, like 0.06ct tdw). I love the ring anyway, as he proposed to me with it. It has also scratched very easily (its only 9ct white gold)
I have been having all kinds of trouble choosing a wedding band to go with – the band that the jeweller makes to go with it is not very nice, overpriced and has only 0.05ct tdw, and we would like something a bit blingier.
I’ve tried almost every band style imaginable with my ring, and finally narrowed it down to one I was going to buy ( a diamond chevron shape band), despite being advised by another jeweller that the style of my ring meant it was likely to rub against any band that it was paired with, and likely wear down over time. The marquise is a super low profile (sits flat) and only set in one prong at the bottom between the sapphire and any joining band, so it would likely not last forever.
ANYWAY. While out looking for bands last week, we stumbled across some earrings to buy for my birthday. When we came back to buy the earrings, a bridal set in the jewllers case caught my eye. Absolutely stunning – round brilliant, split shank, 18ct white gold, very vintage looking, 1ct total diamond weight for the set. At a fab price (50% off). While the lady was ringing up the earrings, I tried it on. And both FH and I just fell in love with how beautiful it was.
Long story short, we bought the new set, decided to shift my original e-ring to my right hand. I am currently waiting for the new set to be sized and sent to us.
But, we are really worried about what people, particularly his family, are going to say. I don’t want to look selfish or fickle or greedy for having a new set. I know that really its our money and my finger and we shouldn’t care what people think, but I’m concerned about what people might say 🙁 Any advice for how to handle this when it arrived? It is a very beautiful ring that stands out a mile and people are inevitably going to spot it and ask why I’m not wearing my old one anymore, even if they’re not being judgemental.
All advice appreciated!
Here are some pics, too:
My original e-ring:
My new set: