(Closed) Upgrading ring during engagement – advice?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
3668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

You could just say your old one got chipped or broken somehow.

Post # 4
2894 posts
Sugar bee

First of all – people will probably not say anything other than lovely ring, what happened to the old one? Pretty standard and very harmless.

How do you answer that? Honestly. After having the original for a while you both realized it just was “us” or “you,” whatever, so you replaced it with something you both loved more. That’s it. 

I’d be surprised if you ran into any judgement about “how you should use your money.” Most people don’t care enough. πŸ™‚ Lovely ring! Glad you found something you love.

Post # 7
11395 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@MissSapphire:  Tell them you went wedding band shopping, could not find an affordable wedding ring that would fit with it. Then you saw the set and it was a good price and just got it.

Post # 8
2894 posts
Sugar bee

@MissSapphire:  Well, if family gets a little nosey you can always say that while shopping for bands you both spotted the new set and you just knew it was “the one.” You both still love the old one and you’re keeping the old one for sentimental reasons but neither of you could pass up the new one and just went for it. AND it came with the band you were looking for and matched so much better so win-win. There’s really no room for evil gossip in that explanation. And it’s not a lie. You were shopping and you did spot this one and you both did love it more. Unless you say something gossip worthy like “nothing is good enough for me” they’ll probably write it off as “boring” if they’re truly only interested in some drama. I think it will be fine.

Post # 12
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Honestly. Its none of their business :0X buttt.. I have nosey family who would give me the 3rd degree. I would tell them, you chose to get an all diamond set. The less detail the better :0).. By the way, the new set is AMAZING!!!!

Post # 14
3 posts
  • Wedding: March 2017

You can always say it was a proposal ring or a promise ring.

As long as you’re happy with your new set, that’s what matters πŸ™‚

Post # 15
6360 posts
Bee Keeper

I wouldn’t lie about it and I wouldn’t show that I feel that I have anything to be ashamed about (you don’t.) Offer a one sentence explanation in a neutral tone and do not let it be discussed further. Change topic if pressed, and make sure to give them a look as if to say it would be rude for them to press on. Don’t let people make you feel bad or feel the need to justify yourself when you’re doing nothing wrong! Hold your head high, you have no reason not to πŸ™‚

Post # 16
2903 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We upgraded my set not to long ago and over Thanksgiving we showed it off and did not get any “looks” or comments…I just told everyone that Darling Husband just wanted to do something sweet for me. I put the attention on how great my Darling Husband was instead of having people think that I demanded it or something….

I say if you put it in a positive light like that, you will get more positive result.

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