(Closed) “Upgrading” the e-ring?

posted 8 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I did. I’m not really into the whole “meaningful” aspect of it, because I picked out the first one myself. If he had done it all on his own maybe I would have kept it, but I wanted something bigger. So we traded it.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wouldn’t upgrade.  I love my ring and can’t imagine trading it in.  If my husband wanted to get me a special anniversary gift, I would have no trouble picking out another piece of jewelry 🙂

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am, kinda.  This is my current ring: Which is amazing and yellow gold and the second photo is the one hubby is getting for our renewal. It will be platinum and a smaller stone.

 

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am, kinda.  First photo is current set.  Which is amazing and yellow gold and the second photo is the one hubby is getting for our renewal. It will be platinum and a smaller stone.

 

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Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i think upgrades are nice and all but when you really think about it its a rock sitting on our hand, i can think of a thousand better uses for that money, house, kids, cars, starving kids in uganda maybe!!!!

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it’s pretty common for people to upgrade their ring.  If I had gotten something smaller due to finance reasons with the intent of upgrading or something that I didn’t totally love, I might be up for it (adding stones to it, or keeping the same setting with larger stone), but as for now, I’m 100% satisfied and can’t imagine having a different ring on my finger. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I will definitely upgrade.  I love my ring and I love my FH, but when we can afford it I plan on upping the center stone.  

To me, my e-ring is just another accessory.  It doesn’t symbolize the love that I have for my FH or the love that he has for me.  It symbolizes that I am engaged.  And one day it will symbolize that I have a rock on my finger 🙂

 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I donate time and money to animal shelters and no kill foundations as well as being a foster mommy to rescued animals to prevent them being killed in shleters.  So I am one that still puts all I have to a good cause, I don’t wanna come off like I am just throwing money around. I also have a health reason for the 2 sets. I need to be able to switch my sets out or my hands will have a reaction to the metal.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@nightmaiden- don’t let anyone make you feel bad about upgrading!  Its your personal choice. Even if you didn’t need to do it for health reasons, it would still be ok.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It’s interesting to read this because I’ve been thinking quite a bit about this myself lately. My fiancee picked out a gorgeous princess cut solitaire and I absolutely adore the diamond. But, quite honestly, I could do with a band that has a little more personality to it. The one he selected is very pretty, don’t get me wrong, but I’d love something with a little more sparkle.

So, I’m considering asking how he’d feel about using the money set aside for our wedding bands to upgrade the band on my ring instead. I wouldn’t dream of touching the diamond – he spent nearly 3 hours picking it out, after all. But I keep hesitating because I’m really afraid of hurting his feelings and I’m not sure it’s worth it. He’s so proud of what he selected and in all honesty, I think it’s beautiful too…but if I could add a little more sparkle, that would be great.

Any advice for feeling out that subject with him?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

What about purchasing a diamond right hand blingy ring rather than an upgrade to an e-ring?

Maybe it is just me, but I think that the engagement ring and wedding band really is such a token of affection and the memory of the proposal and wedding attached to each band makes them special, not the size.  I would never want to change either my engagement ring or my wedding band for the sole reason that altering them would be like changing the memory to me. 

I would love for a five year anniversary gift for my husband to buy me a yellow gold diamond eternity band to wear on my right hand. It would signify another important event in our life, an anniversay, also hold that special meaning, but not alter the other rings. 

I think that so much emphasis is put on displaying wealth, whether or not someone even has it (and I’m not talking about anyone particularly in this thread, just a general comment on our society) that girls feel the need to try to impress others with something that should be a private token of true devotion and love.

I recently had a close girlfriend whose engagement ring was stolen from her house.   She is one promotion away from partner at a Big 4 accounting firm and her husband also has an excellent job, but they are not going to replace it (even though it was insured and they received the value back in cash).  She is devasted because her ring is gone and it can never be replaced.  Nothing can replace the memory.  She now wears her wedding band only and plans to have a vow renewal ceremony when they celebrate their five year anniversay where they purchase another ring that she will wear like she wore her engagement ring, but it will be different and it will also have a very important memory attached to it.  This is how I feel.  Once you change something, to me, it takes away from the memory and from what it represents.

This is just my personal opinion about this and I’m not trying to preach how everyone else should view their engagement ring since it truly is a personal decision for everyone.  And, I also respect girls who do want a larger or better quality ring because that is their own decision even though it isn’t something I am a proponent for.  I’m expressing it because I feel its a less popular opinion on the board and would interested to hear others’ ideas as well.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@texacali, what if you just get a very sparkly band (or two) that you love to go with the e-ring?  if your e-ring was sandwiched between two sparkly bands, that could completely change the look of it..

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I understand people wanting to upgrade, but for me my ring holds a lot of meaning.  I personally could never change it nor do I want to.  I think it is perfect!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I can see why people might want to upgrade, if that’s what is important to them. However, I don’t think I’d ever upgrade my ring. I’m with the sentimental posters- my ring is such an important symbol that getting a new one wouldn’t really seem like an “upgrade.” Of course, I definitely would not refuse a fancy right-hand ring, or some other nice jewelry, to wear as accessories! 

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