Post # 1
So, about 2 years ago my now fiance and I went on a “break”…we were almost 2 years into the relationship at the time and were fighting quite a bit…it was the first serious relationship we had both been in and I really think the break was MUCH needed…
WELL, I was talking to my FMIL tonight and somehow we got on the topic of this break that my FI and I had 2 years ago…she said that FI had said at the time “But what if there is someone out there that is better?” and she responded “There is noone better!”
I’m not sure why she told me this… I really don’t know …but I can’t get it out of my mind that he said this to her :-/……….I brought it up to him and he said he doesn’t remember saying it and that he was on medication at the time…. (adderol)…but it’s making me upset 🙁
Post # 3
@fitnflair: Honestly, you need to let it go. There is no way you can be sure he said it and it was at a time that you two were struggling in your relationship. If you are about to get married, I hope your relationship is in a better, healthier place.
He obviously chose you and you chose him. I would not worry about the random comment she made.
Post # 4
@bmo88: thanks for your response….I know I do…I guess I just need reassurance that it is a little nothing comment that I shouldn’t be concerned about. We really are in a much better place now but it still hurts to think he felt this way at one point
Post # 5
Let it go. Everyone at some point has probably had their thought about their SO – can you honestly say you’ve never had that fleeting thought?!
She was probably telling you as a compliment and you took it the wrong way. It was 2 years ago – peoples feelings change ALOT in 2 years. Even if he was feeling that way then, clearly he came to his senses and doesn’t feel that way now.
Post # 6
Yes you should let it go (: it definitely sounded more like a compliment. Hubby and i took two different breaks before getting engaged & nothing i ever heard from my MIL or him was ever that nice lol
Post # 7
If you two were having problems, I wouldn’t blame him for wondering. If he were to have said it recently, or maybe if you never had a break and he said it, I would be more upset.
Post # 8
Isn’t that why you two took a break, to see if you were really ready to be together or if there was someone else out there for you? It’s a very normal question to ask actually, most people just don’t say it. Let it go, he is marrying you.
Post # 9
Please let it go. You took a break for that reason and it’s something natural to wonder, especially in times of hardship – obviously, he discovered there wasn’t anyone better and chose to ask you to spend the rest of your lives together. So don’t dwell on it at all – you’re just going to cause so much unnecessary stress.
Post # 10
I agree with PPs about letting this go. I think your FMIL’s intent was to tell you how she thought of you; she thought there was “no one better” for her son. It’s a compliment! Try not to over think it.