Post # 1
Hey Girls! I shouldn’t be complaining, but I have yet another dilemma! Mr. Bouvier and I have been discussing our wedding gifts for eachother (he needed LOTS of help) and I told him that i would love the Hey Lady shoes I have been dreaming about for months, but he said they were too expensive. Today, he tells me he is going to the sporting goods store which is right near a bridal store i wanted to go shoe shopping at. Only problem is, he will not let me go along, and says he wants to “be alone today”. I have been very emotional all weekend due to my brand new IUD which is causing me lots of cramping and crankiness. I was so mad i told him to “just leave before I flip you off” (which i never really would do) I then go on my merry way with my weekend wedding shopping, and get a text from him a few hours later. It says:
“I wanted to surprise you with something, but I know your really mad, so before you come home mad I want you to know I was just trying to surprise you”
And I start BAWLING in the car because I feel like the worlds BIGGEST BITCH EVER!
I come home and he gives me
- Chocolate = +5 points
- A card with a wedding dress on the front telling me how happy he is to marry me, and how he can’t wait to see how amazingly beautiful i will look on our wedding day, and a million amazing dreamy things. = +20 points
- A Giftcard to ALDO with plenty of money on it, enough to buy 2 pairs of shoes, just to make sure i get “the perfect ones!!!” = CONFUSED!!
Now….Here’s the dilemma. As much as i love ALDO shoes, I think they are a little too sexy for my English Garden Themed wedding. I would have much rather have just given him the website for the Hey Lady dream shoes i want. But I CAN’T TELL him that, can I???? I feel like I need to just suck it up, and pretend to love whatever shoes i settle on, beause it will make him feel soooo good. I was such an uncharacteristic biotch today, and feel soooo guilty, and even guiltier for not just being happy with whatever shoes i can find at ALDO. Any Shoe Obsessed girls like me with advice out there?
Post # 3
suck it up.. do not tramp on this gift whatsover. I am shoeobessed too and i think it would take the meaning away from his gesture if you changed it.. sorry
Also with the ALDO shoes are great.. maybe it would be worth to go in the store and check it out and maybe you can order some in (look at a catalogue)
Post # 4
Aww, boys are so clueless sometimes! This has totally happened to me before. But, and I really do hate to say this, ALDO is not in the wedding-appropriate market right now. I recently looked and didnt find anything. But you can’t return giftcards, right? And I don’t like the idea of “pretending” to love something you aren’t actually that into.
I think the best way out of this is to save the giftcard for some other occasion, explain to FI that you just can’t find any ALDO shoes you like for the wedding, and buy other shoes, be they the Hey Lady shoes or other slightly less perfect but more wedding appropriate shoes.
Post # 5
Hmm. I really feel you on this. When you are dead-set on a particular item, nothing will replace it! Plus, those Hey Lady shoes specialize in being comfy and danceable in addition to cute (don’t know whether the claim is true or not but let’s give the benefit of the doubt), which is especially important on your wedding day. His gesture is incredibly sweet and I can’t blame you for feeling conflicted.
So my suggestion is this. First, take a good look at the Aldo stock. They have a TON of styles and you might be surprised by what you can find. Try their “Romantic Styles” category, many of them aren’t particularly vixenish. http://www.aldoshoes.com/us/flag/wromantic/women
If nothing tickles your fancy there and you’re still dead set on those Hey Lady shoes, I say give it some time (like, a month), and say, “Honey, your gift was SO sweet and thoughtful and I really appreciate it. But I had been fantasizing about these Hey Lady shoes for ages and I think they’d make my wedding outfit absolutely PERFECT. So I hope you aren’t upset if I go ahead and buy those shoes, it would make me SO happy. And I want to get you something special with that gift card, so let’s go shopping and get you a great pair of shoes with it.” If you’re tactful and show how thankful you are for the gesture but how happy the other shoes would make you, I can’t see him being very upset. Just my thought.
Whatever you decide to do, good luck! You have such a sweet fiance. 🙂
Post # 6
Have you looked at the Aldo webstie? they had many that weren’t too sexy, I understand yu have your heart set on a different pair already and he says they are too expensive, will this situation make that any different? Are they still too expensive? For example is the Aldo card equal to or more than the pair you are dreaming of?
Post # 7
I hope this doesn’t sound too sneaky… but could you buy the hey lady shoes and tell him they are from aldo and that is what you speant the gift card on? then you could save the gift card for another ocassion? But in reality that may be too complicated….
Post # 8
i looked more in deapth online, found a few “accecptable” options in the clearence section, then found this pair that i actually really like for my “something blue”, by aldo’s sister company SPRING. Only problem, neither SPRING or ALDO accept giftcards as payment online, and there are no SPRING stores in Wisconsin at all! I know ALDO also cannot get clearence shoes shipped into the store as they are on their way to the outlets (also 2 hour drive for me). WHAT KIND OF STONE AGE STORE DOES NOT TAKE GIFTCARDS ONLINE!!!!????!!!????
Post # 9
@Mrs2b that sounds something i would totally do..lol.. I love when guys try to be helpful.. but when they miss it my a mile.. we are the ones who have to live with it.. I say you keep the card and go buy your dream shoes.. or sell that card to a friend or a family member.. they will understand 🙂
Post # 10
missbouvier–that is ridiculously stone age! Holy cow! Can they ship the shoes to your nearest Also store?
Post # 11
p.s. the giftcard would more than cover the Hey Lady’s, so it’s not even a matter of affordability or i wouldnt be complaining at all…Do you guys think i could buy aldo shoes online with credit, return them to a local store, and re-buy them with the giftcard? The ALDO’s will never be the same as they Hey Lady’s, but lets face it. With the amazing clearence prices, i could get like 6 pairs of shoes from aldo!! (Not even liking the current full price line right now) As important as a “perfect look” has been to me, I’m realizing that i already have the perfect future husband, so the shoes suddenly seem so trival!
Post # 12
Those Spring shoes are perfect for a wedding. Can you try calling in the order? Sometimes reps on the phone are able to do things the website can’t and if not, maybe they can suggest something else that will work for you.
Post # 13
I would buy the hey lady shoes and tell him they were from aldos and buy aldo shoes for the summer lol
Post # 14
I decided to suck it up and order the Spring shoes, even though i had to pay out of pocket for them The good,
- they are HOTT!!
- The heels are SUPER HIGH
- They are lavender, not bridal blue 🙁
- they are really big, but don’t come in half sizes
- the heels are SUPER HIGH!!!
Going to try to add multiple insoles to make them fit snugly, I might drive to the ALDO liquididation store (1.75 hours away) this thursday and buy more shoes with my giftcard. Maybe I will hit the shoe jackpot. Thanks for your opnions girls!!
Post # 15
Try to be happy about the gift, he was totally thinking of you. My FH last year bought me the gym membership i wanted, the electric razor i wanted, and a wood burner i had once said would be cool. All I could think when he gave them too me was that I was fat bored and hairy (LOL), but looking back it was really really sweet and he really tried, and it showed me he actually listened to what I said.
Post # 16
I think his gift was extremely generous. Aldo shoes are about $75-$100 a pair… I think you definitely need to suck it up! Give him some hugs & kisses! You’ve got a great man. He tried to cheer you up AND offer a solution to get you some nice shoes. They may not be the “perfect” shoes, but he’s trying to give you the perfect shoes.
He’s wonderful 🙂