Upset about Engagement Pictures

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I honestly wouldn’t judge your wedding photos based on this. I know it sucks, but you did say it was windy. I bet a lot of the ones of you laughing looking fun and natural, but it is always natural for us to be harder on ourselves. Your wedding will obviously be formal where as this was quite informal and quick.

If you could share, I’d love to see some of the shots that you liked 🙂

Post # 4
1634 posts
Bumble bee

I’d also love to see a few for reference, but it might be worthwile to mention (or re-mention) that you feel awkward/look awkward in photos, and that you are very open to suggestions and pose adjustments. Your photographer can help “stage” a photo without it looking staged, thats a big part of their job! Maybe just an email saying that you feel that a lot of them look uncomfortable, and if they wouldnt mind letting you know if you can make a few small adjustments when taking wedding photos, you’d really appreciate the guidance 🙂

ETA – we havent had our engagement session yet, but this is my fear! I have already told them that me and FI are not big PDA-ers so we tend to look/feel awkward, so we do need to be told how to NOT look awkward if possible lol

Post # 5
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I did a bridal shoot with my photographer prior to the wedding, and I hated them all! I had gotten my test run for hair and makeup that day, and because of the shoot I changed my entire look for my actual wedding. I look completely derpy in all of the photos from that day.

My wedding photos…I LOVE THEM! Yes, there are a lot of derpy ones in the pile, but they took enough that I have many that I love.

It sounds like your shoot was really casual and unexpected…don’t let it worry you! Once you have the wedding look you want it will turn out much better!

Post # 6
1951 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@loveandapitbull:  I would absolutely base my judgement on these sample pics. So what if the weather wasn’t perfect? What are the chances it will be on your wedding day? A photographer can take amazing shots on the fly (I have friends who just grab a camera and snap the right moment.) If they’re really good, they should have given you a good product. 

I’d try and book another session. Early evening (6-8) pm in the summer should yield nice light. 

Post # 7
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think most wedding photographers hate doing e-pics.  They are posed and kind of unnatural.  I think they are really very different from shooting a live wedding.  I didn’t love my e-pics, but I did love my wedding pics!

Post # 8
35 posts
  • Wedding: January 2013

Mine may not be a good opinion, since my husband disagrees with me vehemently, but I had fallen in love with a particular photographer and my heart CRASHED when I saw my engagement photos.  I thought I looked ugly, awkward, and the double chin was all over the place!  The pictures had cool effects, and with another couple I’m sure they would have been cool, but I just could not love them…  they weren’t elegant, romantic, or even cute!  We didn’t look attractive!  And I wanted them to be SWEET… but, yes, our wedding photos were breathtakingly amazing.  Half a year later, I still look at some of them every day because I’m so obsessed!  So if you know your photogs work and it’s golden, just try to enjoy yourself and don’t think about how awkward you are.  

If you’re really worried about it, look at some gorgeous wedding photos and get some pose inspiration!  My husband and I chose one kind of silly pose to break into whenever we felt nervous, and those pictures turned out FABULOUSLY.

Post # 11
4 posts

Omg! You’re gorgeous! I personally love this photo 🙂

Post # 12
4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I love the photo! Whats wrong with it??

Post # 14
631 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@loveandapitbull:  Honestly, you look great. These both look like sweet, genuine moments, and that’s what you really want from your wedding day. Sometimes we laugh and make a derpy face or give ourselves extra chins and it’s all we can focus on because we are all taught that it’s more important to look model perfect for photos instead of looking happy. You look happy. In 20 years when you or your kids are looking at these photos they’re going to love that you look happy.

ETA: Take my advice on this – I have had a number of brides who were really super stressed about how they were going to look in their photos all day long and it showed on their faces. They just looked grumpy. Try to let go a little and enjoy your day when it comes. 🙂

Post # 15
2973 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@loveandapitbull:  First of all, that is gorgeous. But I know what you mean. We liked 2 of our 29374 e-pictures. 

I can honestly tell you that I absolutely hated my pictures as well. The shots were beautiful, the scenery was insane, and the light/setting was breathtaking – what wasn’t beautiful? Me. And FH. We are not the most gorgeous people in the world (well, I think he is) but come on. I looked like I was 20 lbs heavier and all the awkward hair blowing, face making, and angles made me look…just horrible. 

Our shoot was planned, but we weren’t planning on having one to begin with. The photogs offered it to us since we got a very pricey package…and this was a free bonus from them. So we took it. Boy, am I glad we did. 

I plan to have a long and hard talk with the photog about this because…if I don’t like me in the pictures, I won’t give a rat’s ass that the background is amazeballs. My friends take pictures of me randomly, on a bad hair day, and I look pretty damn good. A photog I’m paying almosts $8K should make me look like a freakin’ model. /rant over


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