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Oh girl, I'm so sorry. It sounds like your father really wants to be there for you, even risking his health to be there for the ceremony. He'll get to see you get married, and that's the important part. You're so busy during the reception, you won't have time to be upset. Since he'll be there for pictures, maybe have your father/daughter dance in private with the photographer, so they can capture it and you can still have it. Above all, I wish your father good health and a fast recovery. :( I'm sorry about your mom. I don't have a relationship with any of my relatives, except for one aunt and cousin, and my cousin was the only one at my wedding and I still had a blast. I promise, it will be one of the most special days of your life, no matter who is there. Best of luck with everything!!! I know you'll have a wonderful wedding!!
*hugs* I am SO sorry! It definintely sounds like he wants to be there for you, and it's great hsi doctors gave him the go ahead for the ceremony! You'll get tons of great pictures to show him later, and he'll definintely be there in spirit. Wishing him a quick and painless recovery!
Other thought: could you set up a webcam? It might sound silly, but it would be great for him to see everything going on and even if he didn't watch it the whole time, it could be on for when he did want to.
I'm so sorry, that's terrible. At least you know that he genuinely wants to be there. *Hugs* I am glad he's not missing it entirely. I hope his appointments go well and that things look up for your family.
O i'm sorry, that must hurt. Maybe after the honeymoon, you could set up a special time with him to look at pictures and tell him everything that happened.
I'm so sorry.
Are you able to have a videographer capture the reception on film for future viewing?
Also: Is there a way that you and FI can incorporate a special mention or blessing into the ceremony while he's there?
Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. That's awful and you and your father must be so upset. And it's so hard to be upset when you know there's nothing you can do about it. I second the idea of a webcam or videographer. I also like the idea of having your dance beforehand with maybe the photographer. I'll keep my fingers crossed for his health.
Thanks for the support! It's always good to just let it out ... I feel tons better than I did yesterday.
I'm so sorry your father is ill. My Dad's 74 & has heart problems. He's given us a couple scares this year so I understand where you're coming from.
Are you close enough/involved in his care that you can talk to his doctor and see what his limits are? Would it be possible that he stay at the reception until the father/daughter dance & then leave? Can he stay in the bridal suite so he's not exposed to all those people during cocktail hour?
If not, maybe you can have a father-daughter photo shoot or dance - sort of like how a bride & groom do a 1st look session?
Sending good vibes your way. ;)
Im so sorry, but happy to hear that he is hope and doing better. And he will still be able to walk you down the aisle! I completely understand why you are upset and hope things work out.
I lost my dad in July of this year, he was only 52. It was totally unexpected. I got engaged less than 2 weeks before he passed. I never in a million years thought he wouldn't be there on my wedding day. Cherish every memory you have with your dad on your wedding day, even if it is just for the ceremony. It is better than him not being there at all. I hope and pray, with all my heart, that your dad recovers and feels better soon.
I'm sorry that your dad is ill but at least he is able to make it to the ceremony. You don't want to risk his health more and make him sicker. Be happy that he can make it at all. I lost my mother in high school and having a wedding without her was horrible and the last thing I could have ever wanted. But I knew that she wouldn't want me to be unhappy and not have a wedding just because she is no longer around.
It's just one of those crappy things that you wish wasn't happening to your or your family. It's okay to be upset. I would be sad too.
I am sure your dad is devastated that he can't stay for the reception. Do you have someone videotaping your wedding (friend or videographer)? Not that it makes up for it, but perhaps you could sit down and watch the tape of the reception with him after you and your husband get back from your honeymoon. That way you can still share the reception together, albeit in a different way.
I am a nurse, so I know how rough pneumonia can be on a person. It really takes a lot out of you. I wish your father a speedy recovery and I am sending good thoughts your way for your wedding day!
<<Hugs>>
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About a month ago, my father went into the hospital for an extremely severe case of pneumonia. They found out he also had a blood infection, another form of the pneumonia, has emphysema and has some masses on his lungs that may or may not be tumors (he has an appt on Nov. 23 for that).
He called me last night and told me that he will be making it to the wedding, but they're going to come the morning of and only for the ceremony, not the reception. The doctor is extremely concerned about exposing him to more infection and bacteria and is only okay with him coming to the ceremony since it's outside. After the ceremony and pictures, he'll have to leave. And he'll probably be wearing a mask for most of the time, besides pictures and walking down the aisle, I think.
I'm grateful that he'll be able to make it and I definitely don't want him to do anything that will risk his health. At the same time, I can't help be upset that he won't be there for the whole thing. My father is the one person I want there more than anything. I know he feels bad that it has to be this way, which makes me feel even worse for being upset about the situation. My mother, who I basically have a non-relationship with, won't be attending on purpose.
I just wish I could get past this upset feeling. I know it's not anyone's fault but it still hurts ... and stinks.
*Edit - I should add that he was released from the hospital about two weeks ago. He's in recovery at home now, but with oxygen tanks and lots of rest.