- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
This is really just a vent because I am sure my friends are sick of me!
My FI and I are planning a wedding long distance in the 2nd most popular place to host a wedding in the country. We needed to make quick decisions on venues as we were limited to one day in summer to have our wedding (the church limited our date options).
Long story short, my FI convinced me to book a venue sight unseen because he had attended a reception there and it is a pretty upscale/sought after place to have a reception (personally, I think it is a little pretentious). I really didn’t feel comfortable because it was at the top of our price range and had read reviews that the coordinator merely opens the door and that’s all they do for you.
Fast forward to November, where we visit in person, four months after booking. The place, which is historic, is a disaster- meaning that the walls are disgusting (need a paint job badly) carpet stained, smelled like a basement, etc. I expect wear & tear on a 200+ building, but not peeling off the wall wallpaper. Even the chairs we were promised are unusable (completey chipped wood, terribly stained padding). The coordinator told us that they paint each week and deep clean/make repairs regularly and we were just coming in after a weekend of weddings. I know what a weekend of weddings vs. 10 years of wear & tear look like.
Anyway, we decided to go visit again next week and I said I would just like to do some measuring and pay the rest of the fee. Really, I do want to measure, but also want to check up on the painting/repairs she promised in November. Her response? “Unavailable, mail check in”
Basically, I hate this stupid place, I do not want to have my reception there, and I do not know what to do. The contract doesn’t protect us against any of this stuff and it is a private club governed by people who do not care about upkeep I guess. Also, I am worried they aren’t going to allow me to walk through with my caterer and wedding planner.
Anyway, not really looking for advise, other than I want to complain. I also feel very resentful of my FI and him calling the shots on this and basically backing me into a corner on pulling the trigger sight unseen. I am the one dealing with the aftermath and figuring out how to deal with a digusting venue, figuring out where we are going to find money to rent chairs, how to decorate to hide the grossness of this place, etc, etc, etc
thanks for listening bees!