- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2009
So we made a date…without a budget. We are paying for the whole thing on our own, after having a baby and all the bills we have. My fiance wanted a “simple” wedding, so I did a write up on the cheapest “reasonable” wedding I could do. Giving about $300 for a photographer, a free location, $475 for a reception package they offer, $100 for my accessories (shoes, veil or hair pins, bra for my dress, make-up, plus hair style), I decided I could do my own hair, wear shoes I allready have (who’s going to see them anyway right?) and $150 for his tux, $40 for his shoes, and of corse there’s my dress. He thought that was all way too expensive.
I shopped every photographer and freelance I could find in the paper and on craigslist. The cheapest I could get was $350.00 to come out and take pictures for 2 hours and give me the raw CD. After all I could touch them up myself! He told me no. No photographer. I don’t have anyone to take pictures! Perhaps I’ll ask a friend. Hat reminds me, only 3 people are coming from my list. 3! My mom, step dad, and grandmother…and we have to pay their hotel fees! The rest of the people are all HIS family and friends, about 30 in total.
I went to David’s bridal and ended up falling in love with a dress there. THey talked me into it of corse by telling me it was 10 weeks to our wedding, it would take 8 to order a dress and 4 to get it altered if needed and I wouldnt have time. So I found one I fell in love with. It was a size 4 Ivory Oleg Cassini CT258. Fit me perfectly! and they told me if I got that one they’d knock off $400. So I put it on layaway.
I just went to pay it off 4 weeks ago ($750) and it fell off of me! Not only did it cost me over $300 to have it taken in, bussled, boning put in, ect… So, I went in for a final fitting and it fit good, except for the breast part gapping 2 inches from my chest at the top and magically it’s way too long. Not even 6 inch heels will help and i’m wearing it outside. I was so upset I said nothing and took it home, thinking I can find another alteration place to fix it. SO… it’s sitting in my closet, and we can’t afford to have it hemmed. Our wedding is in 5 weeks. I spoke to a man across the street from us and he said his wife can do it in 3 weeks for about $160. But my fiance told me last night we cant get it hemmed. All I can picture is me walking along and tripping over it or holding it up constantly.
we did our own invitations and sent them out 4 weeks ago, which totaled us about $70.00 for the kit, printing and stamps.
we found an officiant to marry us, which was about $150.00
He is wearing a black pin striped suit he already owns, but needs shoes, a black shirt, a tie and to have it cleaned. He thinks he can find a good tie for $20.00 and shoes for the same.
We have not yet payed for our reception thing… which is the cake, music we provide on a CD we’re making, chairs and a place to hang out for only 1 hour. Last night he told me we couldn’t afford it and we can just hang out and talk outside after we get married.
We HAD the money to save, and should have been budgetting this whole time, I even kept telling him lets put it aside so we don’t touch it…But he had no problem taking us on a $700 vacation two weeks ago, getting fast food almost every day, spending money on little things and wasting it. And to make it worse, I went along with it and let him, because I THOUGHT he was budgeting and thinking about our wedding. I even mentined it to him and told him we need to be careful, we need to save… I also did not want to be a stick in the mud and a total you know what about pinching the penny.
I think maybe I can sell some decorations and get silk flowers from Hobby Lobby and make my boquet and his buttonier. and my bride’s maid flowers and his best man’s flower.
We sent out an evite to go dancing on our wedding night and got a huge response, so that’ll be fun. He said he considers THAT our reception anyway.
We have no honeymoon. He’s taking the week off work to stay home.
So here’s what I have so far. A dress I payed over $1200 for in total that’s still not finished, thats way too long and gaps in the breast. A location outside and a date, an officiant, and a groom in a pin striped suit. 30 guests. No one to take pictures, no reception. And I hate my dress so much, no matter how beautiful it is, I want to kick myself in the butt for being so nieve and buying it. If I had gotten one for $99 on ebay or somewhere we’d actually have a wedding. I don’t want to put it on because I feel so guilty like this is all my fault.
With 5 weeks to our wedding day, I’m about to call the whole thing off and just go up to the courthouse and do it. He’s been married twice, didn’t pay for either of his weddings cause the girls’ parents payed for them. I was married once, but it wasn’t a wedding it was a cruise package about $8,000.
Here’s my dress, I did a cut and paste photoshop and put myself in front of our wedding location. Both pictures is when I first tried on the dress and it fit perfect… BEFORE I lost about 20 lbs of my baby weight and stopped breastfeeding…