Upset with my Bridesmaids

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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3271 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

They’re just busy. It’s a busy time of year for everyone and to them, your wedding feels a long way off. Brides have a very different perspective when planning their wedding. I remember my bridesmaids being annoyed about dress shopping last spring for my summer wedding.  Deep breaths and think happy thoughts 🙂

Post # 5
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3787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@roxy123:  Is your wedding really in April? If so, they need to order the dresses. If not, I’m guessing though they are trying to wait until after the holidays to order them. After all, money is always tight around this time of year for everyone, and adding another $150 to their finances in December might just be not feasible. It’s super nice that you gave them the gift card and they should have thanked you. No doubt about that. But in my experience, when something happens and my friends are avoiding me it’s usually because they’re going through a rough time or they don’t want to disappoint me over something so they don’t avoid it. I’m guilty of doing that too. It’s totally not ideal or the big girl option, but I think it happens a lot.

Post # 6
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3271 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

@roxy123:  You’re welcome!

Bridesmaids can create a whole mess of emotions, as I’m sure you’re finding. I appreciate what mine were like on the day off, but given the choice, I’d never have a wedding party again lol

Post # 7
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432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@roxy123:  I think this is just how some bridesmaids are (including mine). I’d just give them space, as you did all you can do without being overly persistent. Maybe give an”loose deadline”, or ask for their measurements to order them for them and be reimbursed (if affordable).

 

Post # 10
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3271 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

@roxy123:  

Yeah, like spending your brain space and time thinking up the perfect gifts for them when you should be doing things for the actual wedding 😉

Post # 12
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3271 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

@roxy123:  

Too funny! Take it from me, be a little selfish. I was so worried about pleasing everyone else that I forgot about myself and my wants 🙂

Post # 13
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Honestly, $50 to buy something that was required of me wouldn’t feel like much of a gift.  They also may have thought that the $50 was something you got for free, like as a bonus for buying your dress from the same retailer. 

Did you get any sense of their actual budget, like dollar values?  I ask because a lot of people are more accustom to buying off of the bargain rack, so they may not have any idea what some people pay for bridesmaid dresses. 

I would contact them each individually to gauge how they are really feeling.

Post # 14
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331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I know they said they would pay “whatever you needed them to” but did you get a more concrete amount from each of them of their budget? 

You certainly did the right thing in asking them first, and having just been a MOH, the $50 card was kind of you, but maybe the remainder of the cost is more than they can handle right now.  Just an idea… 

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