- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Hello all, I am in dire need to release some of my frustrations in this big OL’ rant because if not, i’ll probably end up doing so on FI =(
First of I want to say that I am SO grateful that my godparents have offered to pay for our honeymoon, correction, exstatic! My Fi nor I have ever been on a cruise, so this is exciting! And we weren’t exactly too sure what kind of a honeymoon/mini-moon we were going to have.
Now, the honeymoon was supposed to be a surprise to me, I left all the HM plans up to FI, since I was doing all the wedding plans! Totally cool, right? FI then informed me that my godparents offered to pay for a cruise honeymoon, we were thrilled!!!
So fast forward, about 7 weeks before the wedding, and me being such a worry wort, I ask him if all arangemnts had been set since, ahem, the wedding was fast approaching! FI told me that everything had been decided and it was set, just he wasn’t sure if they had been purchased. This worried me a bit, since I just wanted to know if it was even going to happen! So then Fast forward again, now its 5 weeks till the wedding, and I really encourage FI to get in contact with my godparents just to make sure everything is set. I get a phone call from FI letting me know that my godparents had offered two options for us:
1) They choose any room, nothing fancy, a regular old interior room (no window) nothing, and they pay for our flights.
2) They upgrade our rooms to something nicer, but we pay for our own flights.
Well, my dear loving FI decides to make a decision without consulting me, and chooses the upgraded room option.. Now, I was happy, but not thrilled because flights to our port of origin, (San Juan Puerto Rico) were gonna cost us a pretty penny.
After Fi informed me of his decision, I let him know that I was worried about our budget and that perhaps it would be best to settle on a regular room, since you don’t spend that much time in the rooms any way. He agreed and notified Godparents, Godparents responded with another option…
C) Still get an upgraded room, we pay for our flights, and they give us $$$ for excursions and tours…
I still didn’t want to agree, but it seemed like they were persistent on the room, we agreed…*sighhhh*
To start, we are on a tight budget, and losing 1,200 is not something I was looking forwad to. So moving on, we purchased our tickets, a hotel for one night after returning, and our flights home include FOUR separate flights!!! So all in all, despite the horrible flight selections and extra part of our budget GONE, I was ok, because I thought, “Hey, we’re gonna have a nice room! YAY (At least a window, or some kind of natural light).” I’m not gonna lie, I was a little upset at first that FI did not consult me because, I probably would have just chosen the crappy room, versus shelling out money we couldn’t really afford to spend, but I love him, and trust his decisions…..
WELL!!! This morning, I get a text from FI saying Godparents booked cruise and emailed the confirmation, including the room selection. So the room they ended up booking for us was the second the the BOTTOM, INTERIOR, (NO WINDOWS, NO NATURAL light) AAAAND it has 2 TWIN BEDS?!?!? “(that easily convert to queen)”……..
*cue dumbdounded reaction*
So I know, I shouldn’t take this out entirely on FI, because my Godparents are the ones who offered, and then kind of changed their plans. BUT STILL!!! I am so upset because we could have not spent all that money for flights, and hotel, and NOT trying to be pinching pennies right now just to get my hair and make up done! I am livid with FI! =/
He feels terrible, and I just don’t want to talk to him right now, and the fact that we are LDR (CA>TX) Doesn’t help. UGHHHHHH!!!!! I need to get over my anger towards him, because he is not the one that booked to room in the first place, BUT I still feel that he made the choice to pay for our flights… This loss to our budget has really put extra stress on our planning process, so it is not about the room, but more because of the extra money we spent, all for a nicer room.. which we are NOT getting =(
And the ironic part of this all, is my FI is usually the penny pincher, and really budget conscience, and NOT me!! Wedding is 5 weeks away, and we are still trying to find last minute DJ , (our first DJ bailed), and I’m planning my move from CA to TX right after the wedding..
I think I need a beach day…like yesterday.
and Pls, no snarky comments about how ungratefuk I am, blah blah.. I am entirely grateful for this opportunity to even go, it’s just our BUDGETT!!! AHHH!!!