Noisy Upstairs Neighbour

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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107 posts
Blushing bee

Just say it in an unaccusatory way. Sort of, “hey, I know you’re new here and might not be aware, but the walls here are really thin, and we hear a lot of what goes on upstairs. My husband and I go to sleep pretty early, and sometimes we hear a lot of loud noises coming from your apartment. You’re probably still moving and settling in, but if during the nighttime hours you could keep things down we would be really appreciative.”

Maybe leave it with some cookies?

If they choose to be jerks, report them to your landlord. There’s no excuse for that to continue.

Post # 3
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2580 posts
Sugar bee

I would go talk to them in person meeting the person they are disturbing for most people whould make them be a little more considerate that a random note.

I would just explain that you can hear them quite clearly and that if they could try to keep it down expeically after 10:00 pm that would be much appreciated.

Post # 4
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941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Truth is, she can do whatever she wants in her own space. It doesn’t sound like she is doing it intentionally – walking around just to disturb you guys or dropping things on the floor just to make a loud noise. I’m not sure what you expect her to realistically do? Not walk around her own apartment after 10:30? This is one of the risks of living in a downstairs apartment, unfortunately. I don’t think there is a way to leave a note without sounding rude, but you could try speaking to her casually, in person, just so she is mindful, but I wouldn’t expect her to change her habits in her own home. 

Post # 6
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4413 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ryansgirl:  When we first moved into our prior apartment, we were used to a place with cinder block walls. So we were noisy as hell.

We had one neighbor come over and ask very nicely to turn down the music because the bass was coming through the walls. She phrased it more as a “just so you know, these walls are really thin so I can hear everything!” — like it was a PSA about the thin walls rather than a “shut the eff up you pigs”. We appreciated this and kept the volume on the music down from that point forward.

We had another neighbor from downstairs come up and scold us for walking around too much. She then called the leasing office to report us, and sent her husband up several times, and came up screaming curses at me through the door one time. I stomped extra loud just to spite that bitch.

So you should follow the example of Neighbor #1. 🙂

Post # 7
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ryansgirl:  I would start by getting to know your new neighbor. In conversation you can squeeze in something about being quiet neighbors and loving the quiet condo life. Perhaps that will put a bug in her ear to maybe watch how loud she is.

You can always ask her to be quiet eventually, but it is her space, and she is allowed to do what she wants, but I can’t foresee a neighbor being loud for no reason.

Post # 9
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716 posts
Busy bee

Yea, I would not confront her directly.  I would speak to condo management and just explain factually that you are disturbed at late hours.  Let condo management worry about what to say and how to say it.

Post # 11
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4828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ryansgirl:  I definitely wouldn’t leave a note, that looks passive aggressive and it is, isn’t it?? I’d just talk to her and politely ask her to try to be mindful after like 10:30, just like PPs said. You may have HOA rules that she’s violating anyway if you have to take it that far. Man it reminds me of the last apartment I lived in. I NEVER lived under anyone for this very reason, but this time i moved in with my BF now DH. Ugh, it was awful. Same thing, the people upstairs had different hours and were just clomping around all the time when we were sleeping. It’s tough so I feel your pain.

Post # 13
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4828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ryansgirl:  Yeah, I think the equity would make up for the noise! Haha! My place in CA went up FAST, too. I miss all that equity! Plus if you’re building equity maybe you could move out down the line if this person never gets a clue.

Post # 15
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Ryansgirl:  If your building has Strata which I’m assuming it does because most condo’s do. What you can do is send a written complaint to the Strata Manager who handles your building specficially. What they will do is send the letter to the owner who will receive what we call in Property Management a “Notice of Infraction” which I’m assuming the owner will issue directly to the tenant. Strata council will either give him/her a warning or impose a fine.

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