Urgent Advice Needed- Reveal Today?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

If you were already planning on 13 weeks due to normal considerations I wouldn’t announce today. You’re right when you say a lot can happen!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

@MissTatas:  I think that would be selfish and basically completely stealing the attention away from your niece on her birthday.  As a beautiful, blessed, intelligent grown woman, you can let an 18 year old have a whole day to herself to shine, and find another time to share your wonderful news.  Sharing today would not be classy and would project an “it’s all about me attitude”.

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’d wait!  But that’s just me, I won’t be revealing if/when I get pregnant until after the first trimester.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I wouldn’t because it’s your niece’s day.  Not only is it her birthday, it’s her 18th Birthday.  The focus should really be on her today.  I know your motives wouldn’t be selfish and it would be more practical to announce today but yet, it wouldn’t be the best thing to do.  I think it is always inappropriate to make a personal announcement at soemone else’s celebration.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

Agree with the others – this is her 18th bday, don’t steal the thunder.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would wait simply because it is early and I personally would not want to steal anyone’s thunder.  You only turn 18 once and I think it should be left as her special moment.  Today with the invention of such things as skype and face time, you can still tell everyone at once.  

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would wait. like you say, a lot can happen (hoping that it doesnt!) and stealing the thunder of your niece, even if she is excited, wont earn you any points. I think announcing later, or even at thanksgiving (thats a while away though) when there isn’t supposed to be a focus on a specific person, would be best.

Maybe you could set up a skype announcement or something? if its really difficult to get everyone together,

Good luck! 🙂

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

its too early. its one thing to tell parents and maybe siblings, but do you really want to explain to 20 people (and anyone theyve told) if god forbid something happens. i would wait until thanksgiving to be safely past first trimester and give people an extra reason to be thankful. 

also even if she is excited to be an ‘honorary aunt’. the day is about her and if you announce youre pregnant you will be taking all of the attention away. thats not cool

i dont think people will notice what youre eating, but if you think they will notice you arent drinking….fill a beer bottle with water (or just carry it around and get your SO to dirnk it) or get a ‘mixed’ drink that looks like could have alcohol

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MissTatas:  You might think she wouldn’t mind, but she very well could and would never say anything. Bottom line – this isnt an appropriate time to announce. You’re only 7 weeks and it’s someone else’s day. Plan a family BBQ or something in 4 weeks and announce then.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Why would people guess based on what is on your plate? Is this an alcohol-only party? You could also carry around a glass of something that looks like alcohol, which would certainly quiet any suspicious aunties…

ETA: If it is an alcohol-only party: can I come? 😉

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

@MissTatas:  That makes sense!  Play it by ear then! 🙂

JrzyGurl’s idea of planning a BBQ in a month sounds like a good one!

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