Urgently Need Reference Advice

posted 3 years ago in Career
  • poll: What should I do?
    Chance it - send in the reference list : (27 votes)
    75 %
    Wait - Don't Use Someone as a Reference without their permission : (3 votes)
    8 %
    Other - Please Explain : (3 votes)
    8 %
    I love Lamp. : (3 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6812 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    To answer your Q, yes – I mean, you have no other choice, right? Can you send them an email as a head’s up?

    Post # 4
    Member
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’d put them down and leave the person a message.

    It’s likely they’d have no problem giving you a review. They might be surprised when they get the call but they’ll probably be happy to give it. Better to do that than to miss out on this because no one answer’s the phone.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    The other person you would used-have you tried every way to contact them (email, phone message, if you have their cell phone)?

    If so, I would contact the interviewer and tell her you are trying ot get in touch with the person, because you want to give them a head’s up. I think that’s more than reasonable and I doubt they’ll hold that against you. 

    I’ve been a reference before and I like to prepare…..if I got a call out of the blue I probably wouldn’t give as good of a reference only because I wouldn’t have had the time to think over what I’d like to touch on about that person.

    Post # 6
    Member
    290 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Hmm that is tough! I admit I have used one reference without letting them know ahead of time, but I’d used them a couple times in the past so I knew it would be okay. I think if you’re that confident they will give you a positive review then they would probably be happy to offer it whether you gave them a heads up or not. Could you send them an e-mail or leave a message maybe? Kind of sucks that the employer expects you to be able to get one on such short notice!

    Post # 7
    Member
    290 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Also, good luck!!

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    3085 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2016 - Virmond Park

    @beeintraining:  I would wait. I know that I’ve asked a previous co-worker for a reference and she refused. I was super devestated! On the other hand, if I had just written her name down and she got a call, she wouldn’t have given them a reference. Unless you’ve used them as a reference before, don’t put their name down!

    Post # 9
    Member
    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    If you’re confident that they’d give you a good review then I’d put them down. I doubt they’ll be peeved that you did so without asking first. If the prospective employer can’t get ahold of them then how can they really take that out on you??

    I work on investigations for the federal government and we usually try to develop sources that the subject didn’t volunteer. So most of the testimonies I read through are dialogues with people that had no heads up. I’ve never seen one where I felt like the person gave a negative opinion for absolutely no reason (such as being contacted without notice lol).

    Post # 10
    Member
    1367 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Agree with a PP – do not give their name unless you’ve used them as a reference before.

    Post # 11
    Member
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I once had a reference inform my interviewer that she “had no idea” who I am. Apparently we worked together for years and she didn’t know my last name!

    So I didn’t get the job. So be careful with references!

    Post # 12
    Member
    1336 posts
    Bumble bee

    If you have (had) a good relationship with the person, I would put their name down and call them ASAP and leave them a voicemail explaining the situation.  I would also email them with the same message (since not everyone checks their vm) and give them a heads-up.

    It should be fine, esp if you had a good relationship with them in the past.  Congrats on your [possible] awesome new job!

    Post # 14
    Member
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’d put the reference down and email them to try to give them a heads up.  Have you used this individual for a reference before? In that case I definitely wouldn’t worry.  If you haven’t, did you have a strong positive relationship with them?  If so, again, I don’t think it’s that big a deal.  I know that nobody that I would be willing to put down for a reference would be upset if they got a random call asking for one.

    Post # 15
    Member
    320 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Yes, put them down either way. Try to contact them again, but don’t worry too much about it of you can’t get ahold of them. I have former employees who put me down as a reference three years after I left, and they don’t always give me warning. It’s kind of a surprise when I get the call, BUT in my experience, reference calls have all been pretty basic and honestly nothing I truly needed advanced warning for. I adored my employees and will always give them great references because they deserve them, and it sounds like your reference will do the same.

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