Post # 1
My shower is in a couple of weeks and I want to check in on etiquette with thank you notes. I don’t need any persuading that they need to be done; I get made fun of occasionally for always being the one to send a note! Because I am such an avid note sender, I have a lot of stationery with my current (maiden name) monogram. Is it ok to send thank you notes for shower gifts with this stationery? My future husband will not be at the shower, so I will be doing all of the thank you notes for gifts that came to “us.” While I know it is only my initials rather than both of ours, part of me thinks that using personlized staionery is more personal than just a generic thank you note out of a box.
Anyone have any thoughts? Use the staionery or go buy thank you cards?
Post # 3
I say use the stationary, since technically, you’re not yet married, therefore not yet taking his name. Especially if the card is really nice and elegant, I say go for it. Most people will just be happy to get a nice card.
Post # 4
i think thats fine! plus its one of the last times you get to use your name in a fun way. 🙂
Post # 5
Seems fine to me… it is your current last name, plus so many people keep their last name these days, and also, in my case my FI is taking my name, so that would be an extra cute factor in a scenario like that.
Post # 6
I say use them while you still can 🙂
Post # 7
@Saccebers: I think you should use them. First, you should still be going by that name until you are married. Second, a lot of people do not change their name.
Post # 8
@Saccebers: That is exactly what I did. I sent informals that were embossed with my then-current, maiden-name mongram.
Post # 9
Thank you all! I feel confident using my monogrammed staionery without horrifying any etiquette gurus!
Post # 10
@Saccebers: It is not only “ok” to use your own personalized stationery bearing your own current monogram, but impeccably correct. You may use it too, for any wedding presents that you receive before your wedding date, for invitations to any bridal teas that you might issue, and any other elegant correspondence you can dream up to use up your pretty cards. You may not use your married monogram until after you are actually married — and I hope that you acquire some as elegant as your current stationery!
Post # 11
Also, bridal shower gifts should generally be for the bride. Wedding gifts are for the couple. I only mention this to say that likely you won’t be responding for “us,” you’ll only be responding for yourself.
Post # 12
More than ok. No need to waste it!
Post # 13
@Saccebers: I think it’s fine