Post # 1
So I’m debating going the pre-loved dress route. I want a bargain, I want a deal, can’t imagine spending a ton on a dress BUT part of me can’t get past the idea of the dress’s ‘history’ I don’t know what happened to the bride who wore the dress before or her marriage and part of me believes in bad luck (as foolish as I know many people think that is). Does anyone else feel the same way?
Post # 3
Just thought I would add- Today is my parent’s 36 anniversary. My mom wore a pre-loved dress!
There is no such thing as bad luck, only bad thoughts. If you love it than it is the right one. If you get a bad feeling than it is not. And if you are super into luck and energy you can always “cleanse” the dress’s prevous energy by burning some sage near it.
Post # 4
@SparkleBee11: funny thing is i’m completely NOT into the whole luck and energy and cleansing thing. I just have a weird thing about weddings (rings & dresses specifically)
Post # 5
I’m not really superstitious (FI is most likely going to be seeing me in my dress before the wedding). As long as no one DIED in the dress, I’m good. No poltergeists plzkthx.
Post # 6
I swear by preownedweddingdresses.com. I got a 12,000 Oscar de la Renta gown for $2500, perfect condition, only worn for photoshoot- it was from his 2009 collection. It even came with the original bag and everything. I do know that there are consignment shops where you can physically go and try dresses on though, but the size restriction still exists.
It’s tricky in that there is only one size avaible since each dress is listed by a private seller, and you will likely have to pay through paypal. For me, it was worth it. I would never have found my dream dress otherwise since it’s several years old it doesn’t exist anymore.
I say GO FOR IT!!!!!
Post # 7
My dress was preloved!!!! And I loved it again at a third of the price!!!! I added a belt and made her my own :). And someday I hope my little girl will wear it! My mom wore a dress that my nana got from the Salvation Army, my parents have been married for 35 years!
Post # 8
@MsGinkgo: I’ve heard this brought up on here many times…
marriages fall apart for a multitude of reasons, but it has nothing to do with what one wears on the big day.
When I went through my divorce I never once thought *oh if only I had picked a different dress, maybe things would have worked out*
People fail people and people make mistakes, good bad or indifferent, its the people/situatioins… not the dress 😉
Post # 9
What about guys who hire tuxes which have been worn before? No one worries about that (as far as I know) so why should anyone worry about a pre-worn wedding dress?
Post # 10
@MsGinkgo: Ha! I’m the opposite. I’m normally somewhat superstitious but not when it comes to wedding stuff. After giving it a little thought, almost all of my superstition is tied to sports.
I say go for a preloved dress! Most of the time, I’m willing to bet that they’re from brides who have decided on a different dress or would prefer to have money for their marriages than hang on to the physical dress. All happy things 🙂
Post # 11
@paula1248: excellent point! Pretty sure nobody thinks the groom is jinxing the marriage with his rented tuxedo.
I am oddly superstitious about some things (not stepping on cracks, touching wood etc) but not about wedding-related items. I don’t know if I would buy a dress if I knew the marriage had ended in divorce, but as far as I know both of the ladies I bought dresses from are happily wedded. In fact, one of them sent me a super sweet note saying that her dress was now my (permanently) somethingborrow. I really liked that sentiment! I don’t see the difference (superstition-wise) between wearing a preowned gown purchased from a stranger, an heirloom (mother or grandmother’s) gown, or a groom renting a tux.
@weddingnerd: Loooove POWD, so many great deals to be found. I think the whole preowned gown thing is such a brilliant idea. I love that I can get an amazing deal on designer and couture wedding gowns, and put that saved money towards something else. I also think it’s better from an environmental point of view, given that most wedding dresses never see the light of day again.
Post # 12
Nope!! I’m not one to believe that a dress will doom my marriage. Besides, I’m pretty sure many used wedding dresses are actually from brides who changed their mind about that particular dress, not their relationship. Other women sell their dresses after the wedding in an attempt to recoup the cost of their weddings, too.
Post # 13
No not at all, but my mother is ridiculously superstitious and won’t let me buy a used one – annoying because the deals are so great!
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2015 - small cafe
I’m not really all that superstitious….few things here and there…like the number 13…but I’ve been looking at new and pre-owned dresses…and have considered pre-owned dresses that would have never been near my price range. This way you have more options. You make your own special energy and memories with a dress.
I already have an estate e-ring…but that’s because I wanted an art deco style ring with an older diamond. And, I’m going to probably use my mother’s wedding band or my grandmother’s aunt’s ring. Very sentimental.
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2015 - small cafe
Update: I did buy a dress from preownedweddingdress.com It’s a new one with tags attached from a discount bridal store….the owner was phenomenol. And I am so happy with it. It was the first one I fell in love with…but could not justify the cost…and I wound up saving $3000 going this route.
I would recommend it highly. I got the Watters Beverly Hills and it is beautiful.