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I just discovered the site IdonowIdont.com from another post on here... I've never heard of that before! Anyway, I was wondering... how would you feel if your SO bought your ring from a site like that (or e-bay or craigslist)? I don't know how I'd feel about it. I mean, there are some amazing deals, but I'm just not sure.
What do you think?
It honestly wouldn't bother me, as long as he did his homework in making sure he wasn't scammed. My right hand ring is an estate piece, and I love that it has a history!
I really wouldn't care less - as long as I loved the ring it wouldn't matter to me. I'd be proud if I got a good deal! LOL
We sought out something estate. We don't know a lot about jewelry so we decided craigslist/ebay were not for us for my ring, but my husband's wedding ring came from ebay for a whopping $38.
If it was what we were looking for and we were comfortable with the authenticity- absolutely ok by me
absolutely not. FI and I are both students and this would potentially would have saved us a lot of money, not to mention it's better for the environment! who cares if it's "used", it's still a valuable, beautiful piece of jewelry with all the symbolism you want it to have and quite frankly, the earth has been "using" the gold and gems in your "new" ring for millions or billions of years. :P
As long as he was 100% sure that he got what he paid for, I'd have no problem with it! I'd actually be a little excited at how much money he saved!
i'm much rather him get a good deal and save some money, i never liked the idea of him spending all that money on a ring anyway.
I got my ring from I do Now I dont.... we paid 2200 for a 1 ct round diamond with 3 stones on either side and a band with little diamonds all the way around. It appraised for over $11,000... seriously save the money for the honey moon :o)
Oh and by the way IDoNowIDont isn't like an Ebay or Craigslist because before your money goes to the seller the ring is held in escrow and appraised by a 3rd party jeweler to make sure the claims the seller made are legit and only THEN does it get sent to you with his full apprasial. The jeweler is IGA certified.
I wouldn't be mortified, but I would definitely be upset.
JoJo Bananas: can you explain your feelings? i'm curious.
Honestly, I didn't like the idea at first, but i'm checking out that site, and there ARE some really good deals!! No one has to know where the ring came from, they will all be impressed with the ring though!
To me it would depend on the ring. Is the rock real? Is the ring good quality? Do I like the style? Then, I wouldn't mind at all!
For the record, my FI bought my ring on black Friday and got a great deal on it. I love my ring and I'm glad he didn't spend the full price on it. The money spent doesn't matter to me as much as the man the ring comes with.
I think it would bother me more if he'd spent way too much money just to get a "name" new ring. Mine was purchased at an antique store (it's circa 1928-1930), which means it was almost definitely owned before. Whether the original owner broke off the engagement, got divorced or simply died is unknown. That doesn't bother me at all. It's a beautiful, good quality ring and no one in my lifetime died mining its stone.
I've been browsing around the site and I'm actually not super impressed. In theory I don't mind this... but not very many of the stones seem to be of good quality and I don't think the prices are *that* spectacular.
I have a vintage e-ring from the 1920s from Doyle and Doyle in NY and I love it! But a ring that was sold recently from a divorce seems a little bit less cheerful.
@azinaugust: I didn't know that the site was that secure. That definitely changes my viewpoint on it- I was more concered because of the chance of a scam than anything else, but it looks like this site is very reliable.
@corgi: I agree with you. I was going through the site last night, and while there are some pretty rings, the deals aren't as spectacular as I thought they'd be. I'm sure the really good deals are few and far between. In theory, though, I wouldn't mind it. Not after realizing that it actually is a secure way to buy a ring.
That seems like a great idea. And I really like how the process goes according to AZinAugust.
My SO did not want to buy a used ring because he was afraid we would inherit bad juju 
I agree with Corgi. I browsed around and didn't find any good deals at all being that most of the stones are not that great of quality.
this is really all relative...if somebody handed me ANY of the rings on that website, i'd gladly take it. as a student, we just didn't have $10k+ to spend on a ring (part of the reason i opted for a sapphire, though i never had wanted a diamond e-ring and always thought sapphires were crazy beautiful). i think 99% of american women would be more than happy with a 2 carat VVSI G 2 carat diamond ring from Tiffany's (one of the current options on the site), and i'm one of them (though i might resell it for a gorgeous gemstone ring, heh).
regardless of whether you like what's on the site or not, extraordinary diamond jewelry doesn't just 'disappear', and when its owner dies, gets divorced, sells a piece, and you can potentially happen upon a great deal because there's so much mark-up in stores and local jewelers; everyone wants the thrill of picking out a "new" piece. i could care less about the history of the stone, as long as it's beautiful. i find it interesting that a lot of women care if it was merely someone else's e-ring first but turn a blind eye to the fact that the environment and human lives are literally being destroyed/killed to continue to produce gemstones and gold. i'd rather have on my finger someone's token from divorce than the blood of an impoverished African stuck in the Western capitalistic system or the blood of a thousand non-human animals that died when an entire forest or mountain was destroyed because a precious gem or metal was underneath its surface, these things being necessary to create all these quote-unquote brand new engagement rings.
this rant wasn't directed towards anyone in particular, i really just wanted to point something out.
@Decemberbride that's why we researched it and read many many reviews before using IDoNowIDont. It was the promise that they appraise the ring first and then will give you back your money if the claims the seller made were false.
@Veganglam That's why we used IDoNowIDont. My only really motivating factor in an e-ring was that it wasn't a "Blood Diamond". But the clean diamonds from Cananda and Russia are 3x more expensive, so I thought that if I bought a "Used" ring I would have a clean conscious.
If anyone has any questions about my experience I did a few blog posts about it and I'm always willing to share my experience.
i'd totally do it lol!! but i am also a frugalista at heart and when you can save a buck, save a buck you know... and whose to say the diamond in the store isn't from a stone where someone has traded up for something else or even traded it for a different piece after a divorce or something like that?
I wouldn't have had a problem with it. Actually I know that the jeweller that FH bought my ring from occasionally has people come back and sell him their old rings (which he checks first to make sure they're legit) so my ring could well have come with a past history. It's something I love and it didn't involve something that I'm against (ie, Blood Diamond trading) so why would I be bothered by it?
I voted yes, not that I'd be "mortified," but a little bit like WTF.
I mean, when I buy him gifts they are brand new, I don't go trolling craigslist/other site for a used version of whatever it is he wanted (video game system, clothes he asked for, etc). I guess since it's not our usual MO it would strike me kind of strange if he did that for my e ring. I know it doesn't make a ton of sense. A diamond is a diamond. I know.
Also, I agree w/ the other posters who said the rings on that site don't seem like such steals. I took a look and for some of the rings, the sellers want close to the retail price to buy the same thing new.... just my impression from quickly browsing it.
I don't think I'd mind. I'm not sure if the thought would have ever occured to me to ask where my ring came from anyway (but I don't know since hubby told me right away, plus its packaging was a dead give away). I wouldn't mind used, but I would mind re-gifting, if that makes sense. Like if he had bought a ring for another woman and he never gave it to her, or she gave it back, and then he's giving it to me, that would bother me.
I'm pretty sure the rings didn't break up the marriage. I think it is a great place for people to share something beautiful with others. I wouldn't be upset.
I'd be 100% okay with it! I even tried to convince him to go that route awhile back when we were on an extremely tight budget and pinching pennies. = )
Vegan - for me it boils down to bad juju. I guess I just wouldn't want a ring with a bad past.
Eh, I don't think it matters one way or the other. I don't believe in... juju (as its called on the boards) so its fair game. Diamond is a diamond is a diamond and if you can save money on it, more power to ya!
I think it can be a great option for someone on a budget. I sold my ring from my l last marriage on CL and made someone increadably happy. She was able to get an upgrade ring her family would likely never have been able to afford otherwise, and I was able to "recycle" something that I didn't need in my life.
FWIW, she planned to reset the center stone and was giving the setting to her SIL. So, her ring was going to end up being "new" anyway. Also, I wonder how anyone can ever truly know whether their stone was used before since many jewelery stores offer trade-in's and I highly doubt they advertise "this is a used stone."
For the sale, we met at a jewelry store of her choosing so she could have the diamond checked out. The guy at the store thought I was an idiot for selling the ring for so little. lol... He kept asking me, "are you sure you want to do this?"
Additionally, I find the idea of used rings appealing on many levels from the enviornment to the corrput diamond industry. And you can get a really, really, REALLY good deal. If my SO were to get a ring, I would rather get a larger ring used than a smaller brand new one.
The only thing that would upset me is if it were a used ring HE had actually used before to propose to another girl. In that case, I'd have to say no way. But if it's a used ring coming from perfect strangers, I really wouldn't mind. Might want to do a bit of a sage burning around it (ha, ha) but if it saves money and you can confirm the authenticity of the stone(s), then I'm all for it!.
I would've cared less if it was "used"....get a jeweler to buff it out so it LOOKS brand new, and tada, works for me! Somebody's trash, my treasure? Who's to say the diamond I have now wasn't set in someone else's ring 10 years ago??
I agree with farfromachildbride, though, in that I wouldn't be ok with it if he proposed with it to someone else! But a stranger's ring?! SURE! There are some big freakin' pretty rings for sale for a great price out there.
I bought my wedding band from the site IDoNowIDont - a half eternity band set with round diamonds . . . . and it cost us only $200! I had bought a wedding band identical to this one 2 weeks beforehand at our local jewelry store - and it cost us $1,000 there. If we had only known about this site BEFORE we took that trip to the jewelry store . . .
We ended up taking the wedding band we got for $200 and mounting my 1.18 pear diamond on it. Guess my gorgeous pear diamond came from? We bought it off Craigslist! A guy with a broken engagement was looking to get rid of it and we snapped it up for $1700 (it appraises for almost $3,000). So now I have my dream wedding set, which is a pear diamond set on a diamond band with a matching diamond wedding band. This is a set we never could have afforded it we'd got it from a jewelry store and I don't mind that engagement ring was created by putting together parts from previously owned rings. Obviously, we don't feel like there is "bad ju ju" or bad luck that's attached to "used" jewelry.
Just to clarify, though, it was MY idea to look at previously owned jewelry when I wanted to upgrade my original wedding set (which was also my idea). My husband didn't care that I wanted to upgrade, but he was definitely concerned about the cost. Fortunately, we came up with a solution that made us BOTH happy. Oddly enough, though, if it had been my husband's idea to look at used jewelry instead of mine, I think I might have been hurt. Well, maybe - until I saw what I could get in our price range, that is!
Ladies, don't be put off by previously owned jewelry/diamonds - you could end up with your dream set like I did for a fraction of the cost.
I don't think it would be a deal breaker but I wouldn't love the idea. I can appreciate a great deal. But I feel like the ring itself would have bad vibes.
I'm with Farfromachildbride - my 1st thought was as long as FI didn't propose to someone else with the same ring... doesn't matter to me. I'd love it if we saved $$ and could use it toward something else.
I considered buying a used/pre-owned wedding gown, so why not a ring?
Mine is from a small jeweler that got it used and reconfigured it.. so it's definitely used. Both rings I seriously considered were "conseignment" rings. It's new to me! And less impact globally. Much like veganglam said, i'd rather have an heirloom ring like this that may have come from an estate sale or messy divorce than a blood diamond! (i'm using extreme examples). My diamond was cut in the 1910s so it's been around, but i don't know or care to know where it's been.
Oh and ditto to @dancy and @farfromachildbride - if it were used before by my man to propose, then i'd say oh hellll no.
I would be fine with a used e-ring unless it was from a FI's previous engagement attempt! Otherwise, bring on the deals!
I voted yes, but I don't think I'd be mortified. I'm also one to believe in bad energy and wouldn't want that surrounding my upcoming marriage.
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