Used e-ring from divorcees

posted 2 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you accept an used e-ring, bought from a divorcee?
    NO WAY! : (23 votes)
    19 %
    SURE, WHY NOT? : (70 votes)
    57 %
    MAYBE : (29 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 2
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    721 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Eeeeek. I wouldn’t wear it. But, I’m one of those people who believe in spiritual energy, etc. 

    Post # 3
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    7 posts
    Newbee

    Like dirt on the stone, negative energy on a stone can be washed away just as easily. 

    Post # 4
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    88 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    As long as it didn’t belong to my FI’s ex-wife or anything I wouldn’t care.  As long as its pretty and sparkly 🙂  I don’t care.  Once its mine, its mine– I’m not supersticious or anything so it wouldn’t bother me at all.  

    Post # 5
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    1303 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

    If the price was right you can always cleanse the negative away.

    Post # 6
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    1174 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Oh no! – misunderstood the question at first and voted wrong. I thought you meant that if your fiance had a ring from his OWN previous failed relationship and tried to reuse it.. it which case, ugh!! Of course that’s terrible and thoughtless. But if it’s a vintage/antique ring, who the heck cares? It doesn’t have any personal bad feelings associated, so it’s just a lovely vintage piece. I have one 🙂

    Post # 6
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    7262 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    My DH was previously engaged, and we used the same center stone from that ring in my ering. There was no way I was letting him throw away thousands of dollars!

    Post # 8
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    1174 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Cory_loves_this_girl:  Good point! I would revise my previous comment, what you did makes a lot of sense, as it wasn’t the same ring at all 🙂

    Post # 9
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    7262 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    MrsSnowMountain:  Yeah, I wouldn’t have been okay with having the same exact ring, but we chose my setting together and that really made it my own. At the end of the day, it’s just a rock, and I don’t believe a rock can be bad luck 🙂

    ETA that I never saw my stone in the other setting. DH never showed me that ring and just took it to the jeweler to have it reset. I think it helps that I’ve never seen my stone in the other setting. I’ve only recently seen the original setting in person because DH is hoping to sell it, and my setting blows it out of the water 😉

    Post # 10
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    1180 posts
    Bumble bee

    uncltredpearl:  if the fact that most gemstones are unethically sourced doesn’t bother most people enough to keep them  from buying them, then I don’t understand how some weird juu juu about an e-ring’s previous owner be a million times worse than that.

    Post # 12
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    721 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Xu:  Buying ethically sourced stones is extremely important, and more important than knowing the ring’s previous marriage history. But this topic has nothing to do with that. 

    I personally have an ethical diamond, and I also wouldn’t wear a divorcees ring because energy wise it’d make me uncomfortable. But that’s me and my beliefs. 

     

    Post # 13
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    4819 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    uncltredpearl:  I kinda believe in some supernatural stuff, but I wouldn’t mind a “used” ring. Look at all the vintage rings people buy that are 100+ yrs old. Who knows what “they’ve been through”? What about antique furniture or some little thing bought at a garage sale? No worries here!

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee

    The diamonds that we buy that we think are new aren’t always new. Diamonds change hands throughout the centuries. They are recut, reset, resold. You may never know the whole history behind a stone’s origin. Energetically speaking, a stone is a stone to me and I would just remove any negative energy if I like that particular stone. No one’s energy would stop me from enjoying it if I wanted it. I would however go out of my way to try and purchase conflict free diamonds. My diamond is a second hand stone from a vintage shop. There’s no telling if it was associated with conflict, but I am also all for recycling what other people don’t want anymore.

    Post # 15
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    721 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Ooooooo. This entire time, I thought the OP meant a ring from their FI’s previous marriage or engagement. 

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