Post # 1
We are having 6 kids under the age of 12 attending our wedding. I was thinking about putting small lego sets at the boys place settings and little jewelry making sets at the girls place settings. I figured those are non-messy, quiet entertainment options. My mom had suggested having a cookie or cupcake decorating station for them as well (like plain sugar cookeis, with frosting, sprinkles and M&Ms). We were also thinking about having a movie playing in the bridal suite with snacks and such for them.
Im just trying to decide if these extras will be worth it. Not being judgey but with the way kids are today, all of the extra stuff might just be not used. I could see this stuff getting passed up in preference for their Ipads/gameboys etc – which I prefer NOT to be used and or out at the reception area. What do you bees think?
Girls: 12, 9, 6
Boys: 9, 8, 8
Post # 2
It’s a neat idea, but I don’t think it’s necessary at all. The kids are old enough to sit quietly and not make a fuss.<br /><br />As a girl… I’d want a lego set over a stuffy ol’ jewelery making kit.
Post # 3
I think it’s a cute idea, you could also get fun loop sets for each child’s setting.., the young ones at my work LOVE those things, even the boys!
Post # 4
Can’t you give legos to all of the kids? Why do the girls get stuck with jewelry kits when the boys get legos?
Post # 5
Yes – Legos are a perfectly gender-neutral toy!
Post # 6
The girls I know would prefer lego over jewelry making.
I also would not do cupcake or cookie frosting. Can you say “messy”?
Post # 7
Hyperventilate: , likewoah: The girls dont like legos and this isnt an assumption. 2 of the girls are older and see legos as “baby” toys. Such pre-teens divas! And the youngest girl, would want to do what the oldest girls are doing. Although she could easily like legos just as much, I just could see her wanting to be like the big girls.
jenilynevette: Very good Idea
Post # 8
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
SparkleBee11: I think it is a great idea to keep them entertained! And I dont agree that the girls would enjoy Legos over jewelry making. My 10 and 8 year olds would LOVE the jewelry making. However, my 2 year old nephew would probably like the jewelry, especially if his Hammah and Ewwa were doing it too, it would depend on what it is. So you may want to either go for something completely gender neutral, like coloring, or have enough to give them all options.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - Fourth Presbyterian Church, Chicago, IL & Cheney Mansion, Oak Park, IL
I love the idea of something small & cute for the kids, but both of these ideas have small pieces. Especially with the younger kids, I wouldn’t want them to spill it and people to be stepping on legos or beads. I know my nephew would rather play with an ipad than legos though, so I don’t know how much success you’ll have in luring them away from electronics!
Post # 10
MrsUPS: I was going to do something simple like coloring, but these kids arent easily entertained. I think I will do a gender neutral activity. Just not sure what would be OK for all the kids.
Miss Clover: Im hoping their parents have enough sense not to bring the electronics (as we are requesting an unplugged wedding). Theres a time and place for that stuff. I attended a few weddings as a kid and no special accomodations were made for me. I know it is so different today and that these kids are used to having everything scheduled for them or being provided with entertainment.
Post # 11
Both my girls, and I, would prefer the jewelry making. I can’t remember when I lost interest in lego, but for my girls it was around age 6 or so. Also lego is pretty costly.
Another idea is an activity / questionaire sheet, perhaps wedding related. (Perhaps even with questions about the bride and groom which they need to ask someone to find out).
That said, it’s not your responsibility to entertain the children. There’s a good chance either their parents will bring something, or they’re used to going out to a meal and socialising, especially if they know a few other guests.
p.s. By unplugged wedding, I hope you don’t also mean totally unplugged reception, because IMO guests should have an opportunity to take photos at the reception.
Post # 12
SparkleBee11: You could by them books chosen for their individual interests.
Post # 13
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
SparkleBee11: I was going to do something simple like coloring, but these kids arent easily entertained.
I completely understand. The only reason my girls would be occupied with coloring is because they are artistic. Maybe have a game table so they can play uno, crazy 8’s, monopoly, something. I know you want the unplugged wedding but we will be setting up the xBox with like Dance Dance Revolution (or whatever the kids are playing these days) at our reception for the children. If you had a seperate room it might work better. I don’t know, just something to consider.
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Post # 14
Hard to please the kids these days! I think it’s a really nice gesture of you but it’s also not completely necessary. Also, I think kids will have fun at your wedding- they’ll probably enjoy the dancing/music/food and hang out with their parents or each other. You don’t have to provide something, but it’s also a really nice thing to do if you have the time and energy.
I realize you have decided to have an unplugged wedding. I wonder if people will think that it’s just about taking pictures and that it’s fine for their kids to have electronics (I am not sure how you are sharing the message of the unplugged wedding- may want to be specific about what is permitted and what is not)
Post # 15
aussiemum1248: no not totally unplugged but I really really cringe at the idea of
1) People taking pictures with their phones & uploading pictures of our wedding to facebook, instagram etc. Mostly I dislike the idea of people posting pictures of FI & I, just because I feel it is invasive/disrespectful. I get people dont like carrying cameras, when cell phone cameras have gotten so much better. But there is something so off putting about walking into a room full of people and watching them look at the bride & groom through the screen of their phone and not making eye contact. A camera, an actual camera… thats another story. That says “I brought this because I care and planned to capture memories”, not because I had it in my pocket/purse anyway. Plus no one stares at their camera screen for 20 minutes trying to load pictures to the internet after taking the picture.
2) Children on devices at family events that involve cultural traditions. Why have the kids there, if they arent participating in the event? At a family BBQ its not such a big deal, but at Thanksgiving? Holidays? Weddings? Nope. As speech language pathologist I work on teaching social skills to children. It just kills me when I see kids lose out on life experiences because they were engaged with a screen and not their social enviornment. These 6 kids, we LOVE and care about. We want them to experience our traditions and cultures. Thats why we invited them. If they are going to be on devices, they might as well be home with a babysitter.
3) Also theres a lot of loss in ambiance from electronics. It eats me up when I see a room that is nicely lit with candles and dimmed chandeleirs, cluttered with the back lights of cell phone screens. I just cant imagine seeing the back light of the huge Ipads the kids have amoungst the carefully planned lighting.
When all is said and done. I am not going to fuss over these things, but if anyone asks I will state my preferences. Im not putting it in writing, making announcements or anything but I just feel these things should be common knowledge. IMO it is general respect not to be taking pictures with your cell phone at a wedding and that kids shouldnt be on electronic devices at formal events (our wedding is black tie preferred, Saturday night). If I can avoid it at all costs, I will- which is what I hope to do by having other activties for them.