Post # 1
Fiance and I are discussing ushers. He doesn’t think they are necessary. I think they are helpful. We aren’t having a traditional bridal party, so it’s not like the Groomsmen are natural ushers. If anything, I think I’ll ask a handful of friends to help guide people in the right direction (not necessarily usher to their seat, as I would prefer).
What are your thoughts on ushers? Are you using them? Do you think I could get away with not having them?
Post # 3
I dont think they are necessary. They are a nice touch, but we didnt have any ushers for our wedding. The groomsmen were out there and they acted like ushers if they needed to but that was about it. I think you could get away with not having any, most people know which side to sit on.
Post # 4
we’re having two ushers, one for his side one for mine. just to navigate the guests but i dont think they are essential.
Post # 5
We’re having ushers, but mostly because I wanted my brothers to have a role in the wedding, and we wanted to keep the actual wedding party itself small-ish. They’re definitely a nice touch, but totally not necessary. 🙂
Post # 6
I think as long as you have someone in front “navigating” your guests, you will be ok. I plan on using my Groomsmen as “ushers” but I’m not going to have them formally walk anyone to their seats.
Post # 7
I think it depends on how caught up you and your family are about where everybody should sit. I’ve told this story on here before, but my cousin (mom’s neice) got married and had groomsmen who didn’t really know what was going on as their “ushers”. When my parents got their programs, they said they were aunt and uncle of the bride, and was there somewhere in particular the couple wanted them to sit? The ushers said, no and that the couple wasn’t even doing the “bride’s side / groom’s side” of the church, and just pointed them to a space on what’s traditionally the grooms side of the church. My parents shrugged, and did as they were told. Then right before the ceremony started my grandfather (mom’s dad/bride’s grandfather) looked around trying to find them, and pitched a fit that my parents were “snubbing” them by not sitting up front with the family, and sitting on the wrong side of the church! Once everything got explained, everyone calmed down, but there were a lot of hurt feelings that could’ve been avoided. But, if your families aren’t as worked up about “grandma has to sit here, and all the cousins should be in the third row” etc etc, then you can def get away without them.
Post # 8
If your wedding will be super huge, then maybe; or if you wanted to give some folks honors, but only if you’re having at least 60+ people I’d say. Otherwise, folks know how to sit themselves. And no one really sticks with the old convention of sitting on the bride or groom’s side.
Post # 9
I think they are a nice little tradition, especially since Fiance has so many dude friends. And now I get to have an aisle runner, so they are doing more than just seating people.
Post # 10
Ushers are very helpful. They help encourage people to sit near the front of a large ceremony site, and they make sure family sit in the front rows (if that’s important to you).
Post # 11
I think it’s essential to have either ushers or a very assertive DOC, ideally both. Why not have ushers, since it’s a nice way to honor people who can’t be groomsmen. There are always latecomers and it’s nice to have someone help them get seated, prevent them (and all guests) from tromping down the center aisle, fill in all the seats so you don’t have a smattering of empty chairs and then people with nowhere to sit, etc. I am always a fan of preparing and planning when possible rather than allowing for chaos, so I think ushers are very useful.
Post # 12
It depends on the wedding. One of my cousins is being our usher, because we want to prevent everyone sitting on one side. Most of our guests are “bride’s side” guests as my family is much larger, so I’m hoping having an usher will help it look a bit more balanced instead of being really “bride’s side” heavy. My cousin will be encouraging our friends to sit on CiarraiMan’s side to even out my huge family.
Post # 13
I think it depends on the wedding. If you are having a large affair then yes they would be very helpful, but a small wedding really doesn’t need them. I asked the wife of one of my husband’s groomsmen if she would honor us by acting as a hostess and if she would like to get ready with me and my girls. She seemed pleased to be involved in the wedding. She would basically make sure people know where to sit and that things go smoothly during the ceremony.
Post # 14
We have just decided to let our 8 groomsmen usher people to their seats. Our wedding party is coming in as couples from the back…so, this will give the guys something to do. It, also, saves us on gifts , bouts, etc…
Post # 15
we didn’t have ushers, two of our groomsmen did the escorting of the grandmas and stuff. But uh, people DO know how to sit at a wedding, so i didn’t think it was necessary to escort people to their seats