Post # 1
When I was at a close friend’s wedding last fall, I found it really weird to have a groomsmen walk me down the aisle while my fiance trailed somewhere behind us. When I told my mother this, she was OUTRAGED and said that at a formal event you simply MUST have the female guests ushered down the aisle.
Is it bizarre that I find this a lame and stupid tradition? Will people be confused if our ushers simply show couples/families which side they are to sit on?
The only other solution I can think of is to have both the groomsmen and the bridesmaids act as ushers for guests of the opposite gender, but this seems stupid to me too.
Thoughts? What are you doing? Am I totally off base? And, if I’m not off base, is this a fight worth fighting?
Post # 3
We are just having ushers walk in the couple/family as a group. 🙂 And we are not doing sides. I just want the ushers there to keep things moving smoothly before the ceremony and to make sure the first row will be reserved for family and the aisles for elderly people.
Post # 4
I totally think this is creepy, too, and so does my fiance! I’m glad to know we aren’t the only ones who think this is weird. He said he always feels so weird to have some stranger walking his fiancee to the church pew.
Post # 5
It’s such an old tradition, how many events do you go to wear an usher escorts you down the aisle?
I have been to many formal weddings that did not have the ushers escort the guests, and I really don’t think anyone gives it a second thought.
I’m also not a fan of the brides/groom’s sides, though, we just had guests sit where they wanted too, so our ushers really were there to greet and lend assistance if needed.
No need to get into a fight w/ your mom ahead of time. Just nod, and say, "mmm-hmmm", but on the day of, she’ll be so busy doing her thing, she won’t even notice.
Post # 6
Is your wedding black or white tie required? If not, it’s not a "formal" event. Tell your mom that you will therefore adjust the protocol accordingly.
Post # 7
My understanding is that an usher should escort an otherwise unescorted lady to her seat. So anyone accompanied by her fiance should be escorted to her seat by her fiance.
Post # 8
SOunds perfectly normal for weddings to me. I’ve never known it to be any other way and a guy walking another guy down arm in arm might look even funnier…lol
I don’t think that anyone will notice as this is just the way it is a most weddings. It’s why they ask people to be "Ushers"
Yeah in this day in age the only time you see it is at weddings, but I quite like it. It’s fun to be all "formal and proper" – you know?