Using one name personally and one name professionally

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
11626 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I took my maiden name as my legal middle name, and use that on official documents, despite the fact that my legal surname is my husband’s name.  Professionally, I haven’t gotten around to changing my name at work (it’s a huge process/headache). 

I think as long as your employer doesn’t have an issue with your name choice, you should be fine. 

(And FYI – if that’s your real name, you may want to consdier getting a mod to take it out and put in an example name!)

Post # 5
2460 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

When I got married the first time I really didn’t want to take his name but I eventually kind of gave in. I kept my maiden name legally and used his socially. I’ll be honest, it was a huge pain in the ass! I kept forgetting which name I used where and what name people were used to me as being. My Facebook account has always been in my maiden name and I had friend requested a couple of people who only knew my married name and they didn’t know who I was at first.

My opinion is decide on one name and stick with it. It’s so much easier!

Post # 6
3677 posts
Sugar bee

I also kept my full name and added my husband’s to it. I’m fine with using my full name professionally/formally and just his name informally. Many female colleagues of mine (who are role models for me in a number of ways) have gone about it the same way. I think it makes a big difference in how easy the adjustment is if you feel like you’re the only one doing it, versus if you can look to other women around you who have done it. Be confident! This is becoming more and more common all over.

Post # 7
4 posts
  • Wedding: August 2016

I will change my last name.

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