Post # 1
When we got engaged, I pretty immediately chose a MOH and 2 BMs. I’ll also be having my 2 nieces as flowergirls and my dad is walking me down the aisle. FI planned to ask his friend J to be his best man, but hasn’t yet done so (the wedding is in less than 4 months).
I just asked him about it and he says he doesn’t want to ask J because he feels they’ve drifted lately. We went through his other close friends and he doesn’t want to ask any of them either. He has no siblings and his male cousins are all 10 or 20 years younger and he’s not very close to them. I suggested his daughter (she’s 21) but he thinks that’s weird.
He asked if it’s OK not to have a best man. I don’t know…is it? I don’t want to force him to pick someone, but I’ve got all these attendants. Anyone ever hear of anything like this? Any suggestions?!
Post # 3
I think it’s fine to not have a best man. If I had it to do over again, I don’t think I’d have a MOH, not because I don’t love my MOH, but because I love them all equally. I’d say just pick someone to make a speech (that could be appropriate for his daughter) if he wants to do speeches at all, and call it a day. I don’t think anyone will take notice really.
Post # 4
My groom does not have a best man, either. He’s got two teenaged groomsmen. My MOH will be presenting a speech (and anyone else who feels like following suit at the time). I’m with MissHelen in that I don’t think anyone will notice.
Post # 5
Does he want any groomsman? Or no attendants at all?
Post # 6
We’re not having either a best man or MOH! It was too difficult to pick and we didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings!
Post # 7
My FI isn’t have a Best Man – he didn’t want to have to choose one guy over the overs. He is having 5 GMs. I didn’t choose a MOH, for the same reason that I feel my 3 girls are all on the same level of closeness to me. Some people think its weird, but who cares!
Post # 8
My partner also doesn’t want a best man. He has a brother who is 25 years younger then he. He has mates, but none he feels close enough to to ask to be a best man in his opinion. I am only having one bridesmaid, and don’t at all mind if he chooses not to.
My only dilemma is who do you then get to be his witness when signing the marriage certificate. I know you could just ask someone to come up and sign it, but then I figure why aren’t they just then given the best man title anyway seeing as their name is recorded on the document that records the marriage.
What did you or will you do for his witness on the marriage certificate?