Post # 1
I’m 23 and my husband of seven wonderful months is also 23. We’re very mature for our age but we still like to have a good time. We have an almost two year old daughter and we like to do things with her.
The problem is that we would also like to spend time with other married couples or those in relationships. But the ones we know are so flaky. Couple 1 comes up with some excuse every time we propose doing something or even when they suggest something. Couple 2 don’t respond to our proposals. Couple 3 doesn’t ask us to do anything but they’re constantly making plans with other couples. To top it off, our single friends really don’t want anything to do with us.
I’m pretty hurt by it and my husband is starting to see what I’ve been talking about. We try to be good friends by babysitting, goin to baby functions, listening when an ear is needed, opening up our home or whatever. But it’s starting to feel like we’re some bothersome couple who has cooties written all over us.
Has anyone every experienced anything similar? It was bad before the wedding but now it’s 10x worse.
Post # 3
Hey there Mrs. Taylor,
What you are experiencing is not uncommon at all. As people get older they tend phase out of the lifestyle of tight knit friends from their younger years. Even so, you can have a flourishing social life, but it might requre getting out there and meeting new people.
I suggest you and your hubby get involved in the community in settings where you can meet like minded people. Look into hiking clubs in your area, like this one http://www.prairiepackers.org/ or volunteer with an organization you like such as the Sierra Club http://kansas.sierraclub.org/ Heres a link to a list of volunteer organizations in Shawnee. http://www.americantowns.com/ks/shawnee-volunteer-organizations
Just hang in there and keep trying! There’s a really good chance you will meet more interesting couples than the ones you described here down the road in life.
Post # 4
Ugh, flaky people are very aggravating. I am sorry to hear that your friends are not being very good friends. That said, it sounds like you are doing all you can, but they are not responding. It’s hard to change other people. Can you branch out in your social circle? I am a swing dancer and that is a great way to meet people, and there are dance communities all over the country, including in Kansas City. Not to mention that it is a fun activity to do as a couple.
Post # 5
Im sorry! I have found that some friends have gotten really flaky after we got married. One of my best friends from high school who was a bridesmaid will not get together with me. I havent seen her in 3.5 months and we live 15 minutes away from each other! Ive tried to get together with her but she keeps bailing on me. So I know how it feels – it sucks! Maybe its time you guys try to meet new people and make some new couple friends?