Post # 1
So I mentioned to my parents that we want to go on vacation after Christmas. Now, they want to go on a cruise with us (they live 5 hours away, so it would be nice to spend some time with them)…however, the hubs is "not thrilled" about the idea. I like the idea, but I’m not sure about it. They can be "space invaders" although mom promised that they’d give us space, claiming that of course, they want theirs, too. And I know they’d love to see us.
So what are your experiences with vacations with your parents or in-laws? Is a cruise ship enough space to get away? Or am I asking for major trouble? We’re going on a cruise next June with his friends (I’m not super duper thrilled, but it’ll be amusing nonetheless) and I almost feel like it’s a two-way street and I DO want to see them. When they come to town they stay with us, which is fine for a couple of days… Hm. Thanks!
Post # 3
How long is the cruise? I think as long as you get rooms that aren’t right next to each other/adjoining and you set some ground rules (ie. we won’t be eating EVERY meal together, we won’t be doing the exact same things for every place we dock, etc) then you’ll be fine.
I’ve only been on one cruise, but I found the ship to be huge! There were a ton of different places to eat and diversions. I think you could definitely get your space when you want as long as your parents are understanding.
Post # 4
Remember my post the other day about "living" with family for more than a week and vacationing with them? We’ve been on TWO cruises with his whole immediate family. And it was GREAT. Cruise ships are so FREAKING huge and there are so many different activities that you can certainly all do your own thing. There are tons of excursions to do at port that you do not have to do the same excursion (or any!) if you do not want to. I think this is a situation where you can say let’s maybe do one excursion together while we’re there as a family then the rest of the port times are ours. You can meet up for lunch if you want during the day while at sea. Or not! Then the nice part is you will see them at least once a day for dinner. 🙂
But, I am biased because I LOVE cruises.
Post # 5
I love going on vacation with my family. It definitely just naturally works out so that pairs can split off when they need a little alone time, but then when everyone is feeling social, we all gather together. We’ve done two big family cruises, with 15+ people, and I think everyone felt they had enough privacy. Just make sure you don’t get adjoining rooms! And try to start off the cruise the way that you want it to continue. For example, if it’s a tropical cruise with lots of sitting around in the sun time, maybe choose different decks from your parents, rather than staking out a row of four chairs all together.
My fiance and I actually got engaged (in Venice) when we were on a cruise trip with my mom, so I definitely know that it can still be a romantic and intimate trip.
If your husband is feeling uncomfortable about it, could you maybe set up some "ground rules" for the trip? Like you will have 3 dinners with your parents, but the rest on your own? Or that you’ll all meet for breakfast, but then split off for sightseeing in pairs for the remaininder of the day, before coming back for cocktails together? Maybe he just needs some reassurance that it’s not going to be all parents, all the time.
By The Way: welcome back! Hope your wedding went beautifully!
Post # 6
Saturday through Thursday. And my parents always get a handicap room, and we definitely will not be getting one. So I’m hoping that means we aren’t next door.
Also, my mom had said that we could leave the ship together, and decide on a time to meet up to taxi back to the boat, but we won’t shop together all day…
…yes i was thinking about ground rules, too, specifically regarding dinners. Hellooo we’re still newlyweds! =]
You guys are making me feel better though…being trapped in a house with my parents is likely a lot different than a huge ship
Thanks, it went off amazingly! I’ll post a recap once some pics come back, which may be in a month, lol
Post # 7
My boyfriends family does this every year. Last year was my first year going away with them. We went to a Jelly Stone campground for a week in Ohio. It was a really nice trip it was his parents, his BIL, SIL + kids, and us with his daughter. It was great. We generally have a good time all together. I can tell you that I now look forward to our extended family trip. Its always a good time. Don’t sweat it. I’m sure you’ll get your alone time that you guys wanted as well as you’ll get your fill of family time with your parents. I’ve never been on a cruise but can i suggest that you each plan out your own excursions without consulting each other. It will be great away to get some of that alone time.
This year we all have too much going on so we’re only doing a couple weekend camping trips. We have one more left to do. It’s been great. No major issues.
Next year, we’re going to disney world with the whole family. That means driving to florida and driving back and 5 days in orlando. That will be a challenge…my personal goal is to avoid the car with the kids as much as possible(12, 10, 8 and all girls)! And I hope to be happily married by that time too!
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2008 - St. Catherine of Genoa, Jin Asian Cuisine Restaurant
Our last two vacations were both with our parents/families! (One with his parents, and recently with my family). I honestly don’t mind it at all. It’s kind of nice to have travel companions. 🙂 In both vacations, Mr. T and I still had some time to ourselves. Sometimes we branched off from the group. Everything worked out fine.
Also, I’ve done a big family cruise (with aunt, uncles and cousins, etc). I personally think a cruise is the perfect way to do a joint vacation. There is always so much to do, and you don’t have to stay together. Everyone can do their own thing (if they want), and you’d always be guaranteed to see each other at dinner–which is perfect for re-capping your days! I actually have been trying to plan another big family cruise for awhile now, but it’s hard to get everyone’s schedules together!
Post # 9
You might be okay as long as you’re in different rooms. We vacation with FH’s grandparents on the 4th of July and that seems to go fine since we have different rooms
Post # 10
I think a cruise is a great vacation to do ‘family style’ because there are so many things to do and opportunities to be together and also have time alone. =)
Post # 11
I think a cruise would be a good vacation to take with the parents. You can request a cabin far away from them and it’s a big ship, so you don’t have to spend every minute with them. I understand your Darling Husband not loving the idea, but try to use those facts as selling points!
Post # 12
ok ejs, as a cruise ventran (I have been on a total of 14, count em 14) both with parents, grandparents, my entire family and my Fiance, it’s alright!
the ships are usually big enough to kind of do your own thing and not see them all day! seriously there was 2 days I didn’t see my family!
We have been on a few family vacays with both my parents and his and it’s never been an issue. The only thing with his parents is they insist on having dinner together quite often, they do let us have our nights out alone when we say we want to have a dinner with one another.
I don’t think you will have any issue, as long as your parents will be ok with you two kind of doing your own thing on the cruise – as in you guys not having to do every activity, know every move etc. seriously, there are alot of nooks and crannys and places on the boat you will be able to get away lol! run ejs run!
and one thing I DO love about vacationing with our parents – they pay for alot, lol!