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    Politichick    December 31, 2016   Washington DC/SF Bay Area

    Hi everyone! So I know many of you ladies participated in the Christmas challenge and had some success. I didn't do the Christmas Challenge but since Christmas I have basically shut my mouth about anything wedding related. I am now ready to commit to a full on Valentine's Day Challenge!

    I vow to not mention getting engaged or wedding-related until after Valentine's Day. Who's with me?!

    It's less than a month so it's totally doable. I actually am really looking forward to this Valentine's day because it's the first time since I was 15 that I actually get one (due to distance, etc)! I have lots of special days coming up in the next few months and I hope S finally proposes. Even if it's a bit corny, I would love a V-day proposal because that's the day my grandparents got engaged. If not, maybe our pseudo-anniversary two weeks later. Either way, I will be sure to enjoy this Valentine's Day and not just sit on the couch eating Dove's chocolate while watching Bridget Jones's Diary again.

     
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    mngf    August 4, 2012   Minneapolis, MN

    Count me in.  I could use a good solid reason ringing in my head not to bring it up.

    It would be more fun if I thought there was a chance I'd be getting a V-Day proposal, but sadly, I know better.

     
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    ILuvDance17    September 22, 2012   St. Louis

    I'm in too! Man, this is going to be hard!

     
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    HoneyBear    March 17, 2012   Texas/ Isla Mujeres

    I vow to not mention getting engaged or wedding-related until after Valentine's Day.

    23 days and counting! lol We can do this ladies!!!!!!!!

     
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    surkim    September 2, 2012  

    I generally don't mention this sort of thing anyway, but should it come up in conversation, I will pooh-pooh it and move on.  Take that, BF. :p

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    Yeah, I'm going to have to PASS on this one, seeing that we'll be engaged by then. Or if we're not... well, I'll quite frankly be shocked out of my mind.

     
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    fuschiasparkles    November 4, 2011   FL

    IM IN!

     
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    Roux    December 2, 2012   Ballarat, Australia

    Hmmm, I think I'm in. Is this just bringing the topic up? What if SO brings it up, then can we talk about it?

     
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    Cybele       Mumbai, India

    I'm in, and this challenge will be very tough for me because I'm going on a road trip for the first half of Feb with BF and passing through my high school town and it's going to be a real challenge not to continue the "So you guys are honeymooning/married/engaged?" conversation that a number of people inevitably begin with in such circumstances.

     
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    Politichick    December 31, 2016   Washington DC/SF Bay Area

    @Roux I think it's up to you if you want to talk about about it if he brings it up first. I personally will try to change the subject or ignore him and avoid opening that can of worms.

     
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    MariaPaz    October 22, 2011   Santiago, Chile

    I'm in, too! This must be the 5th challenge I've joined- and I've failed miserably every time! :S

    Hope the v-day's challenge is different! :)

     
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    HoneyBear    March 17, 2012   Texas/ Isla Mujeres

    I blew it. Im out lol

     
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    Knelly      

    Count me in, although I don't think it's going to Happen until March or April it will be good for my BF to have a break from my little hints and annoying comments!

     
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    Frustratedbird    May 15, 2012  

    I'll be in, but what if the boy brings it up? Can I talk about it if he initiates or do I have to somehow shut that down?

     
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    mrswolf    December 12, 2012  

    Good, I have a support team to not to mention about the wedding, engagement or commitment to my bf after V-day. I'm in. Good luck every1.

     
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    surkim    September 2, 2012  

    At the rate things tend to go, there is no point of me being "in" on this challenge.  Not that I'd written it in stone or anything.

    Mr. Postman delivers a package today and addresses me as "Ms. BF-lastname".  How am I supposed to not mention "oh so the postman today called me Ms. BF-lastname... jerk."  

    It's like looking at people's front doors with their initial on it, and wanting such a door, but having to say "but our last names don't match, how can we have such a wonderful door?!"  

    And last weekend my aunt calls me "Ms. BF-nickname".  It's like I'm not Uncle Fester anymore, I'm Mr. Debbie!   I tell this to BF, and what does he say?  "I like the sound of Ms. BF-nickname".  WTH, BF.  If you're going to take their side, go all the way. Meanie.

     
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    Miss Biner    November 5, 2011  

    I've gotten a little bad about making comments...at least once per day.  So I'm joining in on this too!

     
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    love it    September 3, 2011   Kalamazoo, MI

    I'm in!  I tried vowing to a friend two weeks ago that I would stop mentioning engagements and weddings, but I failed.  This time I am really doing it!

     
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    HoneyBear    March 17, 2012   Texas/ Isla Mujeres

    OK, I am starting over again lol

    I can do this!!!!! Only 20 days left

     
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    MissBeans    May 21, 2010  

    I'm in!  I will try not to bring up the topic of weddings/engagement.  I know we will get engaged soon...we have to because we're planning a May 21, 2010 wedding!  I need to stop talking about it anyway because I know he wants it to be a surprise.

     
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    ILuvDance17    September 22, 2012   St. Louis

    uhh!! This is so hard!

     
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    ceamoste    September 3, 2011  

    I am so in!

    however, his grandma keeps asking me when the engagement party is so let's hope i don't see her, seeing as we're not engaged :P

     

    but i think i can do it. although he's been bringing it up more often, so it'll be hard :P

     
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    mngf    August 4, 2012   Minneapolis, MN

    Okay, entrapment!  MNbf and I were at the apartment of a friend of his, and the friend and his fiancee are getting married in a few months and bf is a groomsman, and the fiancee was well into wedding-mode so we all talked about wedding stuff for a while.  But only about THEIR wedding...that doesn't count, right? 

    I'm starting to feel bad about thinking so much about it, because I brought up my thoughts about the future (and, okay, engagement hopes) a few weeks ago (PRE-challenge), and I think he feels like he's disappointing me.  And I don't want him to feel like he's not a good boyfriend to me or anything...

    ...so I think this challenge is a GOOD thing for me.  If I can stick to it.   

     
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    CuteLittleBuzzingBee    September 10, 2010  

    This is going to be SO hard for me, but I really NEED to join this challenge as talking about engagement/marriage all the time certainly doesn't seem to be helping my relationship with my BF.  So, count me in!  Wink

     
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    Politichick    December 31, 2016   Washington DC/SF Bay Area

    Maybe I shouldn't have started this thread. I almost slipped up today big time! S is in Vegas for work for 5 whole days. He called me this morning to let me know that he should have never gambled without me there (when I gamble with him, he always comes out ahead). He told me he already lost at least $700 last night!!!!! He is also going out tonight (not to gamble but to probably see another Vegas form of entertainment =/). Instead of yelling and telling him he could have put that money towards a ring I laughed it off saying next time he should just bring me. Sigh... He feels bad about losing that kinda of money and he said "I really could have used that money for other things." I'm hoping he meant a ring but he could also mean for his business he's starting. He still has a few more days there and I just hope he doesn't lose more money. This better not mean I have to wait longer! Grrr!!!! How can I still keep my mouth shut after THAT!

     
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    Taylor4    September 15, 2012  

    I'm definitely doing this. I was in the Christmas Challenge (although I didn't know it was going on...I had just resolved to do it on my own), but I kind of messed up a few days after NYE and had a little melt down in front of him about not knowing where the relationship was going and not being able to plan my own future was driving me crazy blah blah blah. I think I put a lot of pressure on him and he told me I wouldn't have to wait forever (ugh).

    So now I'm resolved not to say anything until the summer. First step is not to say anything until Feb 14th!

     
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    fuschiasparkles    November 4, 2011   FL

    @Politichick: Girl you had some crazy awesome will power lol....that SUUUUCKS I would have been so upset!!

    Im still truckin so far..this is really hard..especially since Im PMSing and just saw one of my friends e-pic proofs..they were soo cute and beautiful............I WANT E-PICS!! ::hits floor with fists::

     
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    nurseamanda    July 17, 2010   Tx

    @ceamoste- funny you mention that!  my (then) boyfriend (now FI)'s grandmother introduced me (the whoolllee night!) at a wedding one time as his fiance!!  i thought nothing of it, trying to stick to my own challenge myself...little did i know, she was just confused b/c she knew of the ring, but he didn't propose until 1 month later.  but, like you, i thought nothing of it at the time!

    good luck girls, you can do it!!! 

     
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    Helstrong    April 9, 2011   Overland Park, KS

    I'm in. Damn this is gonna be hard. I was totally going to make him look at dresses online tonight.  So much for that! Le sigh

     

     
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    alishaneva    May 2011   Lancaster, PA

    Alright, I'll join ... though I'm not holding out hope!!

     

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