Valentines day vent

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m sorry 🙁 

You did say $25 limit after he said he felt bad about not getting you anything so…when did he stop feeling bad? After getting his mom a gift?! lol 

If it makes you feel any better, FI didn’t get me anything. He never ever gets me flowers or, well, anything lol. I thought v-day was a sure bet that I’d get a flower or my favourite chocolate bar. Nope, “they were all picked over and they’re more expensive on valentines”. Well, he made an extra trip to get himself a nice STEAK from a particular place, but since there were no good flowers left at the grocery store after 8pm he just decided to skip everything altogether. Then he says he’d rather get them when I’m not expecting them, but he never does that either! Urghhh 

I got my own damn flowers. Don’t need no man! haha

Post # 4
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556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hell NO you’re not being ridiculous! I’d be pissed on several levels. First of all, the fact that he bought his mom a Valentine’s gift and not you. That’s uncool. I could totally understand if he didn’t buy you a gift, since you did tell him it was okay not to, but to then buy her a gift is so… wrong.

I’d really be even more pissed about the state of the house and the kids! And he’s a stay at home dad? If you’re working late and he’s a stay at home dad, I’d expect to have a home cooked meal, a clean house, and well cared for kids, everyday, not just on Valentine’s Day. But on Valentine’s Day I’d expect a special dinner at the very least – even if you did agree to no gifts.

I think you should have a serious talk with him about how uncool that all was and what your expecations are in the future.

Post # 6
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376 posts
Helper bee

@Waitingbee57:  You told him to spend the money on you and he spent it on someone else? I’d be pissed.

Post # 8
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526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’d be mad that he told you he was going to get you something and then didn’t… that’s crap. And then that he used your debit card to spend the budget you’d given him to spend on you on his mom… So not cool.

Post # 10
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526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@Waitingbee57:  Is he usually this clueless? Or was this a very surprising sort of one-off derp moment?

Post # 14
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376 posts
Helper bee

@Waitingbee57:  Blender? Hunny, it’s gift money, treat yourself! Next year join the vday swap (if they run it again) and you’ll be guranteed cards at least!

 

Post # 15
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523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think you deserve better.

Post # 16
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I was annoyed at my husband (it’s our first Vday married) since he barely acknowledged the holiday but his excuse was that we were supposed to celebrate Monday (we are since he works at a restaurant and was serving all you guys that went out last night) but I was upset that he didn’t even call while I was at work either and I couldn’t through since he apparently had it on the charger.  Basically I told him that if we just started dating, he’d never make the same mistake and that he’d at least do something.  I told him he should always consider us as “just starting to date” and never old and married.  I don’t need much, but I think we all need to at least believe we’re being thought of.  Corporate holiday or not.  Some guys need that reminder.  

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