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On the radio this morning the DJs I was listening to were first talking about a robbery at a department store and how this guy walked out with $5400 worth of engagement/wedding rings. Then the DJs started talking about how the value of all the rings would equal one really great girl, two semi-okay girls, or he could give one to each of his ho's. I know it was just suppossed to be funny, but I don't agree that value of the rings = value of the girl. What do you think?
I wish the second option had a big "BULLSH!T" next to it, instead of being polite 'n' such. : D This DJ guy is an idiot.
No way! Im sure he was joking, but seriously, what an IDIOT!
omg i thought you were kidding with the question?! in no way does the size of the ring equal the size of the value of the woman or commitment. usually i think the question is the size of the ring is how much a guy really loves you (i disagree with that)... there's a cute saying here, if you have a huge ring you must have been REALLY good.. of course who knows what they're really good at, but hey you get the gist of it...
i agree with you size of the ring is not indicative of the value of anything except the money the guy had in his pocket on the day he bought it.
Yuck! Maybe the DJ was just trying to be funny, but definitely not. I can't believe someone would actually think that way.
If that were the case, I guess I would be a "semi-okay" girl. I will have to ask my husband if that factored into his ring decision. :P
I didn't vote... I think the value is that your FI spends the most he can or is willing and that is how amazing you are! Everything is different though. You may want a small diamond or other stone that's cheaper, and he goes along with it because your OPINION is that valued and he loves you for it. Or two guys, one spends $3,000 one spends $30,000, but for each of them that's a HUGE amount because of their salary/savings... to me that's equal value put on their relationship. I just think the ring itself means so much, regardless of the $$ value!
It never ceases to amaze me how much importance people place on the rings as if they are the most important element. It's material and has no bearing whatsoever on how much a person is worth or how much someone loves you. Some people even go so far to say that you can't get married if you can't afford the rings and fail to realize or care that lots of people don't even have rings but that doesn't make them any less married or faithful. They also don't make someone faithful, contrary to popular belief. The same applies to diamonds vs other stones or no stones at all, since so many women seriously believe that if you don't have a diamond of any size (preferably as big as possible regardless if your fiance can afford it) then your fiance doesn't really love you. Sad but true that society has conditioned women to believe that and that those who don't subscribe to those closed-minded beliefs are constantly told they are delusional. Rings with magical powers are only found in Lord of the Rings which is nowhere near related to reality.
Lol, I disagree. And I think FH would disagree too. He's said, "If I had to buy you a diamond where carat weight was how much you're worth, It'd be bigger than the Hope Diamond. And I'm sorry, hun, I just don't have that kind of money." Lol
That's pretty ridonkulous...hopefully that radio station got plenty of callers who wanted to give the DJ a good talking to!
I think most people realize this is BS :) In general, I think it is kind of nice that guys generally work hard at saving for a ring because it kind of displays their commitment to making you happy etc. But working really hard and saving for months for one guy could yield $1,000 and for another guy could yield $50,000-- the guy who makes more does not love his FI more!
Plus there are lots of reasons guys might not get the most expensive ring they can afford. Maybe it isn't their FI's taste, or maybe they don't value rings, or maybe they have other important things to pay for!
...I hope he was kidding, but it does bring up an interesting point. I know alot of people still value your relationship by how big your ring is. It's not right, but people do it. My boy can't afford anything huge... he's a minister, for crying out loud, but I can say with no reservation what-so-ever that he loves me more than anyone has ever loved me before. Just because he won't be able to affort the 2+ ct ring that is oh so normal in my area at home does not mean our relationship is silly or should be discounted.
Wow, people actually voted yes on this?! Is Paris Hilton lurking the boards?? LOL
As a girl who has a very non-traditional ring, I say WTH.
Sure my husband could have spent a wad of cash, we're def not broke, but why?
A diamond certainly isn't what makes me know 'he loves me'
His home cooked meals, well that's another story.
Psh. Are you kidding? Our love is worth way more than any pressurized, inorganic piece of crap!
Disgusting. The average engagement ring costs $3500-$4000. So does this mean the typical woman is "worth" only a few grand? And that the most value a woman can ever hope to have is maybe $30,000? And that her worth is based entirely on her husband's salary? This DJ makes me sick. I would quit listening to that radio station.
I think the worth is in knowing your FI WANTED to spend that money to make that commitment. I am sure many of you will agree that FI could have given me a ring pop and I would still have said YES!
I think the DJ was probably kidding, but it's still eyeroll-inducing.
Someone ought to point out that the kind of guy who thinks he can buy a girl's affection with a shiny object (hello! We're not parrots!) is clearly lacking something very important (either mentally or, um, anatomically.)
Wow! We aren't doing the engagement ring thing at all, as I didn't want one for various reasons (mostly ethical and financial). I'm quite confident that this hasn't diminished my value as a human being (or girlfriend).
dj's are so annoying and offensive sometimes. they just like to hear their own voices.
That is the most ridiculous question I've ever heard.
Big ring or not, it's the love...all about the love! Hope diamond or plain band, it's ALL good if the love is strong!
My response is a big, "h*** no."
Love can't be measured, and even if it could it definitely can never be measured by material objects. Look at Kobe's wife, she gets a 8 carat purple rock after she gets cheated on. Pretty sure that wasn't a symbol of her worth to him. Not cheating on her shows her her worth.
I was one of the 3 people that voted yes. Obviously the ring isn't all that matters, but I do think spending a chunk of change on a ring is a huge commitment on the guy's part. It's not so much the dollar figure, but the amount of effort the guy puts into it. For some, this means finding the perfect diamond and going above and beyond to get the girl her dream ring.
I think that's aweful. It has nothing to do with the value of the girl. Just what the groom can afford.
Hmm, this poses and interesting position for me...as I was the one that put a "cap" on the ring purchase. We were just about to start our home search and since we were looking for an old colonial that we would immediately rip apart and rehab..I told him he needed to tone it down a little.
This discussion led us to sort of search together for a middle ground. After tirelessly searching for the nicest stone in a price point we were both comfortable with I wound up with a beautiful colorless 1 ct princess solitaire in a platinum setting. He still spent more than I wanted him to because of the quality of the stone, but it is a stunner when she's all clean and shined up. Anyway, point of my rambling..I was the one that stopped him from buying a larger and more expensive ring because I had visions of a granite/stainless kitchen in the works (which I have now and LOOOOOOOOVE).
I guess since I scaled back the size/price of my ring...this means I don't value myself as much as fiance values me...haha.
I think its important that the guy spends what he can afford... I don't think the bigger the rock, the more he loves you or the more you're "worth" to him.
That is bullshit, pure and simple. I think its ridiculous that some jerk on the radio would even let that come out of his mouth.
Definitely not. Personally, I wouldn't want a huge ring because I ride public transportation every day and would be nervous if I had something worth that much on my hand! I think the DJ is an idiot. Nor do I agree with the size of the ring=how much he loves her. My SO and I agreed on a ring size prior to getting engaged because we already had shared finances and I didn't want him to waste our money on something that was too big for my tastes.
Ewww...what a you-know-what fill-in-the-blank!! :(
My boyfriend (soon to be fiance) spent what i consider an arm and a leg for my ring, and it's definitely nothing HUGE...! But I know how much he loves me and he's a freakin fireman, for crying out loud...I'm no gold digger!
Gosh, ergg...this just makes me angry. I would have called them and told them they had lost a listener!
@2010 bride to be- I'm coming to cook in your kitchen!
I think that must have been a joke! That's like saying the more expensive the shoes the better the feet or something!
I have to say though, as a joke, I find it pretty funny what the DJ said. I definitely would not be offened, but it would be because I would assume he was making a satirical comment.
I don't know how much my ring cost, probably around $300-$500. My husband has enough money in the bank for a huge ring, but its just not something that either of us value enough to drop that kind of cash on. I told him I didn't want one at all, but he over-rode me on that, claiming he would be judged if he didn't get me anything. He showed his commitment enough in just asking me to spend the rest of my life with him.
Sorry, I actually thought that was pretty funny. I'll have to tell my husband that he could have gotten a whole mess of hos (gaggle of hos?) for the price of my ring.
Ugh, how ridiculous. Can't believe he would say that, that's just in poor taste.
@bvig: Will your FI cook for me too?? I eat out too much!!
And Morning Jocks' job is to say lewd things and make you laugh. Whether or not you get offended is a different story. But no way Jose! I think the price of the girl is a silly phrase at that.
Does anyone read the blog "oh hello friend" and see her engagement story? Her FI designed his own engagement ring - two to be exact! And one was a hand carved wooden ring! How jealous am I? I want someone to hand carve me a ring!
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