Post # 1
I thought about serving gourmet hamburgers at my wedding, but FI and I are both vegan, and he hated the idea.
I am feeling so guilty about serving any type of animal products at the wedding. At this point I am planning a vegan meal, down to the cake. I do not want my guests to be upset over the food, but I am so torn. On the one hand I want to please my guests, and on other hand I do not want to have any part of killing innocent animals.
What are your feelings? Would you be ok with an all vegan meal? Do you think its rude not to accomodate all guests diets?
Post # 3
I’m all for vegans, but I’ve never had a vegan meal I enjoyed. So, I probably would not eat if I went to a vegan reception/wedding.
Post # 4
@Hyperventilate: ah, this is what worries me. What did you eat? I want a meal that will be yummy.
Post # 5
This is a tricky thing. It all depends on how much you want your guests to enjoy themselves. If you REALLY want them to have a great time, and you are set on serving dinner, then non vegan would be the way to go.
You could always change your reception to a cocktail/dessert reception and serve vegan type desserts. OR – maybe make a salad bar / dinner roll type dinner – I would warn your guests ahead of time though if you went that route.
EDIT : Mind you, you may have other options if you don’t have extreme meat eaters in your family. My family consists of HEAVY meat eaters, having no meat at my reception would realllllly be a bad idea. It all depends on your family.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
You can totally plan a vegan meal that everyone will love. My brother is vegan (I am vegetarian and DH is pescatarian but the rest of the family is big on the meat), so we eat at vegan restaurants fairly often when the entire family gets together and everyone enjoys it.
The key is not too serve anything too weird. Have a variety of foods people are used to, especially ones that are naturally meat-free. It’s easy to not notice that there’s no meat in a really good veggie lasanga (just make sure your cheese substitute is awesome) or in veggie fajitas or a grilled vegetable sandwich or a veggie pot pie. Avoid as much as possible imitations because they rarely cut it, but feel free to experiment with some tofu and seitan options as long as you let the flavors of those foods shine instead of trying to make them taste just like meat. Some other good options might be tofu pad thai or veggie fried rice… things that are often vegetarian/vegan anyway. DH and I regularly make a meal and then realize that it’s vegan. We call those meals “accidentally vegan.”
ETA: it is NOT rude to not serve meat. You have ethical concerns… this goes beyond foor preference for you and your FI. Would anyone ask a Hindu to serve beef? or an Orthodox Jew to serve pork or shellfish? or a Hare Krishna to serve meat? Of course not.
re: cake since it comes up in a post below me
I make vegan cupcakes and cookies all the time and I don’t tell people they are vegan. They get consumed in mass quantities. So you can definitely get a perfectly “normal” cake and have it be vegan. You just need a baker who know what he/she is doing and has done it many times before.
Okay one last thing… as for an easily available and actually delicious meat replacement protein option, Field Roast products are amazing. It makes me so sad that people judge vegetarian food on grocery store garden burgers and Tofurkey.
Post # 7
I have had delicious vegetarian meals, but vegan is a bit extreme in my opinion. At least with vegetarian food, you could have a normal cake and you could serve an entree like eggplant parmesan or some kind of pasta dish that people would enjoy. Would you consider vegetarian as a compromise?
Post # 8
you could do a pasta dish! Everybody likes pasta.
FH and I struggled with this same issue as we are both vegetarians. Ultimately, we decided to seerve fish and chicken as well. We are forking over the extra cost to get locally raised free range/wild caught stuff though, as I dont object to other people eating meat that is raised in ethical conditions
We are doing mediterranean themed food and our veggie/vegan dish will be herbed grilled vegetable kabobs with a rice dish for a side…I think meat eaters might enjoy that as well. just a thought
Post # 9
@trixiesrockets: FH and I are both vegan and decided on a vegan wedding. Our biggest concern is that I don’t want to risk meat contamination on our wedding day.
We were concerned about not offering a delicious meal to all of our guests, which lead us to pick our final venue- they can guarantee fabulous vegan food.
What are you offering as food? How many of your guests don’t know your vegan?
Post # 10
Do vegetarian.. or else I am sure plenty of guests will be dissatisfied. Vegetrian is borderline IMO. Free range eggs etc. are fine, no?
Post # 11
@trixiesrockets: I had a coworker who was a vegan, she and I became really great friends and we carpooled together. I’d commonly go to her house for lunch, dinner, whatever.
I’ve had stir fry type things (Kind of like a chow mein), I’ve had tofu and fo-furkey/fo-hamburgers. The tofu tastes like what I imagine satan’s scrotum to taste like, but I just really don’t like tofu. I’ve had sweet tofu, I’ve had the firm tofu and the regular out-of-the-store tofu… haven’t found one I liked. The to-furkey was… well, alright, I guess. It tasted a bit like semi-seasoned cardboard. I was forced to eat the veggie burgers at my grandmother’s house because that’s all she stocked due to health issues. If I had to eat them, I suppose they’re not terrible, but I would never choose to eat one.
I’m cool with all veggies, but vegetables, despite my love for them, get incredibly boring. A splash of olive oil helps but I never really feel satisfied with vegetables. My husband and I love stir fry’s and steamed veggies, and sometimes that’s all we’ll have for dinner, but we’re both pretty hungry by the time we go to bed.
Post # 12
Go for it. It may taste better than the typical wedding fare of chicken or steak. (Has anybody ever honestly had a good piece of meat at a wedding anyway?)
Post # 13
@mrsSonthebeach: Thanks, that is helpful. I was considering a pasta dish. This wedding planning is no joke!
Post # 14
@mrsSonthebeach: Thank you!!!! haha I am a people pleaser at heart so it’s easy to forget about what I really want.
Also, I looooove vegan cupcakes! IMO they taste the same.
Post # 15
@Bichon Frise: A pasta dish is a great idea!
Post # 16
I would take a carnivore or two to the tasting if possible.
its not impossible to feed meat-eaters a vegan meal they’ll enjoy, but it is more difficult. You’ll likely be introducing some unfamiliar ingredients and cooking techniques, and it might be helpful to have feedback from someone whose tastes more accurately reflects that of your guests.