Post # 1
im looking for opinions on this. We are more than likely going to have a local wedding (and by local I mean that in terms of my bridal party, FI and I live out of state) anyway, I’ve been looking at doing a weekend in Vegas for my bachelorette party and because I know cost can add up, I was thinking of covering the hotel (and my own plane ticket) for all of us for both nights And have them buy their own flights. My question is, because it is my idea and not a surprise situation, do I need to cover their plane tickets as well or will the hotel cost be sufficient. What wouldnuou expect as a BM in this situation. I want to make it as easy on my girls as in can. Any input is greatly appreciated!
I also attached a poll as well!
Post # 2
If it’s your idea, you should pay. Not cool to invite people to A party that costs a couple hundred dollars just to get there, and ladies are very reluctant to decline a bachelorette invite because they don’t want to disappoint the bride.
Post # 3
I wouldnt expect my flight to be covered. The hotel is pretty generous. I would be prepared for nos if people can’t afford it, still. Plane tickets can still put a top on budgets.
Post # 4
you covering the hotel is more than enough! Instead of phrasing it as a Bachelorette, say you were thinking of planning a girls weekend in vegas, and invite the girls. That way it’s more of a vacation for the others girls than a ‘celebrate me’ trip.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
If you really want people to come, cover it. Otherwise, be prepared for a lot of “no”s (unless your BMs are rich) AND don’t be resentful, petty, whiny, or passive-aggressive towards people who can’t come. (A lot of brides seem to fall short on this latter point.) Vegas is a grand place and perfect for a bachelorette, but expecting people to fork over the cash to fly out of state AND cover all the drinks/meals/shows/stripper tipping/etc that will be required is a lot to ask of people.
Post # 6
SkinnyLatte17: very generous of you to cover both. You certainly don’t need to, as I think it’s common knowledge that if you travel, hotels and airfare have a cost associated with them.
just make sure you work out a budget ahead of time!
Post # 7
I think if it’s your choice to have an expensive out of town bachelorette, you should pay.
Post # 8
Thanks ladies! I am keeping in mind food costs as well. I’m trying to find a hotel package that maybe does complimentary lunch or something to that affect and I’ve found a few. and I’m looking in Vegas off season as well in hopes that flights will be a bit cheaper and it looks like that’s the case so far for this year anyway.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
If you can easily afford it, then why not! If you can’t (like most of us), I would tell everyone you 100% understand it’s a pricey suggestion and you totally understand if they can’t make it. And MEAN IT – don’t hold a grudge, even subconscious, against those who can’t afford to come.
Post # 10
Hmm, have you startd discussing what you want to do with your friends? What’s the norm in your group? I’m having a destination wedding out of the country, and my girlfriends insisted on throwing me a Vegas bachelorette. I had stated that I didn’t care what we did and felt bad about all the costs they were going to have. I’m also not having a formal bridal party, so whatever they wanted was fine. One of my good friends took it upon herself to plan and get everyone on board. I haven’t paid for a thing. That’s also the norm in our group though – we tend to do big weekends away, etc.
I think it beyond generous to pay for the hotel, but if you can and want to why not. I think knowing your group in the most important thing. Some posts on here read like people are aghast at weekend bach’s.
Post # 11
I would talk to your BMs first and see if this trip is even an option for them. If it is then I think you are already being very generous by paying for their hotel room. If I agreed to a trip like this I would not expect this and would be thrilled.
Post # 12
I would never expect the bride to pay my flight cost, or really even hotel although that is a great gesture and will definitely help in who can go.
But before you get into any plans make sure this is even an option for them and something they are willing and able to do.
Post # 13
MrsBeck: Yes, this. Talk to them first and see if they’re even on board. I hate Vegas.
Post # 14
Are all the ladies single? I was recently invited on a party bus vegas weekend for my friends birthday. She knows I have a baby. Try to consider everyone’s situation. It’s not always about money. Also, yes if you are planning it you should pay. I agree that it’s not an extragent trip but it is to much to ask of others.
Post # 15
I organized a BP for a friend of mine. She had 11 friends attend. Everyone paid their share- no big deal.