(Closed) Vegas wedding, inviting a couple with 8 kids, how to handle that one?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

WOAH!!! 8 KIDS?  would they be willing to pay for all of their kids to travel to Vegas and pay for a hotel as well?  they may not even want their kids to go anyway.  Have they said all the kids are definitely coming?

I guess one option is to say that you want your friends to enjoy the reception/mini-vacation as much as they can, without worrying about keeping an eye on their kids so maybe they could bring along an relative/friend to watch them for those hours so that the parents can take a break and enjoy themselves (because if they’re paying for 10 people to get to Vegas, they may as well pay for 11).  Or just invite the eldest two or something, because a 5 year old is really not going to appreciate LV and personally I wouldn’t want to take little kids there anyway!  Or, just have them leave all the kids at home for a couple of days – surely they want some time to work on a 9th child? Wink

or maybe look into if any hotels offer childcare for a few hours?  it probably won’t cost any more than what you’d have to pay for the kids to be at the reception!  

good luck!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

I guess you have two choices in this case. Invite them or not. I wouldn’t volunteer to watch somebody’s eight kids, so can you imagine how many of their family and friends would do it for them ? It will be a pretty big expense for them to bring them OR leave them home, so they may just opt out of the whole thing.  If they bring them along, of course they should be invited and included.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

You either make the wedding a child-free affair or you allow them to bring their kids. If you’re allowing others to bring children you’re kinda stuck (unless you skip inviting the couple altogether). If you’re going for an adult only wedding, I would think that if they had kids as old as 13 they could leave them in their hotel room for a couple of hours and check in periodically. If they’re unwilling, you can also suggest hiring a sitter for a few hours and recommend one to them.

Post # 6
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

What’s your room size, could you even add 8 more?  First off, I would want to even know if she would even want to bring 8 kids. Does she know about your VR and the fact it’s in Vegas?

Post # 7
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5273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yep, if you are inviting children, you have to invite their children as well.

But, honestly, do you really think they would pay to bring 8 kids?! I would think about this one, because if you don’t think they would bring them, then invite them. But if think its a high probability then I wouldn’t.

It’s a gamble! Wink

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

8 kids.  If you don’t invite the kids and the parents do find someone to watch them… they might never go back!  Maybe they will want to leave their kids home.

Post # 9
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Suggest they stay at circus circus and use their sitter services.  If they are making a family vacation and just including your wedding as an activity its not your problem- imo.  If they are coming just for your wedding- I bet they leave the kids at home. I sure would.

Post # 10
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11327 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Agree with pp. If you invite any kids, you have to invite theirs. It sucks that they have 8 kids, but on the other hand… if 4 other couples had 2 kids each you prob wouldn’t think much of it right? If I were you I’d prob just make the whole even child free to save the trouble/cost. 

Post # 11
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I agree with everyone else. You either have to decide wether it’s an adult only party or not. I personally would not bring my children to Vegas EVER, but other people feel differently.

Post # 12
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937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If I had 8 kids, I wouldn’t leave my house. Ever. 🙂

 

Post # 13
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28 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would make the wedding or nieces or nephews and then you may still have to put an age limit on it.  I really dont want any kids under six at my wedding.  My sister is leaving hers with a sitter for the ceremony and then bringing them to the reception they are under 5 years old. The out of town brother is bringing his kids the are infant to 10 years old. What can you do when its your FI out of town family coming.  So they are bringing their kids but they are the only ones for the formal ceremony.

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