Post # 1
So I have a couple questions.
1st: Our (destination) Vegas wedding is in June so we are sending out STDs this week. We have a webpage that has an RSVP section…It is password protected for now and will only be revealed on (maybe) the STDs.
I was considering, sice it isn’t TOO terribly far out and it IS 2012 (not 1812) asking for a pre-rsvp… but, just web page style. Rude? Don’t? Just wait until we send the invites?
2nd: Our venue is limited on size and seating and we want to let people know, inadvanced, not to bring their entire family. Do I put this on the STDs so people don’t buy plane tickets for their whole brood?I was thinking of saying something like:
Due to the limited seating and size of the venue, only those Children in the wedding party will be attending the ceremony and dinner reception. Thank you for your understanding…
But I also want to state that it is only for the recipient of the invite, plus 1 if single…How in the world?
Post # 3
You can mention on the website that it’s adult only but chances are people are going to want to bring their kids anyway. I live in Vegas but for most of our guests this will be a destination wedding. Even though our ceremony and reception are adult only I know many are planning on making a family vacation out of it and bringing children on the trip anyway. I would just make a point to write the names of those invited on the envelope and be prepared to field questions about children being invited. I wouldn’t worry about the +1 part until the invites go out.
I think the pre-RSVP thing is kind of weird and pointless. I would just send out the invites a little earlier if you want RSVP counts early.
Post # 4
What if some people want to make it a family vacation? I’d say just put the names of the people you’re inviting on the invite, and if they RSVP with more, call them and explain that due to space, you can’t have their children at the wedding. I don’t think it’s a great idea for a destination wedding to tell people they cannot bring their children along for a vacation. Some people find it hard enough to find a sitter for an evening, forget finding a sitter for a weekend/long weekend/week!
Post # 5
@futuremrste: I don’t care if people bring their kids along on the trip, but I do care that I have seleted a venue that fits 50 and really only want 40 people there. FOr each person that brings a kid to the ceremony and reception – that is one less aunt or uncle that can attend.
Post # 6
If people mostly already know when your wedding will be, and you can spread your web site by word of mouth, why not just send invites early, 10-12 weeks out? STDs aren’t always necessary.
As for the kids, it is all right to not invite them, just be sure to indicate the names of those invited on the invitations – Mr. and Mrs. John Smith rather than the Smith family. If people RSVP with additional guests, just call and clarify that you cannot accommodate the children or extras.
Post # 7
@futuremrsfitz18: Good point, but I’ve got the STDs right here…And they are so cute and…LOL
The STDs are postcards so I was going to add the label to the back of the STD that has the wording…
Post # 8
I personally think a pre-rsvp is rude. A lot of guests circumstance can change between receiving a STD and actually getiing the invite and/or the offical RSVP date. Some one who may not be in the best financial situation at the time of your pre-rsvp might have a change of fortune and because of your pre-rsvp will have to miss the wedding!
I also miss the reason why you would even want pre-rsvp’s?