Post # 1
I really, really, really want my wedding to be vegetarian. My FI is a meat lover, although he sometimes says he wants to go veg for the health benefits. We’ve been together for 4 years, and it has not been an issue until lately. I cook for both of us, and usually cook separate meals.
We’re having a (non-wedding related) BBQ in a couple of days. I proposed a vegetarian menu, and some of our friends made a couple of jokes. FI insisted there should be meat, and I have to admit I caved pretty quickly. People were like, “There has to be meat at a BBQ.”
I’m wondering if there’s going to be a similar attitude toward our wedding reception. As a non-vegetarian wedding guest (or a guest at a party of any kind) would you put up a fuss if the food was vegetarian?
Post # 3
if more than half the guests were vegetarian, fine.
would you consider vegetarian option + meat option?
Post # 4
Um…I would be disappointed for a no meat BBQ, but a vegetarian wedding= no disappointment. I think some really traditional meat and potato people might notice, but good food is good food. But if your fiance wants to serve meat, I would consider offering both types of dishes.
Post # 5
Why do you want to have an all veggie wedding?
I think I may be a little disappointed with a veggie wedding only because I don’t eat cheese and most vegetarian options have quite a bit of cheese in them!
Would you be willing to compromise with two main options a veggie and a meat?
Post # 6
I’m also vegetarian, and my FH is not. He doesn’t eat meat that often because it’s easier for us, but he does enjoy meals with meat!
With that said, I’m against an all-vegetarian wedding. I know of only five of our guests (including myself) that are vegetarians. Most meat eaters enjoy eating meat, and I don’t see a point in forcing over 95% of our guests and my FH to “be” vegetarians for our wedding. So, we’re having a meat option and a vegetarian option. There is no difference in price for the meat and veggie options… and people will be happier with the meat option!
Post # 7
It’s not something I would have done, even if I were a vegetarian only because I know my family is full of picky eaters– meat eaters lol My brothers will eat almost no veggies at all! I would hate for my family to leave hungry because they don’t like what’s being served. Granted you can’t please everyone, but for me, vegetarian only would disappoint the majority. Is there something you can compromise on? If you’re having a cocktail hour or something, could that be all veggetarian? People would be less likely to notice and then you can offer just a meat option and vegetarian maybe and people can pick as they see fit. Good luck!
Post # 8
I eat a mainly vegetarian diet. I was vegan for awhile but I couldn’t seem to get all of my minerals. Iron pills do not work for me; I get sick. So I caved and I eat meat every couple of months or when I begin to get anemia symptoms.
My problem with meat is that many Americans overconsume it. That is damaging our whole world and the world’s ecosystem. Rainforests are burned down to make room for low-grade grazing areas. I have travelled to the rainforest and I saw the devestation. The developing nations cannot afford to leave the rainforests alone. Also, because there is a demand for meat and animal products, farmers add hormones to keep up with that demand. That is bad for us to ingest!
Yet, if we lived like people in the 50’s, we would eat red meat maybe twice a week and at celebrations. That’s how people once did it. Then we wouldn’t need steroids, antibiotics, and hormones to keep up with demand. We wouldn’t need to destroy the rainforest to make room for grazing land. We wouldn’t need to put chickens and other animals in horrible conditions to keep up with demand. It’s simple economics.
That being said, what are your reasons for not eating meat? Think hard about it. You still cook your fiance meat, so you can’t be so militant in your beliefs. I personally think that if more people switched to a vegetarian diet even some of the time, it would make the world a better place. It could start at your wedding.
Or you can make your wedding a time for a natural celebration and eat the fatted calf.
I went to an Armenian wedding and the bride was vegetarian. On each table was a ton of mediterranean vegetarian cuisine. We were full before they started passing out the meat! We didn’t even need it!
If you want to comprimise, do one animal one veggie. It will be great no matter what you choose.
I am using your question to state my beliefs. Thanks for reading this.
Post # 9
I have been a pisco-vegetarian for many years, so I guess that my opinion isn’t really what you’re looking for, but I’ll offer it anyway. I can understand that people think it odd to have a meat-free BBQ. A wedding reception, however, probably wouldn’t be that big of a deal, as long as you serve things that are what I like to call “regular vegetarian.” In other words, tofurky may not go over well, but a pasta dish probably wouldn’t be noticed because many carnivores regularly eat vegetarian pasta. If both you and you FH want a vegetarian menu, go for it.
Post # 10
I think that as long as you don’t make a big deal about it, people won’t even notice. I mean, don’t serve mock chicken or veggie burgers, just do a veggie pasta dish, or a vegetable napoleon, etc. There are loads of classy dishes that don’t have meat, and as long as you don’t point it out, it’s possible people won’t care.
Post # 11
I’m a carnivore, but the best wedding food I’ve had (besides ours, hee hee!) was an all-vegetarian reception at a vegetarian restaurant in San Francisco. As long as the food is yummy and hearty (i.e. not just a mixed plate of raw veggies), I think people will probably be fine with it. A few may grumble, but if the food is good enough, they’ll get over it and chow down. My husband didn’t even notice our friends’ reception was all vegetarian!
BBQs are a bit of a different thing than a dinner at a wedding reception, I think. When I think of a BBQ, my mind immediately goes to burgers and hot dogs and steak, and to be honest, I’d be a bit disappointed if I showed up to a BBQ hungry for a burger and found out it was all-vegetarian instead. I’ve tried a few veggie burgers and haven’t liked them, and while I do love grilled veggies, they don’t quite satisfy my burger cravings. I wouldn’t be disappointed to show up to “a dinner” and find out it was vegetarian, but a vegetarian BBQ probably would throw me a bit.
Post # 12
i always joke that im weary of any person who cant appreciate a good piece of meat, but i just say that to be silly. in reality I don’t think I’d care if it was a veg wedding. All that matters is that if you are serving a dinner, be sure to ahve them substantially portioned and filling.
Post # 13
I’m definitely a meat-eater and it’s not a BBQ without burgers! To be honest, I don’t eat many full meals besides breakfast that have absolutely no meat. However, a wedding with pasta or something else where we usually don’t miss the meat sounds great to me. If you’ve got your heart set on a veggie wedding, I think that’s a good way to please both crowds.
Post # 14
The reason I want a vegetarian wedding is primarily because I feel *really* strongly about not killing animals.
I try not to be judgmental about what other people eat. Like I said, I cook meat for FI. I’m having more and more of a problem with it as time wears on, though. Truthfully, I don’t want to cook meat anymore, and I don’t want to serve it in my home.
Sometimes it just comes down to laziness. It is *really* hard to consistently cook vegetarian meals that please a die-hard meat lover. Trust me, I’ve been trying for years. FI loves some veggie things, hates others. Sometimes wants to be vegetarian, sometimes wants a big steak.
The other problem is that I want people to enjoy our wedding. I’m pretty sure our venue’s meat/seafood options beat the vegetarian options hands down. Our reception will be at a hotel in Honolulu, and there are so many gorgeous Hawaiian seafood dishes that I kind of hate for people to miss out on. Even if I don’t want to eat them myself.
Basically it’s a toss-up between my beliefs vs. better food and the comfort level of the guests. Sigh…
Post # 15
So why don’t you and your fiance cook together? Like he cooks his meat for dinners that include it? I don’t think its fair to now ask him to stop eating meat in your home and around you since you didn’t stand up against it before, but I think that he could at least cook it himself. And get him to help you find new recipes to try. I know when we tried to eat vegetarian style, it was hard to diversify our meals and still enjoy them.
Do most of the people around you know about your beliefs? If your friends and family know your objections, then I think they could muster one vegetarian meal. Its not like this will be their only meal in Honolulu and they can enjoy the local cuisine on their own time right?
Post # 16
I admit, I would not be thrilled to discover only vegetarian options would be available, especially if said options were not super tasty. My FI hates a lot of vegetables. If we were at a vegetarian wedding, we’d probably leave starving. I could see us at the hotel bar with appetizers.